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jonathan -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/1/2007 8:17:22 PM)

Well, all, it's been a fun read & i am strongly in the camp for written assignments as part of both training & discernment by a Domme (or Dom, fer that matter). i would have missed out on a lot and not know of Some like Ms. Sonnet Marwood if i hadn't had them last year. A daily assignment was to subscribe to the CM boards, troll them, & respond, for example. Topics for broader search engines would be personal care & cooking. If You don't make him cook for You as part of the audition, You're missing out and possibly in store for a lot of bad meals. :-))) Online & handwritten journals are de facto.

But what i would like to know is who has appropriated the Faery Queen as her avatar? In 14 months, i have only seen that icon associated with but one Name, and it's not one on this thread. Although it ought to be, ex-Ma'am loved writtten assignments.



Laura -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/1/2007 8:39:08 PM)

There are some really great blogs kept by male subs and slaves. I have read or at least skimmed those listed at Dmoz in male subs and FemDoms




LadyHugs -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/1/2007 9:23:23 PM)

Dear pixelslave, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eyes, as I have watched Heterosexual men who identify as slave and or submissive interact with each other; there is only a very superficial conversation and no different than what is discussed over the water cooler in an office.
 
It is also been an observation of mine, that there is rare sharing of any conversation between Heterosexual men who are masculine and those who lean towards sissy and or feminine service and or attitude and or behavior.
 
With such a rare find of any submissive and or slave male, who identify as Heterosexual; that goes beyond the weeds we must pull to fine those rare gems, e.g. Heterosexual men; it is easy to understand how difficult it may be to communicate and express the areas deeply personal and emotionally charged.
 
So few men 'get it' --that its beyond sex to which service in of itself can be an orgasm for a Dominant, not only physically but -- mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  In being served by Gay men-- they do get it.  It is not a sexual threat to sexual preferences and yet, both of us do get an mental, emotional and spiritual orgasm out of it.  I credit my first slave who was also Gay in understanding of all the Masters he could have chosen--he picked me and loved and served me for nine beautiful years.
 
Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



pixelslave -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/1/2007 10:13:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear pixelslave, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eyes, as I have watched Heterosexual men who identify as slave and or submissive interact with each other; there is only a very superficial conversation and no different than what is discussed over the water cooler in an office.
 
It is also been an observation of mine, that there is rare sharing of any conversation between Heterosexual men who are masculine and those who lean towards sissy and or feminine service and or attitude and or behavior.
 
With such a rare find of any submissive and or slave male, who identify as Heterosexual; that goes beyond the weeds we must pull to fine those rare gems, e.g. Heterosexual men; it is easy to understand how difficult it may be to communicate and express the areas deeply personal and emotionally charged.
 
So few men 'get it' --that its beyond sex to which service in of itself can be an orgasm for a Dominant, not only physically but -- mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  In being served by Gay men-- they do get it.  It is not a sexual threat to sexual preferences and yet, both of us do get an mental, emotional and spiritual orgasm out of it.  I credit my first slave who was also Gay in understanding of all the Masters he could have chosen--he picked me and loved and served me for nine beautiful years.
 
Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs


What you've said is understandable to me Lady Hugs.  I had the rare experience 10 or so years ago to be part of a group of 10 men who each shared "their story" with each other of their personal experiences of having been sexually abused as children.  It was the most honest sharing of very deep feelings, emotions, and heartfelt empathy I've ever experiencd or witnessed between heterosexual men from all walks of life. 
 
I could easily see submissive males forming groups to discuss what it is like for them to be submissives living in a vanilla society along with their feelings about their submission toward the dominant women in their lives and the many related issues that affect them.  When done on that level, it can happen.  Men are capable of it, if the desire and need to share is there. [&:]
 
 - pixel



foolishguy -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/2/2007 1:37:39 PM)




Thank you all for your warm welcome.  Thank you again Calandra for opening the topic. By your enlightened keep and tutelage  your subs are deliverd to better lives. They have much to be thankful for. You seem to well deserve the royal title “Lady” in your moniker (you are Lady Kathyrn ?).


  Maam Jay, Politesub53, and pixelslave … thank you for your comments also. It’s nice to hear that what a sub has to say matters to his Domme, at least from time to time. I will try to find your suggested book ‘Training with Miss Abernathy’


  I looked to find a good word to describe the act of a Domme improving the lives of her subs through intellectual cultivation. Husbandry seem close,  but somehow that does not sound right. Maybe a variation  - Sub husbandry? Subsandry? Domme ministration?


  And Maam Jay, I started to fantasize about the scenario you presented. I wanted to write out how I would experience it and ask if I could send it to you. After many hours of very, very pleasant thoughts on the subject I realized you probably would not want me to do that. So, I did not write it out, but, wow, what a lovely fantasy journey it sent me on. ( I would of course love to write it out and send it to you, or anyone interested for that matter).


