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ORIGINAL: MistressDarling

Woooooah, people. Calm it down a notch. My referee shirt is in the wash. *wink*

Hon, you either need to talk to him about it or leave. I don't think its fair that you have to sit around wondering just because it might be considered "out of line" to ask.  Chances are, he's just being moody. Men are just as bad as we are once a month, LOL. If he refuses to talk, continue to be supportive. Snuggle up to him at night and tell him that you still love him, even if he is being a grouchy-butt.

Part of your role as a submissive is to be there for your Owner during tough times. Bailing now wouldn't be fair to him, especially if he's having troubles. Showing him unconditional love and support will help to fix things quicker than "being a brat" and waiting for him to come around. Think about it. Its easier to open up to people who are there for you, who show patience and understanding, even when you're being unreasonable. Make sense?

Men aren't like women. We talk about our problems at great length to our friends and loved ones. They take the "tough man" approach and keep it inside.

Whatever path you choose to take, I wish you the best of luck. *smooches*

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ORIGINAL: NakedGirlScout

You know what, I have just realized that these bizarre problems are stemming from a mood disorder that he's got. Christ, that explains a LOT, probably explains everything. The paranoia, the sudden irrational switches of perspective, the lengthy inexplicable rages triggered by trivial things, and the contrasting bouts of severe self-doubt and depression following the rages.

I should say to anyone who's thought all I do is "whine" is that on the GOOD days he is an absolute pleasure to be around, and that I don't bother writing long posts about the good days since I am perfectly content. The GOOD days last for about a month or two at a time, which is just long enough to feel relieved and start to believe that the problems are over. It's just that the BAD days (which have lasted around 1 week at a stretch) are so frightening and honestly so bizarre, the personality changes in him are stunning. Now that explains why I tend to post several times in short succession about a lot of different problems, because this is in reality the way it is happening. Imagine your partner switching from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde like this through no fault of his own, and you'll know it's both hard to cope and hard to give up on the person... because you see who they are apart from the disorder and love them for it.

If any of you have been in relationships (or possibly yourself) with people who have mood disorders, you will know why I am reaching out and practically grasping at straws. Hopefully have a little compassion or just ignore me if my posting irritates you. Thank you to the lovely people who have been so supportive and held my hand through this latest descent into hell. My Master has just snapped out of it today around lunchtime and is incredibly confused, paralyzed by guilt, terrified of himself and emotionally exhausted. He needs medical help.

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

He sounds like a real ass.  Maybe my wonderful D has been spoiling me with affection <g>, but I really don't think any man should be treating his sub/slave or ladyfriend like that.  There is no excuse for it, no justification whatsoever.  The basis of ANY relationship is communuication, and if he has problems, he should talk to you about it.  If he had any self-control or confidence in himself whatsoever, he would talk to you about it.  I would be gone quite quickly...

Then again, I do not know your exact situation, and it is difficult to gauge such things with just a few words.  The question I present is this... do you think he is worth putting up with long enough to discover the root of his issues?  More than that, can you handle his issues when/if he decides you are worth communicating with?  If not, again, I suggest you get out of there. 

Yep no excuse at all... except perhaps a mental disorder.

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ORIGINAL: SerenityBlue

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

He sounds like a real ass.  Maybe my wonderful D has been spoiling me with affection <g>, but I really don't think any man should be treating his sub/slave or ladyfriend like that.  There is no excuse for it, no justification whatsoever.  The basis of ANY relationship is communuication, and if he has problems, he should talk to you about it.  If he had any self-control or confidence in himself whatsoever, he would talk to you about it.  I would be gone quite quickly...

Then again, I do not know your exact situation, and it is difficult to gauge such things with just a few words.  The question I present is this... do you think he is worth putting up with long enough to discover the root of his issues?  More than that, can you handle his issues when/if he decides you are worth communicating with?  If not, again, I suggest you get out of there. 

Yep no excuse at all... except perhaps a mental disorder.

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ORIGINAL: BeautySleeping

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ORIGINAL: SerenityBlue

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

He sounds like a real ass.  Maybe my wonderful D has been spoiling me with affection <g>, but I really don't think any man should be treating his sub/slave or ladyfriend like that.  There is no excuse for it, no justification whatsoever.  The basis of ANY relationship is communuication, and if he has problems, he should talk to you about it.  If he had any self-control or confidence in himself whatsoever, he would talk to you about it.  I would be gone quite quickly...

