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CreativeDominant -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/21/2007 5:33:41 PM)

I've never had a problem with nicknames unless when used inappropriately...to try and defer a reprimand, to try and "lighten up" a really serious moment, or in a disrespectful manner because they're "tired of all the lecturing"....e.g....yeah, yeah, yeah MasterTalksForever...is this going to be done soon?  Those times are not good times for doing so.  Using a pet name reserved for the two of us out in public in a BDSM D/s crowd also seems to be pushing it a bit.

My first submissive called me Master Bubble Buns when she was feeling playful as my buns are rather rounded for a guy....~shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...don't tell anyone~.  But she would have never done so when she was being reprimanded.  Then it was Sir or Master.



DesertRat -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/21/2007 5:43:15 PM)

~fr~

I've been called a senile old coot...I think...what were we talking about?



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/21/2007 6:09:20 PM)

saying Dr *Daddy's last name* doesn't seem foreign to me since i call His office sometimes to leave He a message however with my secondary, i either address him by his first name or "Sir"



lovewithoutfear -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/21/2007 9:39:50 PM)

--fast reply--
I don't know whether this is a "funny" name, but some time ago I began referring to Sir as "Himself" to others of our acquaintance.  Heh. I meant it as kind of a tease but it stuck and he likes it. 

Smiles
JY



Rayne58 -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/22/2007 4:11:26 AM)

We have a standing joke. I will call Him "Lord and Master, Grand Poobah, best Master in the whole world" and He will cock His head, smile and wait for me to say "Sir" [;)][:D]

Most other times it's pet names like hon, sweetheart, darl.....I rarely call Him by His name. During play it's always Master, or Sir. We share the same quirky sense of humour. In fact He told me I am the first woman He's been in a relationship with that has one [:)]



JasonF -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/22/2007 6:45:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

Today I called him Sir Unibrow because he wouldn't let me pluck his eyebrows.  (What's up with that?)


You neglect to mention that I pinched you when you said it, too :P (and who the hell wants their hair pulled out? Ouch! I use a razor. No pain. Lots of gain)





Valyraen -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/22/2007 7:13:58 PM)

Y'know, I tweeze areas that're a great deal more sensitive than the brow area, and it only hurts the first time or two that you do it. A little bit of booze helps - not enough to make you blurry, but just enough to take the edge off your pain receptors. Hell, if women can put up with waxing their legs (which you'll NEVER catch me doing - OW!), I figure I can put up with plucking a few hairs around my areolae.



Rayne58 -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/22/2007 8:28:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Valyraen

Y'know, I tweeze areas that're a great deal more sensitive than the brow area, and it only hurts the first time or two that you do it. A little bit of booze helps - not enough to make you blurry, but just enough to take the edge off your pain receptors. Hell, if women can put up with waxing their legs (which you'll NEVER catch me doing - OW!), I figure I can put up with plucking a few hairs around my areolae.


Some of us don't just wax our legs.......[sm=hewah.gif][sm=lol.gif]



Valyraen -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/23/2007 3:26:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Rayne58

Some of us don't just wax our legs.......[sm=hewah.gif][sm=lol.gif]


That thought should make me wince in sympathy pain... but it doesn't. After the first time I nicked myself with a razor shaving downstairs, I can completely understand why some folks prefer wax. Personally, since I work manual labor and get sweaty and sticky, shaving/waxing that portion of my anatomy isn't the way to go; I don't particularly enjoy the sound of flesh peeling from vinyl whenever I move.



Poldark -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/23/2007 4:37:14 AM)

I have no problem with my sub calling me cute names, however, should she try that at the wrong time it could easily be seen as edge play :)



losttreasure -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/23/2007 4:47:39 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

I have a very teasing nature.Sometimes when playful I tend to call people cutesy names as a way of showing affection.With that being said, what say you Dominants? Would you find in disrespectful to say being called... umm..Pookie Butt? or Kissy Pot Pie?Or would you accept it in the manner for which it was delivered? Would you laugh with delight? Or be offended and punish?...Tempting


Cutsie?  Not really, but I suppose "cutsie" is in the eye of the beholder. 

I do use terms of endearment such as sweetheart and dear, but about as "cutsie" as I get is referring to FirmhandKY as "my darling dom".   I daresay that, were I to refer to him as "Pookie Butt", it would most likely elicit laughter... but so might my calling him "Master".  It would all depend upon timing and delivery, of course.  [;)]

Seriously, I can't fathom anything I might call him with affection provoking punishment.  If a term truly offended him, he would simply let me know and I wouldn't use it again.

Then again, I've never tried calling him "sugarbritches".   I'll let you know how that works out.  [:D]



Elorin -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/23/2007 6:42:15 AM)

Tempting
If a submissive called me something that I did not like, I would make it clear I expected them not to address me that way in the future.

I have a sense of humor and most nicknames or pet names would be fine with me. I would only punish if a sub continued to use a name they had been told not to use.

~E



Indemnis -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/23/2007 6:55:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Valyraen

Hell, if women can put up with waxing their legs (which you'll NEVER catch me doing - OW!), I figure I can put up with plucking a few hairs around my areolae.


Good Goddess, thank you VERY much for THOSE images. 

My eyes... my eyes!!



Areflectionofyou -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/24/2007 4:48:50 AM)

::gulp::   i call Master a few cutsie names .mostly when the kids are around or we are being silly. He laughs and hugs me. He is Masterlovemuffin.



Valyraen -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/24/2007 2:34:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

Good Goddess, thank you VERY much for THOSE images. 

My eyes... my eyes!!


Aww, and I wasn't even trying...



Level -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/24/2007 4:13:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

I have a very teasing nature.Sometimes when playful I tend to call people cutesy names as a way of showing affection.With that being said, what say you Dominants? Would you find in disrespectful to say being called... umm..Pookie Butt? or Kissy Pot Pie?Or would you accept it in the manner for which it was delivered? Would you laugh with delight? Or be offended and punish?...Tempting


It's only disrespectful, in my opinion, if the name is used after being told not to. "Pookie butt"..... [:D]



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/24/2007 7:38:46 PM)

~feeling daring~ Dear Level doodle snork..:0)..I would never use cutsie nom de plume on one who has said they find it distasteful, unless of course I was in an  extreme masochistic state of mind [8D]..Tempting



moki1984 -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/25/2007 2:27:50 PM)

kissy pot pie? hahahahaha how cute



mp072004 -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/25/2007 6:05:28 PM)

I don't like people to use nicknames for me. I think it's a matter of personal taste rather than respect. Now, if I've asked you to stop calling me some name of your own devising, it is respectful and courteous to obey, not because I identify as a dominant or a sadist, but because it's good manners to call people by the names (note: names, not unearned titles) that they give you. I do think it's offensive if you're not intimate with me and you assume the authority to give me a name other than what I've used to introduce myself--or, for that matter, if you assign me a title I haven't assigned myself.

Unless, of course, the name someone gives you is Mistress Domly Domette, Queen of Toppy Topical Goodness, in which case I fully support the alternate title of Pookie Pot Pie.




TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Goofy names, Respectful? Disrespectful? (5/25/2007 7:15:35 PM)

Ahh..but you see, I was referring to when a more intimate dynamic has been formed. Not in a place of a new introduction or even in a gathering of others, but in a more private setting....Tempting



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