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RE: submission = weak - 5/19/2007 4:04:13 AM

cjenny

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

When you think about it, submission itself is a weakness kinda sorta.....the nature of submission is to meld, adapt, surrender..and so through that understanding you could see it as a weakness.

The weakness I'm talking about is kinda like a chemical equation, when you mix something with an influence that will overpower it, it changes and adapts and surrenders to whatever the dominant chemical was.

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I have to disagree with the first part. IMO being able to meld, adapt and surrender takes creativity and a knowing of self. I don't see that as weak in any way, on the contrary it often takes effort to adapt or sublimate one's own desires.

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RE: submission = weak - 5/19/2007 4:38:52 AM

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For me i'm at my weakest when i'm left to my own devices. I get snotty, arrogant, loud, obnoxious, needy, whiney, annoying, argumentitive.......The list goes on and i'm sure those reading get the idea LOL.

Submitting strengthens me, i'm polite to people in public, my sense of humor is better, i dont fly off the handle at every little thing and it lets my true self shine. I'm a strong, beautiful, unconditionally loving woman and submitting let's the world know this.

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RE: submission = weak - 5/19/2007 9:34:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: slaveaurora

I am lacking the self-discipline, and just can't get it back. <snip> Now that school is done, my self-discipline has gone out the window. <snip> I just don't care anymore, and I have a "I don't want to" attitude. <snip> I think, no, I know, that is why I feel weak. I don't have what it takes anymore.

Perhaps it is less that you don't have it than it is that you don't want it. There is no shame in not wanting to be a slave any more, not wanting to submit any more. Be kind to yourself. Take time off without guilt. Maybe you will get back to it, maybe you won't. If you don't ... it isn't the end of the world, you will still be breathing, and hopefully you will be happy. That's the cool thing about choice - if you're not happy, you get to make other choices until you are.

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RE: submission = weak - 5/19/2007 10:59:28 AM

welshwmn3

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ORIGINAL: slaveaurora

Someone made a comment in another thread about feeling weak when they submit.

Do you see submission as a weakness?

I often do, and feel that if I need control, then I must be weak.    So consequently, I feel "less than" someone who doesn't need control.

Thoughts?

For me, it's not about strength or weakness. It's about being true to who I am.

When I submit to my Sirs, I'm doing what is in my nature. I feel strong because I'm being true to myself, but the act of submission itself (to me) isn't in itself strong or weak.

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