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Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:36:50 PM   
submit2Bcomplete


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Joined: 5/27/2007
Status: offline 		Everytime I send a email to a slave in this site, they never repsond back to me. I have only received repsonses from submisives, am I doing something wrong? I am simply trying to find a slave that wants a 24/7, LTR, monogamous M/s relationship.
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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:41:14 PM   
amaidiamond


Posts: 1793
Joined: 2/6/2006
From: Watford / London
Status: offline 		Well from a quick scan of your profile...
A photo would help, also what are your vanilla interests? You talk a lot about sex, very little about anything else, also where are you, Cali is a big place and where u should b as a location doesnt narrow it down much!

All the best,

dia

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:45:09 PM   
KeirasSecret


Posts: 415
Joined: 8/17/2006
From: central NH
Status: offline 		Hi,

Without know what kind of messages you are sending it would be hard to say if your doing something wrong. According to the activities listed in the writen part of your profile it may just take some time to find someone who matches what you are looking for.

side note: reading your profile hurt my eyes. You may want to change either the background or text color.


Sinserely,

k

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:46:58 PM   
ennaozzie


Posts: 201
Joined: 5/9/2007
Status: offline 		I would have thought it better to just get to know people no matter what they are, there are subbies, that like most have more of a journey to go and might end up being what some think is a slave. or may not.

But by getting to know a net work of people i think once people get to know you and realise you are a bit of ok ( or not) i would have thought the match makers on here would most likely pass on your profile to someone they think would suit you, or you just my have ended up chatting to someone for the past few months and both realise realise you want to give it a go.

There are many things that could happen, but i am of a mind that you are more likely to attract someone real time if you let people get to know you.  As to them not answering maybe they feel they are not suited, maybe messages did not get through, maybe some dont have manners, either way there was i would say a good reason even if it was bad manners they did not answer.

And if they did get the message or email, and did not answer then you dont need to worry about getting someone without manners.

Hope you find what you are looking for

beanie 

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:47:29 PM   
Cuckme4Life


Posts: 168
Joined: 7/8/2005
From: MentallyDeranged,Tn.
Status: offline 		2 things my frustrated friend :  

1)  im guessing 98% of the profiles on Collarme are full of shit. And thats being generous. Seems the 'real ones' like to at least use the message board. It is an indicator to the serious vs the role players best i can tell. Not that i claim expertise on the general population of Collarme
2) location location location plays a major factor for me finding my needs as well,

But alas you are correct. One would figure to get a slave response or 2 mixed in with the submissives as well.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:47:38 PM   
stef


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Status: offline 		You've been here a whole day.  Maybe you should be just a tad more patient?

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:48:28 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
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Status: offline 		Ah, but that's only one day in Earth time.  In Uranus time, I'm sure it's a whole week!

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:51:05 PM   
MistressDarling


Posts: 31
Joined: 6/30/2006
Status: offline 		D/s relationships take a while to build, as does ANY relationship. Be patient. There are people who've been looking for years, love. It won't happen overnight, love. Keep your chin up!

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 2:58:59 PM   
SadisticMan


Posts: 143
Joined: 8/19/2006
From: Columbus, OH
Status: offline 		yes, I've been searching for a very long time, have come across many
delightful subs/slaves and Dommes.  Just like in a vanilla relationship
there has to be that spark that ignites both of Y/you.  Be patient and
nice and it may happen.
One day is nothing, it takes 2-3 to get a photo approved.  And female
subs get 100's of mails per day.  If you catch the eye of one, they will
contact You too.
Best of luck

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 3:34:03 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
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quote:

ORIGINAL: submit2Bcomplete

Everytime I send a email to a slave in this site, they never repsond back to me. I have only received repsonses from submisives, am I doing something wrong? I am simply trying to find a slave that wants a 24/7, LTR, monogamous M/s relationship.

did someone forget to tell you that slaves (and submissives) don't just fall onto your lap after you join?

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 3:48:28 PM   
KeirasSecret


Posts: 415
Joined: 8/17/2006
From: central NH
Status: offline 		He was only asking if he was doing something wrong for them to reply. He did not say he was expecting to collar them on reply.


