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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 7:27:56 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Hmmm, i guess i don't think its my place to ask about a collar. 

And what does your master think?

Thats a very good question....and as soon as i can think of a way to broch the subject without sounding like i'm "asking" for a collar i'll let ya know....LOL


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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 7:30:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		"So do you have any feelings about who should ask for a collar? I realized we haven't talked about it and want to be clear"

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 7:37:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thats a very good and direct approch.....however to be perfectly honest...i doubt i will ever bring it up. If a collar is not offered, i'll just not wear one....no biggie.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 7:44:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Let's all say a prayer for the death of open and honest communication.  Much better to stay in doubt, shut up, and deal.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 7:47:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL....LA...i suppose thats one way to look at it.....however my take is, if He wants me to have/wear one...or if He feels its of any importance He will bring it up. ....and thats fine with me.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 7:48:43 AM   
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LOL....LA...i suppose thats one way to look at it.....however my take is, if He wants me to have/wear one...or if He feels its of any importance He will bring it up. ....and thats fine with me.

Once again, this is what you ASSUME, not what you KNOW.  You're making a lot of assumptions about yourself, about how YOU should behave, just because it's easier than talking it out and being clear. 

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:01:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Or perhaps i am choosing to let Him set the pace and decide if thats an important matter. It is not easier to wonder by the way, it would in fact be easier to ask and know and put it to rest. I am choosing not to do that because i don't feel its my place to ask about a collar, i feel thats the Masters decision.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:11:37 AM   
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Or perhaps i am choosing to let Him set the pace and decide if thats an important matter. It is not easier to wonder by the way, it would in fact be easier to ask and know and put it to rest. I am choosing not to do that because i don't feel its my place to ask about a collar, i feel thats the Masters decision.


The better question is, does he WANT you to ask questions and learn, or does he WANT you to just sit around and wait on him to approach every topic? Sometimes being passive is not what a Dom/me wants, if he encourages free thought and questions, more than likely he wants you to ask about what's on your mind.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:14:36 AM   
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Or perhaps i am choosing to let Him set the pace and decide if thats an important matter. It is not easier to wonder by the way, it would in fact be easier to ask and know and put it to rest. I am choosing not to do that because i don't feel its my place to ask about a collar, i feel thats the Masters decision.


The better question is, does he WANT you to ask questions and learn, or does he WANT you to just sit around and wait on him to approach every topic? Sometimes being passive is not what a Dom/me wants, if he encourages free thought and questions, more than likely he wants you to ask about what's on your mind.

Absolutely not...just this one. Master and i have nothing but free exchange. I feel that this paticular subject is not mine to push, or ask for.


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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:17:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		And again, that is what you FEEL, not what you KNOW.  You are making the decision for both of you.  Is that your decision to make?

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:21:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmm, i guess i don't feel like i'm making any decisions for my Master....i certainly am not telling Him what He can and cannot talk about or ask. If  He brought the subject up i would of course discuss it with Him fully.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:23:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're actively avoiding asking a question you sincerely have and choosing how to act based solely upon your assumptions of what you feel you should do. 

Why exactly do you have a master?



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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:27:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just a side note...perhaps this is not the best time for me to have a open debate about my feelings...since i seem to be on the rollercoaster ride from hell right about now...i have just come home from spending 3 striaght weeks with my Master...and am very hormonal at the moment* i hate that btw*.....and i'm feeling abit "off my game"....so please forgive me if i am less then understanding at the moment..i'm usually a very logical and senseable woman....

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:28:45 AM   
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If you are asking the question to just see peoples answers, you will get 101 different answers.
If you are asking, because you are confused, or simply unsure where you stand in your relationship - the question you have asked can only be answered by your dominant.
It isn't what you believe - if you have already submitted - it is your dominants thoughts that matter.
 
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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 8:29:08 AM   
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You're actively avoiding asking a question you sincerely have and choosing how to act based solely upon your assumptions of what you feel you should do. 

Why exactly do you have a master?



UNCLE, LA....you win...i'm wrong.......


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RE: a question about being collared - 5/23/2007 9:36:13 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Status: offline 		By the way....thankyou for the supportive e-mails i have been getting here on collarme...they are very kind and appreciated.

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RE: a question about being collared - 5/24/2007 8:15:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I collared my sub after we had known each other two months.  Since he is married, to us it was a symbol of our commitment to each other in our D/s relationship.  He most certainly cannot wear my collar in his normal day to day activities, so he carries with him a token of me.  He is proud to wear his collar when he is with me, proud to show that he is mine and that he wants only to be with me in the lifestyle.  Mentally, he is mine, but the collar just gives us both a tangible to look at. 
It is also a wonderful play collar, with many D rings to tie onto, so it is also a "servicable" collar as well.

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