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chiaThePet -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/23/2007 12:09:36 AM)
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MzMia said,
We were exchanging emails and he sent a long one about how he wanted to serve me, what he had to offer, etc.
I told him in a nice way, that I was not interested in a casual relationship.
I did not bother to tell him, I WAS interested in him because I wanted to see what he would say.
He will never know that I was really interested in at least getting to know him.
Dearest MzMia,
Did the content of this boy's emails, including the long one wherein he expressed
his desire to serve You, fall solely within the bounds of a casual relationship?
Not being privy to the exchange of conversation between the two of you,
i am left only with what You have shared here, concentrating not on the
aftermath per say, as it included emotions on both your parts, expected of
either side given the circumstance. Your statement that he wished to serve
You, coupled with his presentation of offered abilities, stricks me as someone
whom is seeking more than a casual relationship. Again, not being privy to the
entire exchange, i am left with this flow of thought based on the statements
presented alone. If this boy was advancing with a genuine desire to establish
a D/s relationship with You, why would You tell him You were not interested,
if in fact You were at least interested in getting to know him? Did previous
exchange include serious mention of possibility of service, or was it strictly
a casual banter? This boy's offering to You speaks that perhaps the discussion
had advanced beyond simple conversation, at least where he was concerned.
Did You have any notion in Your exchange with him that he was heading in this
direction? If so, was the possibility of such addressed by You, whether to
advance or curtail his intentions of service. i am not speaking of Your kind
admittance to him that You did not wish to pursue a casual relationship,
because to me, it would seem the conversation had advanced beyond such.
Did You have forethought and knowledge that he wished to extend the
exchange into an area of serious application, and if so, why would You
discard his desire as simple casual intent, and amplify such with the
revelation of Your disinterest? Simply to see what he would say? This
boy appears to have had reason to pursue exploring a surrender of
service to You, and You disregarded Your own desire and interest in
getting to at least know him, simply to hold audience to his reaction.
This greatly disappoints me as a submissive, causing me to pause in
my offer of vulnerability to Those whom i seek to uplift and exalt. Is such
just part and parcel of the litmus test to gage the emotions of submissives?
Are we from beginning to end simply gifted mistrust and maze, viewed
as unworthy of honest intent, that we might bleed emotions for the audience?
That they will stand and applaud when even angels end up falling. Pity indeed.
With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)
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