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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 5/28/2007 3:08:20 PM

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proudsub,

Thank you for the links! I am just learning my way around on here and this has helped greatly.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 5/28/2007 3:43:45 PM

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When you add up all the factors everyone has opined, it's surprising there are as many as there are. It took the internet for me to realize there were terms for what I longed for and an actual lifestyle that wasn't on the borderline of the prostitution industry. My father is almost 70 and still working and uses the internet daily. My mother on the other hand has had to learn a few words for her crossword puzzles. Submissiveness was expected when she grew up, and if she's "a submissive" she probably doesn't know there is a "lifestyle" out there.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 5/28/2007 3:56:30 PM

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proudsub,

Thank you for the links! I am just learning my way around on here and this has helped greatly.

rain

Well Rain, the good news there are a lot of us here over 40.
We aren't going anywhere, hopefully.
So in about 20 years, there will be alot of us over 40 around.
I may open up a BDSM bed/breakfast for only seniors 55+
then!
We will have a lot of fun!

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 5/28/2007 3:59:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TennesseeRain

proudsub,

Thank you for the links! I am just learning my way around on here and this has helped greatly.

rain

You're most welcome.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 5/28/2007 6:06:38 PM

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lol MzMia....sign me up please!

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 11:30:33 AM

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In my limited experience there have been a number of much younger dominants who were attracted to the age differential.

As I get older (I am 60) I am finding that I need to communicate better with partners because as has been mentioned earlier, bodies do change with age. What we took for granted in our 20's and 30's may not be possible in our 60's and 70's. Rather than being a bad thing, this has forced me to talk and listen better and the result has been much better intimate relationships.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 11:45:06 AM

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No shortage of female dominants or submissives in that age range in the Bay Area, but then it's the mecca for leather so folks may just gravitate there.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 12:46:31 PM

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I know quite a few submissives and dominants both in that age range, several of whom join our local play parties every month and do in fact get up and scene. I think its beautiful and wonderful because those couples truly have learned the deepest thoughts of each other. Its a great dynamic ive seen play out. I think online at least, most in that age range just arent into the computers as much, or as several on here have mentioned, I think the majority in that age range have already found their life partner, while the list is full of the younger crowd who is still searching.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 1:10:04 PM

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This girl is 68 she has been a submissive 28 years or more yes there are older woman that are su's i'm one of them and proud to serve a Master

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 1:28:27 PM

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Because the Dominants that are 60-70 prefer to have younger submissives--as men get older they seek younger and think 60-70 yr old women unacceptable----unless the two grow older together----IMHO

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 2:02:00 PM

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I find there are not too many in their 60's here either, especially dominanat women. I would prefer so serve someone close to my age, so hopefully, I could still comply with most of her desires. I can still kneel pretty low, and kiss a Mistress'es feet if she desired. I hope that day is stll a ways off.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 2:19:43 PM

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I'm still stuck on the post (s) that say an older submissive can't get a dom so they go domme... not sure what to think on that one. I am sure it could be true in some cases... but damn that might be hard on the real domme's of that age group to be thought of as really a fake domme because they might be submissive and missing out on some action and went domme to get some. Got my older domme brain a workin here and it ain't workin so well. Don't know what to think on that one.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/27/2007 2:48:08 PM

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I don't see to many of the older set posting.
I wish more of them would post.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 2:32:04 PM

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I have found no shortage of slaves of any age group but then I'm old as dirt LMAO

Don't forget; age =XXXperience HEHE

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PS I have been on-line before it was the WEB look up ARPANET

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 2:55:38 PM

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I'm still stuck on the post (s) that say an older submissive can't get a dom so they go domme... not sure what to think on that one. I am sure it could be true in some cases... but damn that might be hard on the real domme's of that age group to be thought of as really a fake domme because they might be submissive and missing out on some action and went domme to get some. Got my older domme brain a workin here and it ain't workin so well. Don't know what to think on that one.

Hi Ma`am, as a sprightly 55 i am heading that way and therefore thinking ahead < grins >

If an older or person turns Dom/Domme as they find that an easier route, maybe resentment would creep in as they are not being true to their own,and very important, feelings on who they are. This may prove to always be the proverbial fly in the ointment.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 3:09:27 PM

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Hello Politesub,

I can agree with what you say. I can imagine a lot of things going wrong in that scene. It was said in another thread that if a dominant is faking, the submissive will know and all heck breaks loose from there. It sounds like a mess to start with.

What struck me was how many threads we have on the true or fake whatevers and how many threads we have on the poofers and such. This line of thinking, that a submissive would go dominant to get their needs met because of age factors... stinks to me of another form of a fake and not real. We harden ourselves online because of the games and this sounds like another set up for the real to be questioned. Of course the real can face that with being real... but still... lol... my ol brain is still working on this one! lol

Oh well... I have never had all the answers and never will!

Glad you are preparing... can't let that age thing sneak up on us! lol

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 3:22:21 PM

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Ma`am......Its not so much sneaking up as racing ahead. :)

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 3:27:36 PM

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Shhhhhhhhhhhh I am trying to have some form of denial here! lol Racing ahead... {shakes head} I know... I know! Damn it! I used to go with that fine wine thing... but I don't think I fit in a glass.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 3:39:28 PM

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some very good points here......at 45, 60 seems way close to me in many ways....only because 30 was what? last week?

that said i have a take.........60 to 70 year old women probably are not willing to put up with much crap(such as the no-shows, bsers, etc.)on the net.......and find other ways to search........

60 to 70 year old men can do search and talk sports and politics and have oh so much fun......i mean......nuff said.

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RE: Submissiveness at age 60 plus - 6/28/2007 4:01:12 PM

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I have met several pro Dommes who are in their 70's and are still going strong. I am 55, and submissive to my Master, who is 52. We had this conversation just the other day. Some vanilla friends were telling us that their sex life is over because the wife has reached menopause. We sat there with our jaws dropping, because they really believed it. They refused to believe that people in their 60's still have sex. Makes you wonder how many people like that are out there? They were otherwise educated and intelligent, but as another friend commented, people in that category often DON'T have conversations about sex with others, as it's regarded as "grubby."

We have no intention of slowing down, but we are making sure that we are fit and healthy enough to keep going. Many people in our age group and older are either physically challenged for anything as vigorous as BDSM, or mentally restricted by their belief systems. If they weren't already involved in the scene, they are not likely to find it in their later years, and if they already found it, they probably already have a partner.

Many older people would be embarrassed to put up a profile on a site like this. They look at all the young ones and just know that they are going to look disgusting to them. I know my daughter just has to think about people our age and she makes a retching noise and says: geriatric sex, ugh! Perhaps what will emerge is sites that are aimed at the Baby Boomers as they get older, so they don't have to look like paedophiles in a world of bright young things.

There are lots of older submissives out there, male and female, but they tend to have responsible places in the community, a need to be discrete, and a need to feel accepted. They won't necessarily be seeking all that on a large generic internet site.

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