  Thanks for the replies all, and I look forward to getting to know you all better, and letting you all know me better as well.




  FoolishGuy



pixelslave -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/2/2007 9:14:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: foolishguy
  I looked to find a good word to describe the act of a Domme improving the lives of her subs through intellectual cultivation. Husbandry seem close,  but somehow that does not sound right. Maybe a variation  - Sub husbandry? Subsandry? Domme ministration?


I don't know that it needs a lifestle specific name, I just consider it a part of the "mentoring" that naturally occurs between those with more knowedge, wisdom, or experience than others and those whom they take under their "wing" to guide and tutor.


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And Maam Jay, I started to fantasize about the scenario you presented. I wanted to write out how I would experience it and ask if I could send it to you. After many hours of very, very pleasant thoughts on the subject I realized you probably would not want me to do that. So, I did not write it out, but, wow, what a lovely fantasy journey it sent me on. ( I would of course love to write it out and send it to you, or anyone interested for that matter).


You've nothing to lose by writing it for your own learning experience.  If you'd like Ma'am Jay to read it, I suggest you contact her "on the other side" first with a private message to see if she's open to doing that.  You'll find that's the way things work around here.  Women are generally very offended by a sub who approaches them wanting to share his fantasies during an intial introduction (that's where the phrase "do me sub" comes from). 
 
Instead, they want to be approached as women by men who are interested in getting to know them as such; who are interested in learning about their personalities, vanilla interests, hobbies, etc, with no mention of sex, BDSM, D/s, etc.  They'll let you know when they want to go there.  Just follow their lead in that regard.  [&:]
 
As a side note, I took a brief look at your profile and saw some very good things there that should be of interest to many Dommes here on CM.  Yet, it still needs some work and I think you'll find it will be time well spent.  My main comment would be to start it out on a very positive note.  Most women won't really care what you're looking for (or not looking for in your particular case), first they'll want to know what you have to offer them!  I'd strongly suggest that you move that material to the top of your profile and rearrange things from there.  I know you didn't ask for a critique, but as you're seriously looking and seem genuine to me, I wanted to offer you whatever assistance I could in that regard. [:)]
 
I hope this helps you get off on the right foot and not "trip over the appendage between your legs". [;)]
 
 - pixel



YesMistressIrish -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/3/2007 1:29:08 AM)

jonathon said: But what i would like to know is who has appropriated the Faery Queen as her avatar? In 14 months, i have only seen that icon associated with but one Name, and it's not one on this thread. Although it ought to be, ex-Ma'am loved writtten assignments.
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jonathon,
That avatar has been on the web for years. I myself used it for 2 yrs before I ever came to this site. It is offered by the cm staff as a public avatar. If you google fairies as a image, it is there.
 
funny: you said nothing of the great links I shared, just made a sideways comment about 'her' avatar?
 
Dusty Gold does not have a problem with this, so why should you?
 
Mistress Irish



jonathan -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/9/2007 5:07:42 PM)

Well, first, Ma'am, You can start by spelling my name correctly. Second, i will always associate that public domain avatar with Her and it was jarring, after all this time, to see it associated with someone else. i've already been chided about my comment by Her. But then, when i came back on the boards this year, i stated that i didn't care who i annoyed.



DiannaVesta -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/10/2007 9:00:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Red82

i would love to hear if anyone has ever assigned such things as reading and being able to explain Plato's Theory of Forms, or Nietzsche's philosophy's on modern day christianity. I suppose that wouldent be very common...


No but I have requested some to read Jung, also some Goddess pagan books such as "Drawing Down The Moon" - "Once and Future Goddess" various books to understand the nature of the Divine Feminine.



DiannaVesta -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/10/2007 9:02:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: jonathan

Well, first, Ma'am, You can start by spelling my name correctly.



I can't beleive you said that to her and you're registered as a slave? unreal



DiannaVesta -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/10/2007 9:05:02 AM)

I give assignments and the follow up is written. On one of my sites trainee's request to be train and myself or another woman will take it on. It then becomes interactive with follow up and pictures. These can get very elaborate and detailed. Sometimes they may include a writing assignment. 



Politesub53 -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/10/2007 10:09:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: jonathan

Well, first, Ma'am, You can start by spelling my name correctly.



I can't beleive you said that to her and you're registered as a slave? unreal



It was a petty remark considering it was a simple spelling error. Especially as he has  " writtten " assignments, which shows we all make such simple errors.
[;)]



YesMistressIrish -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/11/2007 4:12:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: jonathan

Well, first, Ma'am, You can start by spelling my name correctly.



I can't beleive you said that to her and you're registered as a slave? unreal



It was a petty remark considering it was a simple spelling error. Especially as he has  " writtten " assignments, which shows we all make such simple errors.
[;)]

Thanks Dianna Vesta and politesub! Hi to you both. I enjoy reading your posts.
 