Then again, I do not know your exact situation, and it is difficult to gauge such things with just a few words.  The question I present is this... do you think he is worth putting up with long enough to discover the root of his issues?  More than that, can you handle his issues when/if he decides you are worth communicating with?  If not, again, I suggest you get out of there. 

Yep no excuse at all... except perhaps a mental disorder.

Exactly !  Someone with a mental disorder does not have the ability to just "snap out of it". Your submissive is very lucky to have such an understanding and compassionate Mistress. I feel sorry for those who are so quick to judge and condemn a person for having a disorder that really is something beyond their control, or for the person that is only reaching out for a little support and help. 

I must hug you now!  *huggles*
That made my day and Mistress says thank you.  Yes.... thank you for understanding. 

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

He sounds like a real ass.  Maybe my wonderful D has been spoiling me with affection <g>, but I really don't think any man should be treating his sub/slave or ladyfriend like that.  There is no excuse for it, no justification whatsoever.  The basis of ANY relationship is communuication, and if he has problems, he should talk to you about it.  If he had any self-control or confidence in himself whatsoever, he would talk to you about it.  I would be gone quite quickly...

Then again, I do not know your exact situation, and it is difficult to gauge such things with just a few words.  The question I present is this... do you think he is worth putting up with long enough to discover the root of his issues?  More than that, can you handle his issues when/if he decides you are worth communicating with?  If not, again, I suggest you get out of there. 

Yep no excuse at all... except perhaps a mental disorder.

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

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ORIGINAL: Indemnis

He sounds like a real ass.  Maybe my wonderful D has been spoiling me with affection <g>, but I really don't think any man should be treating his sub/slave or ladyfriend like that.  There is no excuse for it, no justification whatsoever.  The basis of ANY relationship is communuication, and if he has problems, he should talk to you about it.  If he had any self-control or confidence in himself whatsoever, he would talk to you about it.  I would be gone quite quickly...

Then again, I do not know your exact situation, and it is difficult to gauge such things with just a few words.  The question I present is this... do you think he is worth putting up with long enough to discover the root of his issues?  More than that, can you handle his issues when/if he decides you are worth communicating with?  If not, again, I suggest you get out of there. 

Yep no excuse at all... except perhaps a mental disorder.

I posted all that in reply to the OP... I was too lazy to run through and read all the other stuff pre-post.  :P 
I edited that long thing to say.. just get him some meds.. apparantly it didn't edit very rapidly.. >_>

Edited yet again to say... it's nothing to do with leaping to condemn someone so much as, if someone is mistreating their girl, said girl should get out of the relationship.  Mood disorder is swell... but get him on meds before he ends up getting violent or something

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ORIGINAL: NakedGirlScout

Hey he's doing so great on meds.... and yeah, whatever, getting out of a marriage is not something to take so lightly like dropping your guinea pig off at the animal shelter.... especially for a problem that's so easily treated... or if it is to be taken lightly, they probably shouldn't have taken those "till death do you part" vows which by the way I took seriously.

Anyhow I should start a New Thread called "happy today" because since he got on the antidepressants he's been good as gold and in fact even much a better dom than when I first met him! Woohoo!

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ORIGINAL: BeautySleeping

Exactly !  Someone with a mental disorder does not have the ability to just "snap out of it". Your submissive is very lucky to have such an understanding and compassionate Mistress. I feel sorry for those who are so quick to judge and condemn a person for having a disorder that really is something beyond their control, or for the person that is only reaching out for a little support and help. 

I must hug you now!  *huggles*
That made my day and Mistress says thank you.  Yes.... thank you for understanding. 

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Exactly !  Someone with a mental disorder does not have the ability to just "snap out of it". Your submissive is very lucky to have such an understanding and compassionate Mistress. I feel sorry for those who are so quick to judge and condemn a person for having a disorder that really is something beyond their control, or for the person that is only reaching out for a little support and help. 

I must hug you now!  *huggles*
That made my day and Mistress says thank you.  Yes.... thank you for understanding. 

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ORIGINAL: peepeegirl5

Drug them! :)