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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 5:58:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: Tuomas

I'd like to address this 5- 6 hour myth. Medically speaking, having an erection for more than 6 hours causes permanent damage to the penis. Anthing more than four hours is not recommended. There is a reason why there is a warning printed on the back of Viagra bottles.

Tuomas, since you address me specifically I will respond.

Read what I said in post #29

"I have had several lovers who were able to be erect after orgasm within
a short period of time and/or who could maintain a stiff erection for hours."

Specifically I mentioned men who are able to regain an erection after
orgasm quickly and also be erect for hours. Nowhere did I claim
5-6 hours constantly erect.

That having been said, it's perfectly possible for men to have sex sessions in excess of 6 hours, where he looses his erection for five or ten minutes, allowing blood recirculation and oxigenating the corpora cavernosa. A lot of people confuse the two, and it's possible to forget that for a short period, the male of the sketch had a flaccid penis.

Answered above.

Also, you have to factor in the macho bit, who exaggerate sexual prowess, and the women part trying make other women jealous of their "long" sexual experiences. However, don't let this bragging goad you into doing something that can be detrimental to your health.

There is no bragging going on here and no danger to anyone's health, Tuomas.
Rather this a very frank discussion about erection quality and quantity.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 6:05:13 PM

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This is how to enjoy long sex sessions; eat and drink before hand but something light, not heavy on the stomach, have plenty of water and/or sports drinks nearby for hydration, spend time warming up with plenty of foreplay and oral action, experience all the sensations, be open and sensual, use quality lube and plenty of it, play games
and use toys if you like, have towels and a shower and/or bathtub nearby to clean up
in between, have pre-prepared food on hand for the munchies, take naps, watch some movies if you like, maybe some pornography, maybe share some wine, repeat the process as desired, building up your endurance bit by bit over time.

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i would not envy 5 to 6 hour sex sessions in the least. i could not stay wet that long and i would be sore as hell - what fun is that????

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 6:18:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

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ORIGINAL: Tuomas

I'd like to address this 5- 6 hour myth. Medically speaking, having an erection for more than 6 hours causes permanent damage to the penis. Anthing more than four hours is not recommended. There is a reason why there is a warning printed on the back of Viagra bottles.

Tuomas, since you address me specifically I will respond.

Read what I said in post #29

"I have had several lovers who were able to be erect after orgasm within
a short period of time and/or who could maintain a stiff erection for hours."

Specifically I mentioned men who are able to regain an erection after
orgasm quickly and also be erect for hours. Nowhere did I claim
5-6 hours constantly erect.

That having been said, it's perfectly possible for men to have sex sessions in excess of 6 hours, where he looses his erection for five or ten minutes, allowing blood recirculation and oxigenating the corpora cavernosa. A lot of people confuse the two, and it's possible to forget that for a short period, the male of the sketch had a flaccid penis.

Answered above.

Also, you have to factor in the macho bit, who exaggerate sexual prowess, and the women part trying make other women jealous of their "long" sexual experiences. However, don't let this bragging goad you into doing something that can be detrimental to your health.

There is no bragging going on here and no danger to anyone's health, Tuomas.
Rather this a very frank discussion about erection quality and quantity.

Err, I quick replied, don't know why your name came up, since I wasn't going over the topic with a fine tooth comb.

However, there are people who do injure themselves regularly because of trying be "better in bed". Not only using mechanical means, but using other kinds of stimulants or over stimulating themselves or their partner in an effort to "match up" with their acquaintances who claim impossibly long sexual overtures.

The situation, imo, is made worse by people being unwilling to point out their own experiences of never "keeping it up for 5 hours" because people might ridicule them, and thus promoting the misconception that people have fantastic sexlives.

If you are not part of this group, then there is no need for you to feel identified. But I have seen people who have ended up causing themselves serious harm because they missunderstood what people were saying with "five hour sex sessions", or because they believed people's bragging. Not to mention the emotional stress they go through trying to live up to impossible expectations.

So, yeah, I might be a bit snappy when it comes to this subject, so sorry. If you are having fun with your sessions, and it's what you and your partner like, then that's great. It shouldn't matter what some random idiot -like me- says on a forum. Be yourself and do what you enjoy. And that goes double for those people who read what you have to say, and think they are missing out on something...

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 6:43:18 PM

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Ah...that happens to most people at least once.
"Quick reply" looks like you responded to the last person
that posted and does cause some mis-understandings.

The way to get around that problem is to state at the beginning of the message -

"General Reply", "To no one in particular", "Quick Reply" etc.

Nothing to worry about.

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Err, I quick replied, don't know why your name came up, since I wasn't going over the topic with a fine tooth comb.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 7:11:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Ah...that happens to most people at least once.
"Quick reply" looks like you responded to the last person
that posted and does cause some mis-understandings.