Here are some links for newbie subs and makes great reading for people who love to read about basic male-wife submissiveness.
http://femaleauthority.blogspot.com/
http://ladymisato.bravehost.com/introduction.html Lady Misato is very busy, so she may not return emails.
http://wifeworship.tripod.com/home.htm
http://www.aroundherfinger.com/women.html

The guys can do write ups on the above.
 
Miss Irish, having a blast in Ca
(edited to add yet another link!)



NoVacancy -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/11/2007 4:39:10 AM)

My birthday was a little over a week ago.  My Dom gave me a compass for my birthday.  I have never had a compass before and though it was a neat gadget...I didn't really have any understanding how to use it.  But I still valued it because it was a gift from Him.  Friday night, he instructed me to align it with a wall in my house and then send him the heading in degrees and mils and he would check my answer with information in the public domain.  I didn't have a clue how to start and didn't even know what a "mil" was.  So, that night I went onto the internet and taught myself how to do it. I had to draw out the circle and label the cardinal points, the intercardinal points and then the secondary intercardinal points, and then add up the degrees per point.  I got my reading in degrees that way. Then I had to research how to read a compass in mils.  There are apparently three different ways....the way defined by NATO and the US, the way adopted for ease of mathematical computation by NATO and the US and then the Soviet method.  So....I did it in all three methods and submitted my answer.

He was very pleased that I had taken the time to learn it and report back (and his pleasure is like gold to me), and was even more pleased upon learning of the soviet method that uses 6000 mils per 360 degrees, which explained a mystery to him about how they use  some of the numbers in rifle sightings like 3.6, which you can't get with either the 2 pi scale (the defined method) or the 6400 scale (the adopted method), but with the soviet method it came out to exactly 3.6. 

So.......I was beaming....lol......AND, now I know a little bit more about how to use my compass!!!

To me, being tasked....I don't really care what the task is, is recognizing my need to perform some activity designed for my Masters pleasure.  His approval of my efforts is the greatest reward I could imagine. 



YesMistressIrish -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/11/2007 6:40:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: jonathan

Well, first, Ma'am, You can start by spelling my name correctly.... But then, when i came back on the boards this year, i stated that i didn't care who i annoyed.


Well, I am thankful that you talked to me that way so ALL of the dommes on the boards can see what you are really like!
 
*happy to be helpful to dommes!
Miss Irish 



pixelslave -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/11/2007 12:51:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta
No but I have requested some to read Jung, also some Goddess pagan books such as "Drawing Down The Moon" - "Once and Future Goddess" various books to understand the nature of the Divine Feminine.


Interesting choice of books Dianna.  I've read some of Jung which was not an easy read as I recall.  The others sound interesting to me and I will add them to my list of "things to read when I have the liesure time to spare". [:D]
 
Mistress had wanted me to add to this thread, something I'd forgotten when I got very busy with important things shortly thereafter; it's that she prefers not to have a sub write for her, but instead review any assignments with her orally.  It's akin to what some might refer to as time spent talking quietly on the sofa or as "pillow time".  She's mildly dyslexic and often finds reading a chore for her.  So rather than expending time writing for her, she prefers someone present their findings or thoughts on a subject verbally instead, or summarized in a brief note. [:)]
 
In the time that we've been together, I've researched a number of things for her, frequently without being asked simply because I was aware of her need and wanted to do it for her; not because of our D/s dynamic.  Because I care for her, I'd have done it for her anyway.  It's simply part of my nature.  But I did want to mention this, not just because she asked, but also because there's such a wide variety of ways of absorbing information, some of which works better for one person than it does for another.  For those who have trouble reading or writing, using a voice recorder or something along those lines, might be an alternative which could be utilized as an alternative for making notes and recording their thoughts.  Thinking "outside the box" is something common to this lifestyle and I'd think it would equally apply to assignments of this type as well. [8|]
 
Respectfully submitted for your consideration and thought. [&:]
 
 - pixel



jonathan -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/14/2007 3:29:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

quote:

ORIGINAL: jonathan

Well, first, Ma'am, You can start by spelling my name correctly.



I can't beleive you said that to her and you're registered as a slave? unreal



That's pretty much what i expected You to say about my remark when i saw that You had posted recently. Most people expect to be addressed correctly in public discourse.

P. S. It's 'i' before 'e' except after 'c', etcetera.



YesMistressIrish -> RE: Written assignments for ongoing education..? (6/18/2007 5:23:49 AM)

First, I'd like to request we get back to the beautiful subject at hand.   And, jonathan: please take it up in private and off of this thread!
 
I would like to find out what links for contracts anyone likes the best? I am about to collar a boy and would love to give him this assignment and have him write up a first draft.
 
I was reading one of the old thread re:contracts and thought it would be a fun thing to discuss. Not the legality, puulease? Which ones you have used as a basic contract for subs duties, agreements for conduct or duties, punishments if duties not done, etc.etc.
 
Thanks,
Miss Irish



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