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RE: Do you prefer this? - 5/28/2007 5:52:33 AM

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Who cares if he believes that this is how it ought to be. If it isn't what you want, then walk on by.

You want a monogamous trustworthy partner, then don't talk to people who don't share your beliefs.

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RE: Do you prefer this? - 5/28/2007 7:08:56 AM

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he's just a kinky guy who uses "Dom" as a way to get sex. i've met "doms" like him on yahoo IMs before ...it's the new sexual craze to pick up women. not all guys enjoy having meaningless, one-night stands because i know for a fact Daddy and my secondary Dom prefer a long lasting, loving relationship rather than catching a disease.

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RE: Do you prefer this? - 5/28/2007 7:46:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissOchistic

Nope.

That fellow has never had the pleasure of looking into a pair of beautiful, familiar eyes while in the throes of a long, sweet mutual orgasm.

And if he keeps up like that, he probably never will.

very well said.
If you're out in the meat market and you get a 1 night stand that's one thing,
but it's not fulfilling. There's nothing like a familiar pair of eyes to stare into.

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RE: Do you prefer this? - 5/28/2007 1:07:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: Redandtreasure

It is truely a shame that someone over the age of 18 thinks this way.

This 52 yr old has chatted with more "doms" like this than what i would consider "real" doms ...... its truly a waste...that most of them are WAY OVER 40.... it must be their last fling in life time....

so fuckin sad...and they can be so ARROGANT !!

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

he's just a kinky guy who uses "Dom" as a way to get sex

IMHO their kink is control and sadistic emotional use and abuse.
Tis the only way they can "feel" domly.

What is even sadder.... they probably have a girl who is so attracted to them and so devoted to them that she cant see the broad side of a neon red barn for her "respect" for him. She might or might not know he is crawling around sliding like the "domly" snake he is.

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ORIGINAL: mythi

I personally believe that many of the men who are like that are because they dont have the prowess or skillset to build a real relationship. So yeah, that first night really is as good as it gets for them. Fortunately most grow (literally and figuratively) out of it, but sadly not all. Sadder still is when, at any age, they cause their 'prey' lasting harm.

Couldnt have said it better mythi !!

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RE: Do you prefer this? - 5/28/2007 6:40:49 PM

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I have never found anonymous sex to be particularly fulfilling, but I also acknowledge that I may well be in the minority in this regard. The trouble is, those of us who are prone towards monogamous behavior tend to get married very early on and disappear from the dating scene before anyone ever even notices that we exist. I was lucky enough to stumble on to the concept of BDSM as a teenager, as something other than some wierd pornographic fantasy, and had some idea of what to strive for in my life. Even so, once I found the right person, I dropped off the face of the active scene and have been quite content for many years. I come here to socialize more than anything else, in spite of being in a non-monogamous relationship.

Asking if I prefer committed relationships over one-night stands is like the perennial question of preferring vanlla over kink. I am wired a certain way and require certain things from my lovers. I can behave contrary to my nature and experience some modicum of enjoyment, but one night stands and anonymous sex is more trouble than it's worth, in my opinion.

I honestly can't say if "Most" men prefer one way over the other. I think that my kind are not the sorts to advertise, and so an accurate accounting of our numbers is left wanting. Are we a silent majority, or a queer freakish subgroup? I have no way of knowing. I know we exist. I am not the only one within my immediate circle of friends, but I choose to associate with geeks, oddballs, misfits, and wierdos, so my friends do not mark an accurate cross-section of the male population.

Make of that what you will, I suppose.

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RE: Do you prefer this? - 5/28/2007 6:59:46 PM

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*shrugs* I can't say the idea doesn't appeal to me. But if this guy thinks it only goes downhill after the first time, he needs to develop an imagination. He honestly couldn't think of anything else to do after that?

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