< Message edited by KeirasSecret -- 5/28/2007 3:49:20 PM >

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 4:41:55 PM   
grlneedstolearn


Posts: 728
Joined: 1/29/2007
Status: offline 		i would have to agree with everyone else on here who has posted a reply. Just be patient and in time you will find someone. i will use myself as an example; i was on another site for almost a year before i met my Dom and found out that he was also on here. Yea i was getting frustrated and ready to give up, but i was patient enough to wait and search. i also sent out sooo many responses from profiles that caught my eye and emailed them that even now the Doms that i sent an email to have kept in contact with me. Ok so that last part was off the subject a little bit.
  Hope this helps

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 6:29:09 PM   
Suleiman


Posts: 1127
Joined: 9/9/2004
Status: offline 		Oookay... you DO realize that a lot of folks who consider themselves to be slaves also consider themselves to be taken, right? You've gotten responses from submissives. Work towards a 24/7 thing. Keep looking. No one is going to just jump in your shopping cart and let you take them home. It just dosen't work that way.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 6:39:54 PM   
earthycouple


Posts: 4462
Joined: 2/19/2006
Status: offline 		I personally feel your first journal entry is stupid and is way too pissy.  I'd never respond to you based on that alone.  Hey, you asked.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 6:42:22 PM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


Posts: 9259
Joined: 2/5/2004
Status: offline 		Slaves are owned,submissives are not in most cases.I would pursuit the subs,if they are responding perhaps some time invested will bring a slave you are seeking...Many have been here on collarme for 3 or 4 years and still seeking.Things just don't happen over night..BE patient...bounty

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 6:54:19 PM   
Masque66


Posts: 185
Joined: 5/4/2007
Status: offline 		First off, remember that male doms are not in demand.  Subs get emails every day.  They have to sort through them and when they do, they're going to want to pick the most promising ones.  Added into that are fake dominants who are just in it to get a quick kick and then vanish.  They give all of us a bad rep.  Try not to feel frustrated by lack of attention.  Instead focus on building a persona on here.  Post on the boards, get involved in discussions, keep your journal regularly updated, and get a good picture of yourself to put up there (says the guy with a silhouette on his profile).  Make yourself known as more than just a blank line sending messages.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 7:15:20 PM   
SageFemmexx


Posts: 240
Joined: 1/2/2007
Status: offline 		I scanned your profile, found the colors almost impossible to read and deal with and got no sense of you as a person whatsoever. Without a pic and some sense of who you are, I would skip responding to you because to me it would be a waste of time. Oh and the religion in the journal didn't work for me either.

I respond to people with a sense of humor, interests in common that have nothing to do with d/s and don't have whining or complaining in their journals. Try some combination thereof. Why would a sub want to know YOU ?

Be Well,
Sage

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 7:35:38 PM   
MadRabbit


Posts: 3460
Joined: 8/9/2006
Status: offline 		My first impression when I read it was..."Wow...this is a guy who has no idea what hes doing outside of kinky sex"

Hope that helps some.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 7:54:23 PM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
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quote:

ORIGINAL: earthycouple

I personally feel your first journal entry is stupid and is way too pissy.  I'd never respond to you based on that alone.  Hey, you asked.


My guess is that if he is not interested in a self labeled submissive he would be even less interested in a self professed dominant anyways

As a female submissive I found nothing wrong with his journal entry, but that is just my opinion.

To the OP

I do not see anything wrong with your profile, although I do think that you should 1) be more patient 2) realize that many submissives could be appropriate for the level of power exchange you desire if you looked past labels and sought the person behind them instead... just my experience so far... the labels tell you very little about the level of submission an individual is capable of embracing.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 9:43:10 PM   
sublizzie


Posts: 1252
Joined: 5/26/2004
Status: offline 		Other than your dislike for some kinds of play that I find very interesting I thought you had a good profile when I looked at it this evening. I had no issues with your religious content, but then I've got that kind of stuff on my own profile.

It's going to take a long time though. There are a lot of people to wade through.

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