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MsKatHouston -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:00:32 AM)

When a submissive of mine interacts with people he does reflect on me.  Likewise I reflect on him.  On the INternet, there are occasions where a joke or offhanded remark can be taken offensively even if it not the intent.  So I can certainly see where this can occur.  However, it is also glaringly obvious when someone is being snippy and mean just to do so.

I'm all for having a bit of light hearted fun and even talking smack with those with whom you are comfortable.  But yes, if everyone tried to be a little more pleasant when discussing topics it would be nicer.  People will tend to listen and respect your views even if they don't necessarily agree with them.  In a perfect world...



kc692 -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:27:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JustAslave2007

Dear Goddess Dolly,

After glancing at your avatar, it occurs to me that any healthy sexually well adjusted male would immediately want to see and learn more  about you.    I clicked on the link and I can assure you it was a pleasure to view your lovely photograph and I would be honored to learn more about the wonderful person that you obviously seem to be.   The  doggie is either a liar, blind or  has issues   with his self-esteem and  manhood.  I guarnantee that 99% of men would immediately want more and more and more.  It is a mystery to me how any submissive male would not desire to serve a Mistress as beautiful, alluring and intelligent as you.   I suppose it's easier to engage in generic insults and idiotic banter than it is to devote oneself and learn the proper way to serve a Dommina.  It seems likely that his rude, uncalled for attack toward you stems from repressed feelings of inadequcy and his inability to interact on a meaningful level with strong, confident, creative beautiful Women.  If I were you I would pay him no heed, you've graced him with more attention that he will ever deserve.  Please don't get the impression that all male slaves are of his ilk.  I find it profoundly frustrating that rude men who behave in such a juvenile manner as he has does can claim to represent themselves as submissives when clearly they have no understanding of what it means to show proper respect towards Women.   

                            Just my thoughts,
                             Just a slave


Not to jump in the fire here, but where is the vomit emoticon when you need it?? Either you are sucking up for a meet, or you two already know each other. Jeeez.....

for the record(and I stopped reading at the post I am quoting, so I don't know if this has been addressed) everyone has different opinions.  I will say personally that I hold joyinslavery in very high regard.  He has never sucked up to the female dominants on here, and I have also never seen him turn as juvenile first as I have seen a certain "mistress" on here in this thread in respect with his posts.  I hope you have more control over submissives than you seem to have over your mouth.  Have a wonderful day, it is gorgeous outside...

Ahhh there is that button!!!![:'(]



Lordandmaster -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:28:31 AM)

So if I say I like yer bewbs I get a vomit icon too?

Touchy touchy.



kc692 -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:29:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GuidingLite

Obnoxious poster.  Nothing ever meaningful to say.  Hide behind  sarcasm.  no wonder you loves to hate on womens like that.  it just reminds you of whut a sour grape loser you is coz deep down in heart you knows well fully you couldnt never get a girl of substance.  you and your ugly duckling boyfriend pixel both be rejects sucka.   yay, the truth hurts. beauty hurts you becoz youll never be it AND youll neva get it, either, byotch. where the girls at?


Again to see such command of the English language,,,,where is that emoticon again???[:'(]

And by the way, has anyone else noticed that justaslave and MistressDolly have similar verbiage and posting styles?? Don't you love when one backs up themself by answering their posts on the board?

edited to add:  Glad to see guidinglite, that you are backing up your friend, because she is your friend.  At the risk of sounding juvenile, since you are gay, you have no idea who pixel and joy appeal to, please do not make statements for the rest of us.



kc692 -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:36:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JustAslave2007






"Knucklehead" , I dont believe I have used that term since i was in the fifth grade. Dont look now, but your immaturity is showing.
Let me spell it out for you:
1)You are laughing at me because I have the interpersonal skills to communicate with the Women here in an intelligent and adult manner. You in contrast seem  to have no clue as how a man should  conduct himself while in the company of a Women.
2)In all likelyhood there is not a Women here ,or anywhere else for that matter who would have you in there life for five minutes.
3)You are to lazy to listen, reseach, and educate yourself in order to improve yourself.
4)You will remain alone and a loser and blame everyone else but yourself for your situation.
5)You are likely so ugly that when you go to the protologist half of the time he puts his finger in your mouth.