The way to get around that problem is to state at the beginning of the message -

"General Reply", "To no one in particular", "Quick Reply" etc.

Nothing to worry about.

Mleh, all these forums are different... it's hard to keep track of how to saw what where

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 9:03:59 PM

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.....You may see that as "too black & white"....I simply see it as the way it is.

The way it is for you. Others see it differently and do not see it "black and white" and you do express a lot of anger and animosity in your posts when they are about cheating.

velvet, you can read it any way you like. I can tell you until I turn blue that I have no anger about the subject....I have no need to have anger about the subject....it's not a subject that relates to my life. You see anger and animosity....I'm telling you it's disdain and disgust. I place honesty as the number one criteria that people within my life must be capable of. Cheaters do not possess that ability, therefore they are not a part of my life. But you go right ahead and read it however you like...you've already proven that you're gonna do that anyway.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 9:57:14 PM

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PoeticPrincess:
Five hours erect ?
I think you have been spoiled or you are living in Space Time , Dream Time or Strap On Time.

Yes, Five hours erect-that is incredible. He must have been some sort of mutant or Sting.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/24/2007 11:10:13 PM

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i've also been with a guy or two that had very good, um, stamina. one was above the age of 50 and kinda reminded me of a jackrabbit. sure, there were down times, albeit short ones, but lots and lots of up time. : )

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 1:58:50 AM

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Mistoferin I didnt come on this board to justify myself - I had a practical problem, the solution for which you have contributed nothing. Of all the places in the world one might expect to find ignorance and self-satisfaction, I did not expect it here. You may think as you please, I am sure you are totally squeaky clean, and I hope you find a similarly smug partner who will never step off the line, whatever happens. I think the Pope is free.

Thanks to all who gave some practical advice - much appreciated.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 2:25:23 AM

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I forgot to mention I am a spiritual healer.... perhaps Ive lost my touch!! The Marathon man practiced Tantric sex, so he could recover very quickly..it was all about massages, touching, being incredibly sensitive. As for staying wet, he loved oral, and that seemed to provide all the wetness needed. Ay me! Tis not fair to compare
but in every relationship there are boxes we tick - and I guess some things can untick them all...lying did it for me.

I plan to put as much loving and effort into making my current lover feel like a million quid as I did for my MM. As Ive gotten older I find it harder to make the jigsaw
pieces fit than I did when I was a kid...My needs are more complicated, and the number of partners who would match are very few. This guy has an amazingly cunning perverted brain, which is delicious in itself. So onwards and upwards. BTW the word quitted is from the french Quiter and we use it in its fullness in the UK. You can do as you wish with the language, but we mangled it first!

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 5:41:44 AM

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poeticprincess,
There were a lot of things in your first post that seemed to contradict each other. I addressed them all. From the very first response you made to me you chose to focus on the infidelity. I have been responding to you. This is a public message board after all and you put your situation out there. If it was an answer to a practical problem that you were seeking, you could have easily done so without including the back story of cheating. It was not something that needed to be included to have anyone understand an erection problem. But you did include it and in doing so on a public message board is an invitation to commentary. I am far, far from squeaky clean my friend but it wasn't my story that was here in black and white for all the world to see and comment on.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 6:39:01 AM

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The lies were about his ex-mistress who seemed to draw him back in from time to time, and I found out...thats what the honesty betrayed was all about.

cool, honesty only counts when it suits you. But not being honest with his wife was a-ok as long as you had your fuck god

Instead of making multiple posts I will just continue with this one.
Your changing your story. first it was:

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My ex was a sex-god who was married to a woman who never wanted sex

Then:

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the ex's wife was on dialysis for kidney failure.

tsk tsk

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 6:39:09 AM

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.....You may see that as "too black & white"....I simply see it as the way it is.

The way it is for you. Others see it differently and do not see it "black and white" and you do express a lot of anger and animosity in your posts when they are about cheating.

velvet, you can read it any way you like. I can tell you until I turn blue that I have no anger about the subject....I have no need to have anger about the subject....it's not a subject that relates to my life. You see anger and animosity....I'm telling you it's disdain and disgust. I place honesty as the number one criteria that people within my life must be capable of. Cheaters do not possess that ability, therefore they are not a part of my life. But you go right ahead and read it however you like...you've already proven that you're gonna do that anyway.

Well i will take you at your word you feel disdain but your expressions come across the screen as angery and full of animosity. But maybe now you understand the frustration i was trying to make YOU understand when someone misinterprets a post because of wording and the intent isn't always correctly conveyed - frustrating isn't it

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 7:58:24 AM

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Not really, at least Erin's always logical and when she isn't she admits it.

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RE: Hardness - is it optional - 5/25/2007 8:50:15 AM

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Odd how we lesbians just never seem to have this sorta problem................

Lesbians never get headaches

Yeah... but what about tounge and mouth fatigue? ...

Not really, we have all sorts of other options at our disposal.

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