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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 9:00:27 AM   
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Somehow, I don't think 'romance' has to be part of the equation; that isn't the case with opposite sex attractions...so why same-sex?
 
The part that I think is odd is that, while I list myself as bi, I cannot just be 'ordered' to do a woman.  Like others here, I need to find the whole person attractive...not just the bedroom parts.  I guess 'sharing' with people I hardly know is just a limit...


I say that because in my opinion being "Gay" is not just about having sex and what we do with our genitals. It is about who we identify with having an intimate relationship. If being gay is not about just sex, then why is being bisexual? To me we are more than what we do with our genitals, it is whom we form attachments to that matters (just my opinion) 


<smiles warmly>  I wonder if this is a 'gender' difference?  Often (though not always) women want to form relationships before they fuck.  Men often (though not always) feel as if they'd just like to fuck a woman's brains out just for the fun of it!  Women fuck for love...men love to fuck? 
 
Personally, I think sexuality IS about all about the genitals and when we feel the urge to use them.  In my opinion, that has nothing to do with relationships or love or even reality...and everything to do with lust.  That said, adults (of course) do not always act on their attractions; but I believe it is those attractions that determine the sexual interest: hetro, homo, bi...
 
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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 9:02:24 AM   
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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 9:11:43 AM   
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But I thought to look up the exact meaning:


omni-Etymology: Latin, from omnis
: all : universally <omnidirectional>  

So now of course I must ask...does omni-sexual mean one has sexual attraction for just about anything; animal, vegetable... human or no?    Just wonderin'b

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 9:12:29 AM   
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Personally, I think sexuality IS about all about the genitals and when we feel the urge to use them
 
Sex is about reproduction and the genders do view it differently, but even gay men pair bond. We pair bond because of the children that result from sex, but gay people are wired to find each other attractive.

I should say an act of bisexuality is sex with either gender... but just my opinion, being bisexual is more than that....just like being a het is or being gay. Now I am not labeling anyone else, they can define and label themselves as they would like.. but the title of this thread is what it is to me.. and that is what it is to me. If I had sex with a woman tomorrow, enjoyed it, I would not consider myself bi. I never see a female and think about doing her, I never fantasize about women I know.. although I have had bisexual fantasies... that TO ME does not make me bisexual. I only think about pair bonding with men.

I have talked to more than one gay person about this topic, and to them being gay or het or bi is not about sex.. because gay men in the closet who are married have sex with women.. it does not make them bi to do so... they desire men in more than a sexual way

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 9:13:22 AM   
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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 9:23:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me, bisexuality is about choice.  I believe that everyone is inherently bisexual to some degree or another.  However, as we go along in life, with our experiences and our upbringing, we make a choice.  Most people become "straight" simply because they are attracted to the opposite sex and it is more socially acceptable.  Other people become "gay" because while they find beauty in the opposite sex, the same sex holds more allure.  And there are others who really couldn't give a damn about boy parts or girly parts.  I fall into this final category.  I don't really have much of a preference, and I could be happy with either sex.
Edited because I forgot a word. >.<


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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 10:44:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I should say an act of bisexuality is sex with either gender... but just my opinion, being bisexual is more than that....just like being a het is or being gay.



Nicely said Julia. I think it expresses the idea much better than i ever could. After hearing my daughter and her friends use the work trisexual i asked her what it meant, and she said she wasn't sure so we looked it up and found it to be sex with men, women and either one's self or animals depending on the source.

Of course you had to make me look for Omnisexual now! and i got

sexual interactions with all sentient species
 
SO i guess veggies are out, but i'm not really sure why....

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:07:00 AM   
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It was suggested on another post that we consider this question separately, so here it is. Please note this is specifically worded to ask your OPINION on the matter. As such no arguments or attacks are necessary, let's let everyone have their say please.

IMO there are two types of bisexuality...


this slave believes that there are all sorts of unique individuals who have sexual intercourse and/or form various relationships with other unique individuals.  often the same word is used to describe a totally different personal experience.
 
defining the sexual or relationship orientation of another person is no more than speculation, regardless of how many folks agree or disagree with it.
 
so with that in mind, if this slave identified as bisexual, her definition would mean that an interest and desire would be present within this slave's mind and/or loins to engage in casual sex and/or intimate realtionships with folks who identify as either male or female.
 
if someone else identified themselves to this slave as bisexual, just like any other label, this slave would have to ask for clarification of what they meant, if she really wanted to understand their usage of the word---just like many descriptive words that have various meanings and usage, e.g. slave, submissive, etc.

