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high heels and cbt - 5/16/2005 10:26:11 AM   
aarluvsheels


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I've had the fetish for high heels for quite a while, but can't find a Mistress or sub who enjoys it around my area. I'm into being walked on with them licking kissing them etc.. and most favored is stepped on and kicked by them. I've only experienced this joy once. I had a girl make me cum by kicking, and rubbing and stepping. I like heels so much I have my own pair I wear at home while asleep, or when I feel alone ;) Anyway I'm just seeking advice about how much of a kick is to much, and very very actively seeking a sub, or Mistress to share it with. I'm open to other things, but my main fetish is heels. Thanks Aaaronluvsheels
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RE: high heels and cbt - 5/16/2005 10:49:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: aarluvsheels

I've had the fetish for high heels for quite a while, but can't find a Mistress or sub who enjoys it around my area. I'm into being walked on with them licking kissing them etc.. and most favored is stepped on and kicked by them. I've only experienced this joy once. I had a girl make me cum by kicking, and rubbing and stepping. I like heels so much I have my own pair I wear at home while asleep, or when I feel alone ;) Anyway I'm just seeking advice about how much of a kick is to much, and very very actively seeking a sub, or Mistress to share it with. I'm open to other things, but my main fetish is heels. Thanks Aaaronluvsheels


Are you looking for a relationship (ie, boyfriend/girlfriend or something of the sort) or just a playpartner? That's the first thing you need to clarify.

You have a very specific fetish. I think what you will end up finding is that a woman into bondage, domination, etc., may consider cbt/foot worship/high heel torments ONE of the things she may enjoy, but she'll have a host of other desires, too. If your only interest is really this fetish, you should come to terms with that and be realistic in your approach.

How intense is this fetish? Do you need it to get hard? Do you need it all the time? How often? Would you be happy in a relationship with an otherwise normal girlfriend, but she indulged your fetish from time to time? Perhaps she was fine wearing high heels, didn't mind you in them, and also could engage in some cock and ball crushing/trampling?

Perhaps a professional is a better answer? What if you go visit a pro femdom that specializes in this kind of activity -- then you know she is experienced and has safety in mind (or, at least, she SHOULD!).

The challenge I have found with subs who have a specific fetish is that they get onetrackminded. Sometimes, their fetish gets boring to me because it's all the want and all they talk about. You run the risk of making a woman feel like just a provider of the fetish -- and that she is secondary to it.

That's why it's important that you carefully think about what this fetish means to you, and how you see it fitting into your relationship goals.

Akasha

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RE: high heels and cbt - 5/17/2005 12:05:30 AM   
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that's what I need help in, where to go here locally, I've searched web pages most are out of date or nolonger in use. I'd perfer a girlfriend who likes it, but play would be good since I'm currently single. I'm not out to be single fetish oriented, I like other things, but if my fav can't be satisfied whats the point. I just want helping finding someone local

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RE: high heels and cbt - 5/17/2005 5:04:24 PM   
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I do want to mention that Aakasha gave you some very good advice. I will add that your profile is very specific and it does appear that you are simply looking for some fetish play.
That said, I am not sure why you are having a hard time finding local groups. you are in Memphis? I just googled these two up immediately:
Memphis Power Exchange
Leatherquest in Tennessee
Good luck!


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