just my thoughts,
                            justaslave


Just so you know, there are lots of women here that would take him,,,,,,you, not so much.  I'm not into fawning such as you seem capable of.



kc692 -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:38:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GuidingLite

this was meant for u from justaslave.


quote:

ORIGINAL: JustAslave2007

Knucklehead" , I dont believe I have used that term since i was in the fifth grade. Dont look now, but your immaturity is showing.
Let me spell it out for you:
1)You are laughing at me because I have the interpersonal skills to communicate with the Women here in an intelligent and adult manner. You in contrast seem  to have no clue as how a man should  conduct himself while in the company of a Women.
2)In all likelyhood there is not a Women here ,or anywhere else for that matter who would have you in there life for five minutes.
3)You are to lazy to listen, reseach, and educate yourself in order to improve yourself.
4)You will remain alone and a loser and blame everyone else but yourself for your situation.
5)You are likely so ugly that when you go to the protologist half of the time he puts his finger in your mouth.

just my thoughts,
                          justaslave



RFLMAO!!!!!See?  I told you it was one answering themselves and now they need to explain what another of "their" nicks meant.......too funny!!!!!!!!!



kc692 -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:42:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

So if I say I like yer bewbs I get a vomit icon too?

Touchy touchy.


Kisses to you, long time no see!!! No vomit icon for you babes,[sm=banana.gif] can't help it , that's the one that springs to mind, lol!!!!!



Calandra -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 10:28:47 AM)

To be honest, there are some people who, after viewing their posts for months, I simply skip when I see them. They are always negative, hurtful, insensitive, etc. Others I skip because I already know that they become emotional at any provocation and the discussion goes steadily downhill. Still others I simply realize that they have a totally opposite perspective on things.
 
I may not agree with the people who post here, but I don't block them, and I don't get all emotional when they post their opinions. Someone else's opinion cannot affect My emotions unless I deeply respect that person beforehand. They simply don't have that power.
 
I do find however that if I see someone who, over time, can state their opinions and observations calmly, and not get embroiled in the much and mire of online flaming, My respect for them grows. I will usually seek out their posts even if I do not agree outright, because this is someone I can learn from. One of two things may happen.
1.) My opinion will remain the same, but I can understand why that person would feel differently.
2.) My opinion will change because the poster has appealed to My reason and I find that My original position had less merit than theirs.
 
Either way, an EXCHANGE of ideas has happened and I am a better person for it.
 
I agree with You and politesub53. Manners count. A submissive's manners towards others (Dom/me or sub) will stick with Me a looooong time. I do not agree with the idea that you can treat those you like (or want to know better) differently than those you dislike (or have no wish to know better). Or that you can treat all Dommes respectfully, but step on the heads of fellow sub/slaves.
 
It goes both ways though. My respect for a Domme is diminished when I see Her treating others badly too. I am of the opinion that "Just because you are Dominant does not mean you should forget to be a Lady" I am fully aware that MY behavior reflects on Me, and with the archives here, that reflection stretches a loooooong way.
 
On a personal note Kat:
I enjoy Your posts and look forward to them. You are a very grounded and balanced individual and if You're ever passin' through Atlanta(Athens, really), I invite You for lunch. ~smiles~
 
 



MsKatHouston -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 2:00:03 PM)

Anytime :) The same goes for you if you are ever in Houston :)



LaTigresse -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 3:08:27 PM)

Wow, this thread was sort of a trainwreck wasn't it!

It's nice to see that cooler, and more mature heads, came along.



LadyPact -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 5:33:14 PM)

And, an interesting train wreck indeed.  Funny how the OP was regarding misunderstandings and styles of communication.  Then, it turned into... well.... all of this.  Still, basically a good thread, as so many examples were given of things that can be misunderstood.  Some of the sarcasm was loud and clear.  Maybe that was the point.
 
I will agree with the point that was made about manners.  They are easily noticed when the contrast is given by such equal example.
 
The forums are something of a world of words, without emotion, tone inflection, or body language to help them along.  [;)]  The emoticons are great little helpers, but not always evident from their use.  I rarely use them Myself, but appreciate them when something written could be seen in two different ways.