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:10:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't give a damn about labels. I just think that most people just aren't getting enough lol. Sex that is. It's always been the person that turned me on not their gender.
If your turned on by someone and they are turned on by you. Then you will find a way to enjoy them sexually. Or not of course. What you call yourself is really rather imaterial in my mind.

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:18:36 AM   
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defining the sexual or relationship orientation of another person is no more than speculation, regardless of how many folks agree or disagree with it.
 
so with that in mind, if this slave identified as bisexual, her definition would mean that an interest and desire would be present within this slave's mind and/or loins to engage in casual sex and/or intimate realtionships with folks who identify as either male or female.
 
if someone else identified themselves to this slave as bisexual, just like any other label, this slave would have to ask for clarification of what they meant, if she really wanted to understand their usage of the word---just like many descriptive words that have various meanings and usage, e.g. slave, submissive, etc. 


Ahhhhhhhhhh, well said!  I need to keep this in mind and just relax my interest in defining everything!  Thanks,  beth!!!
 
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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:28:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me its pretty simple.  I've had sex with another woman and I would do it again and wouldn't rule anything out just because a woman's involved.

Being bisexual like that isn't a huge part of my sexual identity.  Its secondary to being submissive and a masochist.

There is an experience factor.  I'm used to men as partners, and generally have a rough idea how to go about it, even though I'm a bit of a clutz.  But I've never approached a woman before. In general, though, there's probably a lot more women I'm attracted to than there are men I'm attracted to.  I think I just like women better, as a group.  But, I like men too. I just need to know them more before I develop any affection for them.  I don't have as much 'natural' sympathy for them.

My sister who's a lesbian got on my case a little while ago after I went to her for support after being dumped by a guy.  She wouldn't hear any of my complaining 'cause, in her opinion, I just keep making the same mistake without learning from it.  According to her, my mistake is being with men in the first place.  lol


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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:28:32 AM   
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Bi sexuality to me, is the ability to enjoy sexual activity with both genders.    


This is the best definition to date.  Thank you :)

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:31:27 AM   
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Bi sexuality to me, is the ability to enjoy sexual activity with both genders.    


This is the best definition to date.  Thank you :)


I'm a masochist.  Enjoyment and sexual satisfaction aren't necessarily related. :)


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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 11:55:07 AM   
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in my view, i am bisexual becuase the forms of both sexes are exciting to me. i enjoy sex with both for different reasons. in my single days, long, long ago, gender was not a discriminating factor. i wanted relationships with good souls, not the flesh sack the soul was wrapped in. my logic doesn't work for everyone, but i am married to an amazing soul wrapped in a sexy body, so it worked for me  phoenix


I would put my money on this definition.

It is somebody who has sex with the person(s), regardless of gender differences.

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 12:32:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		me personally...i would label bisexual, but i'm attracted to individual women rather than women in general.  oh, i see graceful curves as lovely, but i dont want to jump just *anyone* male or female.

its the person i wish to be with, not necessarily dependant on the genital bits they happen to have.

kitten, who is much to sleepy for 3:30 in the afternoon....

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 12:34:31 PM   
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i used to know someone who described themselves as 'omnisexual'.........


My favorite is still polymorphously perverse.

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 12:35:48 PM   
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My favorite is still polymorphously perverse.


Yes!

And what happened to pansexual?  I feel as if the het/bi/homo-sexual is stuck within a heteronormative grammar and incorportates all its questionable assumptions.

(its dawning on me that maybe you were being sarcastic when you mentioned polymorphously perverse)


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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 12:41:43 PM   
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My favorite is still polymorphously perverse. 


Ohhhhhhhhh... I love being perverse; but I aspire to be polymorphously perverse!
 
<nods> Yup, I like that one! 
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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 1:45:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		If the idea of sex with people of either gender appeals....that is bisexual.
Myself, I am busexual in that I have had and may have sex with people of both genders, however I would only be inclined to have a long term relationship with a woman...men are, as a rule, to stupid to appeal to me

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RE: What is Bisexuality to YOU? - 5/29/2007 2:25:01 PM   
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If the idea of sex with people of either gender appeals....that is bisexual.
Myself, I am busexual in that I have had and may have sex with people of both genders, however I would only be inclined to have a long term relationship with a woman...men are, as a rule, to stupid to appeal to me

'busexual:  now that's a new one. Does this mean you have sex on a bus or find your partners on a bus?  :) LOL

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