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Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 8:29:22 AM

ProlificNeeds

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Recent conversations and behaviors have lead me to wonder, how many Dom's take pride in their newest 'catch' or like to show off their handy work in their longer term sub's behavior and presence?

I often refere to Dom's even some Domme's in the manner of predators(again, meant in a good way!) partially for this reason, much like a cat will cart around it's latest catch, I often get the impression Dom's like to do this too. I've had several express to me that they would be more than happy to take me to public BDSM affairs or events, but it was always with that small crooked smile and a gleam in the eye. A few have confessed they would enjoy 'showing me off' as a younger sub who would be new to the scene(fresh meat), while flattering to say the least, I often have to wonder, do most Dominants feel this way about their prized pets, and enjoy a bit of well earned preening by showing off their skills through reflection of the subs they find/train?
Also, would you consider this behavior (in moderation) healthy? I don't believe in chest beating but I was always under the impression a Dom or Domme has the right to do a little bit of quiet posing among peers. Much the same way as They might want to show off a new vehicle, or take pride in a new accomplishment They achieved.

Any thoughts towards this behavioral pattern in my most beloved Dom's would be much appreciated. I rather like the idea of being a 'prized catch' to be shown off, but at the same time, cat and mouse syndrome can be scary, especially when there could end up being many cats, and only one little mouse.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 8:34:36 AM

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quote:

Recent conversations and behaviors have lead me to wonder, how many Dom's take pride in their newest 'catch' or like to show off their handy work in their longer term sub's behavior and presence?

Greetings

While I can not answer for Master in this instance, I can say that I hope he is pleased with my behavior and presence. It means a lot to me that I am pleasing to others as it reflects back onto him.

I wish you well

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 8:35:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds
Recent conversations and behaviors have lead me to wonder, how many Dom's take pride in their newest 'catch' or like to show off their handy work in their longer term sub's behavior and presence?

Most do.

There's a difference between being excited and proud and happy about things in your life and sharing that with others- whether it's a car, job, baby, partner, or whatever, and trying to prove that you have the biggest dick.

I giggle when I see doms who have TWO girls on leashes for the first time swagger around a club, but I'm sure we've all looked a little dorky to someone at some point. As long as it's contained, it's no problem.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 8:49:21 AM

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OP what effect would it have on you if He WASN'T proud to "show you off"? He obviously considers you special, why shouldn't He be proud to Own you and in an enviroment full of His freinds and peers, if He has you leashed to His belt.... doesn't that means He considers you worth showing off, worth being proud of? I wouldn't Own a girl I was ashamed to acknowledge as Mine amongst My friends and peers.

I do agree that some seem to make it into somekind of 'competition' which is just denegrating that 'pride' into an imature pissing contest... But just being proud of the girl You Own... I see nothing wrong with at all.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 8:51:49 AM

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If also feeds my ego to no end.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:01:06 AM

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OP what effect would it have on you if He WASN'T proud to "show you off"? He obviously considers you special, why shouldn't He be proud to Own you and in an enviroment full of His freinds and peers, if He has you leashed to His belt.... doesn't that means He considers you worth showing off, worth being proud of? I wouldn't Own a girl I was ashamed to acknowledge as Mine amongst My friends and peers.

I do agree that some seem to make it into somekind of 'competition' which is just denegrating that 'pride' into an imature pissing contest... But just being proud of the girl You Own... I see nothing wrong with at all.

The catch: I'm not owned. I've been invited to such events as a friend, though the interest is obviously there.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:06:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds
The catch: I'm not owned. I've been invited to such events as a friend, though the interest is obviously there.

That puts a somewhat diffrent light on it and to My mind definatly slants things more toward the 'immature pissing contest' end of things. I've taken young ladys that wheren't Mine to events... to help them settle in, introduce them round, etc. but there was no "Showing off", they weren't Mine to show off. I had no stake in who they where nor how they behaved so nothing to be PROUD of.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:12:36 AM

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Arm candy, plain and simple

Nothing wrong with that, you just have to ask yourself if that's what you want, or if you want that and more.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:14:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Arm candy, plain and simple

Nothing wrong with that, you just have to ask yourself if that's what you want, or if you want that and more.

A question I ask myself quite frequently lately. I'm waiting for the frenzy of initial encounters to wear off before I make the call.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:17:53 AM

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LOL arm candy is nothing i will ever be...i am way past my prime, however i do look forward to pleasing my Master in every way i can....and hoping that it will cause Him to be proud of me....i'm human, and its nice to feel that you have pleased your Master.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:21:17 AM

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for Daddy, it's not about chest thumping to other Doms. He always takes pride and joy in everything i do within and out our D/s dynamic.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 9:54:22 AM

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I couldn't be more proud of Robert. I am thrilled that he's chosen to join me on posting on these boards, I speak of him in my journaling and I can not wait to take him out into the local scene for functions. When I reply to threads I make mention of Robert where appropriate and say whatever lovely thing should be said.

It is also notable that Robert is thrilled that I am pleased enough to share with others how happy I am with him. He works hard and he deserves recognition. Yes, some of who he is I help "build" but when it comes down to it, Robert is Robert and I didn't created the last 40 some odd years....