Politesub53 -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 5:43:05 PM)

i have been using [;)] just to show i am a little winker.... < grins hugely >



undergroundsea -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:23:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Calandra
You (MsKatHouston) are a very grounded and balanced individual


Indeed. If ever I am trying to decide how to conduct myself, I can imagine asking myself what would MsKat do. So, you see, she is like a Brian Botano* of sorts to me ;-)

*South Park reference

Cheers,

Sea



undergroundsea -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/25/2007 9:46:48 PM)

Disclaimer: I did not ask myself what would MsKatHouston do before typing this post. This one comes from me alone ;-)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia
Well, lets see we all get to pick and choose what we find rude, nasty and insulting, don't we?
We can agree to disagree on what we dislike around here.


While there may be some subjectivity to defining what is rude, nasty, and insulting, I think the matter is more objective than subjective. I think treating others as one wishes to be treated usually gets the job done. In my opinion, calling someone's photo ugly clearly lies outside any grey area about whether it is inappropriate or not.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia
This is one of the posts that I found amusing, Sea.
Did you find pixels comments to ME, funny?
pot..kettle...black?
Now what is your problem dear?
This is a public forum, many of us don't like what is said to us.
Move on dear.


What I had typed in post 88 prior to editing it was to say that I did not see what was amusing or interesting about calling someone's photo ugly. It was something to the effect of:

I am not sure I see the amusing and interesting aspect of it. Please help me see it. What is amusing and interesting about saying someone's photo is ugly?

Your response above was to this statement before I had edited it.

I do not see the logic behind attributing hypocrisy to me with the pot kettle comment. I think my words have been consistent with my behavior. I have not criticised one person's words and then supported or found interesting and amusing similar words of another.

I am not sure why my words lead you to ask what is my problem. If I disagree with you politely, I think it is fair for me to do so.

Cheers,

Sea



MadameDahlia -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/26/2007 2:25:31 AM)

With threads like this... who needs soap operas? Jeeezus.
And for the love of all that's good and not going to blind me... spellcheck on aisle four. Stat.

http://www.spellcheck.net/



LadyPact -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/26/2007 4:52:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

quote:

ORIGINAL: Calandra
You (MsKatHouston) are a very grounded and balanced individual


Indeed. If ever I am trying to decide how to conduct myself, I can imagine asking myself what would MsKat do. So, you see, she is like a Brian Botano* of sorts to me ;-)

*South Park reference

Cheers,

Sea


What would Brian Botano do
If he was here right now
He'd make a plan and follow through
That's what Brian Botano'd do.



KaramelGoddess -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/26/2007 6:40:23 AM)

Are we talking about the figure skater??

Brian Boitano?
 
What an arse on that man!!!  Yummay!! [:D]



MzMia -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/26/2007 7:32:58 AM)

You know what Sea, I don't come online to have an ongoing dispute going.
You and your wonderful buddy pixel are not going anywhere.
And I am not going anywhere {that I know of}.
For the time being, I am going to do the adult thing again, and not respond to posts
from you TWO, in which I will not be typing anything pleasant or of any real value.
There really is no need to turn this board into a slam fest because certain people
do not see eye to eye.
 
**I did not say I would not respond to posts from you, I said
if I can not say something nice or worthwhile, I will attempt not to type to you/pixel**

The world is big enough for us all, and I am going to be big enough to attempt again,
to ignore statements that can only lead to online discourse.
It really does take two people to argue.
Have a wonderful Memorial Day Holiday everyone!
Disclaimer: **This is a MzMia original, I love me** [:D]



LadyPact -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/26/2007 7:37:33 AM)

Yes, Karamal.  I wasn't sure about the "i" being in the name, but it's a great South Park song.



TexasMaam -> RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating (5/26/2007 8:25:56 AM)

Hmm. I would post a reply but since we seem to have a simple misunderstanding or different style of communicating whenever I try, I'll refrain. 

OK that's a joke but it's sincerely meant, too.

Recently, I have noticed some anger in your responses anytime I attempt to communicate with you, Mia.  Disappointing, too, because I thought we had communicated well some time ago.

Reading this thread, it seems that perhaps I am not the only one who has offended you when there was no offense intended.  For whatever that's worth.  Perhaps you are being quick to interpret negativity where no negativity is implied?  Food for thought.

All the best,

TM



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