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wandersalone -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 6:11:01 AM)

I taught myself to replace the swear words with other words so my work conversations are liberally peppered with words like 'sugar', 'shivers' and 'far out'.  I also say 'gosh' and 'wow' a lot....oh the shame [:D]



justplainjava -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 6:12:55 AM)

you should try fudge or fudgesicles, those work really really good
take care and be safe
plain old java slave and property to no one



wandersalone -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 6:51:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: justplainjava

you should try fudge or fudgesicles, those work really really good


grins...thanks, I am always on the lookout for new words to use!

Just a little side story, I worked at a religious summer camp in the USA many many years ago and if anyone said things like 'god almighty!' or 'jesus christ!' or any other kind of blasphemy they would have to wear a sign around their neck saying they were sorry or that they had used god's name in vain, something like that.  I pretty well lived with that damn sign for the entire summer .... hmmmm wonder if this is why I dislike humiliation??? [:D]



BoundDragon -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 12:22:52 PM)

I have noticed how often I swear at the moment & I hate it, in fact I'm ashamed of it.

I try substituting words like fudge instead of f**k iit works ok but everyone still notices how often you are saying fudge.

I have recently put myself on a swear word curfew... I'm only allowed to swear twice a day... if I swear more its a failure... there is nothing worse than feeling like I've failed.

Hopefully that will work for me.



LaTigresse -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 1:21:00 PM)

I can cuss a blue streak, embarrass even the most crass.......and then I can turn it off and sound like my grandmother.

It's the dual personality thing I have going for me.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 1:26:00 PM)

That makes four of us.



freyjasdottir -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 1:26:34 PM)

I have made traffic stop in the Lowe's parking lot with my language BUT I do not swear at my main job at all and if I really need to let it off at the other I go into the kitchen and let it rip.  I do tend to use terms like fudgecicle and Jimminy Christmas tree.



Quivver -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 2:39:25 PM)

Not minding what others think isnt the problem.
The problem is you never know who else might be listening and need to make a good impression someday. 


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ORIGINAL: lateralist1

I really didn't mind what people thought about me.
Still don't.
They don't actually care about me so why should I waste my time worrying about what they think.
The people who actually know me and care about me understood.



xethnkitten -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 3:11:06 PM)

I have found that I've gained quite a sailor's mouth lately.  grrr..  gonna try and not curse so much.  My Master says that it is not sublike and I need to stop or fear the wrath.  ::gulp::

My Master has started cursing in Serenity speech.  It's kinda funny.



boundkitty -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 6:46:45 PM)

Thank you everyone for your great suggestions! I swear a lot, and have had a couple of friends comment on it in a joking manner, but it made me aware of how much I do it. It's a lot like speaking with a Southern accent. It's easy to start and hard to stop (Lived in the South for a year and a half almost 20 years ago and *still* say y'all)


boundkitty



shyinini -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 10:17:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: boundkitty

Hello everyone,

I have a swearing problem, which I've had for years. While my Mentor doesn't seem to mind, I know that the majority of Doms will. Does anyone have suggestions for breaking this habit?


boundkitty


Self discipline.
 
I did ask Sir if he minded me cussing.... "only appropriately' was his response.



shyinini -> RE: Swearing (5/23/2007 10:32:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: boundkitty

Hello everyone,

I have a swearing problem, which I've had for years. While my Mentor doesn't seem to mind, I know that the majority of Doms will. Does anyone have suggestions for breaking this habit?


boundkitty

Well, I actually enlisted the help of my teenager with mine [:)] She was developing the same habit so we both agreed that if one used words of that nature, the other could put some dish soap in the mouth. It has worked wonders....my teenager loves to see me squirm [&:]


Try something else.... each time you catch the other fucking their ass mouth off, grab the soap dish for sure and add...ok mothafucka...a $1.00 to a jar and at the end of the year we will donate it to someone who needs the cash. 
 
I believe the book is called THE CHRISTMAS JAR.
 
I keep all my clanky cash and stow it in a jar...come Christmas Eve...I will give it to some lucky bastard on the street who catches my fancy of intuition as a recipient.
 
$4 already for ya ~ ya lucky goofball !!  [8D]



littlesarbonn -> RE: Swearing (5/24/2007 1:00:37 AM)

I had this problem teaching in college. I was so used to swearing that there were times when I really had to catch myself during a lecture. You can train yourself to catch it mainly by working on your speaking style. I have a lot of experience in communication and speech (which is what my second graduate degree is in), so I was able to work through this, but believe me, there were times in the beginning where I was sure I was going to go all potty mouth in the middle of a lecture.



eyesopened -> RE: Swearing (5/24/2007 1:00:41 AM)

When my offspring started using curse words i sat them down and gave them a senario to think about when speaking with people outside their peer group. 

Imagine you are making funeral arrangements for your mother or close relative and the funeral director says:  "I'm so f***in sorry for your loss.  To make s*** easier for the family we offer some f***ing affordable funeral packages that will allow you to send the bitch out in style without breaking the g**damn bank."  

Would you really want to do business with this person?  Then just don't BE that person.  



goodpet -> RE: Swearing (5/25/2007 3:01:57 PM)


There are four parts of a habit or behavior.  Duration, Frequency, Intensity, and Interval

When trying to help break a habit try working on just one, no more then two of the areas. 

Reduce the number (frequency) every one or two days. After a couple of weeks, leave the number alone this has also increase the interval between items.  Leave that and then decrease the intensity by only allowing half an event.

Reduce the intensity by stoping as soon as you catch yourself cussing and mentally tell yourself to stop.

When starting a conversation, challenage yourself to not cuss for this one conversation and give yourself a mental "goodgirl" when you have done so. Go one hour, then try four hours, then half a day. the one day at a time.

Give a dollar away to (someone/something you don't like) each time you catch yourself cussing. Or take a 10 dollar bill and at each conversation, begin by giving it to the person and saying "If i cuss for the next 30 minutes in this conversation you get to keep the money."  that helps motives you to think before you talk.

good luck



AquaticSub -> RE: Swearing (5/25/2007 4:02:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: boundkitty

Hello everyone,

I have a swearing problem, which I've had for years. While my Mentor doesn't seem to mind, I know that the majority of Doms will. Does anyone have suggestions for breaking this habit?


boundkitty


In my personal experience, I haven't found this to be true. I think it's just a personal preference.



Arastella -> RE: Swearing (5/25/2007 8:15:33 PM)

If its something you don't want to break, then you shouldn't.  Mistress doesn't mind my swearing, as I don't swear in excess.  I had a previous Master who had a problem with it and that relationship didn't last long because it was too difficult to quit the habit and if it doesn't offend anyone, it shouldn't be a problem. 

Once again, just my own opinion.



BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Swearing (5/25/2007 8:36:53 PM)

I swear like a sailor that has gone without for years, its a chore to watch my potty mouth when my grandson is here during the summer.I have washed out potty mouth with dish detergents makes them look like mad dogs with all the foam coming back out..bounty.



boundkitty -> RE: Swearing (5/25/2007 8:57:56 PM)

It *does* bother me because of the frequency of my use of the *f* word. At the moment I have a rubber band on my wrist and snap myself hard when that word comes out of my mouth. I am also trying to think before I speak, but that doesn't work all the time (like when someone just cut me off in traffic)


boundkitty



spanklette -> RE: Swearing (5/25/2007 9:07:25 PM)

The rubberband thing works like a charm for me when I'm trying to get out of a bad habit. I hope it's helping!



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