I would think it NOT healthy if I didn't want to do this to some degree. If I hid him away and refused to take him any where or make mention of him, what sort of message is that sending? (Of course to each his own...we are, after all, all different)

It is not all about me though...I do this because he deserves for people to know that he's a wonderful person and a wonderful slave. I guarantee were he in service of some other dominant they would not be as pleased by him as I. We are, after all, different in our needs and wants.

If I want to beat my chest I could find any local sub to heel at my command in public. I have no trouble finding "anyone" to fill a spot. I don't want anyone...I want someone I am proud of day in and day out. I want someone who doesn't care what others think about him because he knows what really matters is how I feel. I've found that. I'm thrilled about that and I will spend the rest of my days being thankful I went trolling in Pennsylvania.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 10:15:18 AM

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I would think it NOT healthy if I didn't want to do this to some degree. If I hid him away and refused to take him any where or make mention of him, what sort of message is that sending? (Of course to each his own...we are, after all, all different)

We are of like mind there. When I take on a girl it is because I think she is someone special, someone I would take great pride in Owning. Not just 'arm candy' wise as I have had girls of all shapes, sizes and colours.... universaly been proud of each and every one, for various reasons. But I wasn't ashamed to acknowledge any of them amongst My friends and peers.

My current girl is undoubtably a 'head turner' looks wise, but who she is gives Me far more to be proud of than simply what she looks like.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 10:45:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds

Recent conversations and behaviors have lead me to wonder, how many Dom's take pride in their newest 'catch' or like to show off their handy work in their longer term sub's behavior and presence?

*smile*
This is not only a "Dom" thing. I have a tendency to want to "show" off my Dom. He is very man pretty *tee hee* and has a magical way about him. I'm still crushing on him,. and because of this, I am the one pushing for us to go to group functions. I want to show him off. Perhaps that is not a submissive trait? I frankly don't care. I have always been this way. I show off as much as I have been showed off.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 11:01:19 AM

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i know that my Master/Daddy likes to show me off, he's made that very clear from the start, that he wants someone to show off who is comforotable with being shown off.

i'm also certain that he is proud of me, but the most important thing to him as far as something reflecting back on him, is the fact that i am a happy slave. As for my behavior, i've never had any issues with bad behavior, and he isn't, as far as i know, trying to show that he has the most well behaved slave girl...just a super happy one. He's also made it clear that i don't have to be submissive to anyone other than him. That being said, i am naturally good mannered unless given a reason to be otherwise and in a situation around his friends or at a BDSM club my good manners tend to just be in overdrive as well as my shyness.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 11:06:24 AM

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He's also made it clear that i don't have to be submissive to anyone other than him.

Why should you be? He owns you, nobody else. My girl is generaly polite to others but likewise the ONLY person she submits to is ME and anyone trying to make an issue of that is likely to find BOTH of us becomming slightly LESS polite rather rapidly.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 11:10:52 AM

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I take great pride in my property. Not only in looks, but in her mannerisms, presence, personality; the whole package; and I adore showing her off. Yes, it feeds my ego when others comment on how well behaved she is; personally I feel that this is a natural reaction.

In regards to the rest of your post; I have no desire to attatch another slave to my arm just to feed my ego or prove my manhood. In addition to this, if I did not have a slave already, I would not take one just to 'show off'; not even for a few hours in a club.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 11:45:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: charismagirrl
He's also made it clear that i don't have to be submissive to anyone other than him.

Why should you be? He owns you, nobody else. My girl is generaly polite to others but likewise the ONLY person she submits to is ME and anyone trying to make an issue of that is likely to find BOTH of us becomming slightly LESS polite rather rapidly.

Well we all know of Masters out there that make their slaves (or whatever) call all other Doms/Masters Sir or some other honorific. That they expect a certain type of behavior toward other D types. When i first met my Daddy, before learning alot of stuff, i expected that that was "the way" and that i would be expected to be submissive to anyone....So i was just clarifying that my Daddy isn't of that particular type.(thank gawd)...And the way we are is in agreement with the way you say you and your girl are.(as stated in your comment)

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 12:19:08 PM

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It depends on what mood he is in. At first I thought that he didn't want to show me off, then he starts flashing my ass to everyone so I don't know.

It also feeds my ego to be shown off. It makes me feel super sexy and objectified.

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RE: Pride in a sub/slave - 5/22/2007 12:35:36 PM

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There is nothing I have that I take more pride in than beth. I show her off at every opportunity. I present her as a reference to anyone who asks for information. she does not represent "real" or "true". The only 'dogma' she considers absolute is between us in our relationship. she is 'naked' even when fully dressed. she represents honesty, integrity, trust, dedication, and commitment. she 'glows'. she represents me, she represents us.

I have no idea what she looks like to others, and have reason to care. To me her beauty isn't represented by her appearance. It is however beyond compare and will be there every time I look regardless of how much time has passed.

In answer to your question, I doubt my pride is "healthy". It is too obsessive to be so. But I have no desire to be cured.

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