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Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/23/2007 8:32:06 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Why do so many Doms contact Dominas with the secret petition to be a submissive?

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/23/2007 8:36:38 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Several reasons probably.

They want to experiement to see if it is for them.
They are feeling overwhelmed and want to let go for a little while.
They are horny and will say whatever they think will be most effective to get into your pants.
They want to get a better perspective on submission to help in their dominance.

Probably a lot more reasons as well but those were off the top of my head.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/23/2007 9:52:42 PM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		Yeah the only time ive ever approached a Dom looking for some sub play for myself was years ago when I wanted to know what it felt like !!! I did NOT enjoy it lol

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/23/2007 10:02:09 PM   
johntom571


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Why do so many Doms contact Dominas with the secret petition to be a submissive?


Is this a trick question?  I realize that my own definition of "Dom" may not be everyone's, but in my book, any "Dom" desiring to be secretly dominated is either a fake, or a switch in denial.

my 2 cents.  you get what you pay for.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/23/2007 11:19:23 PM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		Lol well I have no secret desire to switch I juat wanted to know what I was doling out felt like.  I try everything 1st before I do it to someone else.  I have absolutely no desire to be submissive at all.  But I have come across a lot of Dommes asking me to dominant them and not for the reasons I had it done.  Each to their own but its not for me.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 12:11:12 AM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		I personally believe a lot of them are really bottoms that want to be dominated and they believe that they can avoid becoming part of the masses of submissives by stating that they are actually dominants instead. In this "fantasy", they believe that a dominant woman would become intrigued with dominated a dom, and thus, they will fulfill their desires.

I was with a professional dominant for years who was CONSTANTLY contacted by self-proclaimed expert doms who kept trying to convince her that her dominating them would somehow "assist" her in becoming a better dominant. She and several of her femdom friends would sit around and laugh at these guys as they compared notes over which big name scene player was trying to coax yet another one into dominating them.


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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 2:43:17 AM   
Copulo


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Status: offline 		Like MsKat I believe there are many reasons but more than any I would say they are being opportunists. (If you cant spank then why not be spanked instead!)

I have to admit that I am a tad bit suspicious when a dominant sends me a message saying ‘hello Miss’ and then when you go on to read their profile they profess to be ‘all Dominant’. Is it that they are ashamed of their submission? and if so would want to very much hide it all behind closed doors, is it because they want to try and learn something that they can go on to use on their own sub?. Good idea perhaps but I don’t like being used, or is it because they are genuinely a switch but because they hear so many sub fems saying ‘I need a man that is totally dominant’ they feel it would lower their chances of finding a fem sub.?
Someone who wants to switch would hope, I would of thought, to switch with me too, so its a non starter.

Just as many females do this as men. I have topped many fem dominants over the years.


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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 4:05:56 AM   
earthycouple


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Why do so many Doms contact Dominas with the secret petition to be a submissive?


Is this a trick question?  I realize that my own definition of "Dom" may not be everyone's, but in my book, any "Dom" desiring to be secretly dominated is either a fake, or a switch in denial.

my 2 cents.  you get what you pay for.

JohnTom


Ditto....

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 4:46:08 AM   
VeryMercurial


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Status: offline 		Many do it, because they want to play both sides of the fence.
Dom one day, submissive the next day.
If they were honest they would have a profile up that states they are a switch.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 5:04:05 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Because they are cowards who are too afraid to stand up and be who they really are. Now I am talking about the ones who want to be dominanted in secret. I have had quite a few of these guys contact me, even the "g men". Frankly I can't be bothered with someone who is so afraid his subs/slaves will leave him that he can't show his submissive side. So when these guys contact me asking for this, I smack them upside the head with the block button.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 5:38:23 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		Here is a list of reasons I have been given by these men... they are not a list of my assumptions. (these of course are not direct quotes--just the gist of the conversations)

1) I'm rather well known & highly respected in my local community & they would never look at me the same way again if they were to know that I secretly wish to find a dominant woman to give myself to. If it all works out, I will be your slave behind closed doors & the rest of the world will see us to be dom-couple. We could even find a cute slave-girl we could co-top in public & you could even use her to put me in my place afterward.

2) I believe in female supremacy but I really enjoy topping. There is no way I would top a guy because I'm not gay. I fee so guilty after topping a woman that I need to be punished. Would you punish me for the error of my ways?

3) I have to put dominant on my profile because if I don't Gay men won't leave me alone.

4) I have to put dominant on my profile because if I don't all the other predators (i.e. tribute queens, fake profile folk, etc) online will get me.

5) Oh I don't know why my profile says dominant, I marked it submissive so the site must be screwed up.

6) Some days I feel dominate, some days I feel more slave... I just need someone to help me figure it all out & I thought you might be someone who would put me in my place.

7) I was told that in order to be a good dominant that I would need to learn how to be a good submissive, so what you say? Feel like spanking my bad boy bottom so I can go out & get me a naughty girl to spank?

8) I am very dominant at work. I've always been in control of what goes on around me at work. I figured that because of this I'm a dominant but I've always had fantasies about a woman doing "X Y & Z" to me.

9) Oh, I thought I contacted you from my other profile... should I go to that one & email you back?

10) Oh I figured that if I subbed for you that you might sub for me & we could have a lot of kinky sex with each other.

The list could go on....

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 5:44:36 AM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


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Status: offline 		I agree with many here they are just horny ol' farts wanting some strange...bounty

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 5:35:30 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		Personally I love the thought of domming a "Domly Dom".  They usually like what ideas I come up with until I mention that it will be at the next public play party, or I ask them if their wife/gf knows, and if she doesn't she needs to know before we go anywhere. Then they usually go bye bye.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/24/2007 7:19:07 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Some are dominant in terms of control but they have a masochistic side and a sub who can't top for whatever reason. Or are afraid that if they mark switch they won't get a sub. And that's a valid concern.

Some subs won't respond to switches because they don't want to top and others because they want a monogamous long term relationship and know that a switch will not be happy being dom only for the next ten years. And switches who are mainly top or bottom have more difficulty finding a comparable switch.


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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/26/2007 1:40:30 PM   
LightHeartedMaam


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Why do so many Doms contact Dominas with the secret petition to be a submissive?


Doms are just submissives that haven't found the right Domme, don't cha know :)

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/26/2007 2:50:11 PM   
cloudboy


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Status: offline 		Its probably just their raw, uncontrollable, overwhelming, tidal-waveish physical attraction to you.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/26/2007 3:36:09 PM   
Smythe


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Why do so many Doms contact Dominas with the secret petition to be a submissive?




My take is that they are not doms at all, but subs who don't accept themselves.
Domming a dom can be fun, but mostly this is not the case
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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/26/2007 3:57:28 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: LightHeartedMaam

quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Why do so many Doms contact Dominas with the secret petition to be a submissive?


Doms are just submissives that haven't found the right Domme, don't cha know :)


*Snicker*

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/26/2007 4:02:02 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I thought I responded to this one, but I guess I didn't.

Why do some many dommes secretly ask to submit to doms?  (I've developed my nifty Lam-word for that, by the way: it's called "flipping"--as in "Lam had a hell of a time flipping a domme the other night.")

There's always two sides to every story.

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RE: Why Do Doms Do This? - 5/26/2007 4:28:42 PM   
MistressSassy66


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Status: offline 		I dont have an answer,I wish I did.

So far any Dom that has contacted Me...lets just say I have a hard time with their
Domlyiness and its mutual that we dont meet.



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