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RE: Know me! - 5/20/2007 11:08:29 PM

KeirasSecret

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Do you think as a submissive we all are sometimes attention hounds?

I don’t believe it so much a need for attention, for me, as it is a need to trust someone that much.

Interestingly, since I’ve been with Sir, I no longer feel like I would need to be able to “crawl inside” the person I’m with, in order to feel protected, and I spend far less time with him then I have any other person I’ve had a relationship with.

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Is this freeing or frightening?

freeing

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RE: Know me! - 5/21/2007 5:20:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

Has anyone ever wondered sometimes ,if at first, the draw to this in WIITWD was the need for someone to actually delve deep into you ,to know you ,to watch you ,to in effect pay attention?..Do you think as a submissive we all are sometimes attention hounds? That we crave the knowledge that someone out there cares enough to watch your responses to any given thing, to see what makes you tick, and to know more than just the surface stuff..to actually want to get as deep as they can to the core of you? And how far do you let them truly in? Is this freeing or frightening?.........Tempting

I think it varies. Look at the responses here....how varied they are. You have some that want to be known and delved into all the way and some that find it difficult to let go of themselves to that extent.

Frightening? For some, yes it certainly seems to be. Freeing? For some, it certainly is. When the dominant partner does not use what he has found to turn her inside out into the exact opposite of what she wants to be, to turn her into an insecure and abandoned person who no longer trusts anyone enough to get inside that way again, it can be devastating.

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RE: Know me! - 5/21/2007 5:41:54 PM

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For me, i didn't even think the being known was part of wiitwd, but i did seek acceptance of this weird person i kept hidden. That someone actually knew and understood my needs before i knew them myself was pretty addictive. i haven't yet had the kind of relationship where i am really known other than for the sensations part of it. i just haven't found anyone i can trust enough or really gives a crap about who i am. Yet there is immense satisfaction, because the one person who truely gives a crap about me (me) has discovered herself so much more completely and that, my friends is worth it all.

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