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dogobedience -> BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:26:14 PM)

What makes BDSM stick to you. What are the driving forces to put and keep you here.

For me, I was born with a desire to control, and learned how to get what I want in my world. The outside world has challenges some of which I can control. My private world, I CONTROL IT. 



AquaticSub -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:33:39 PM)

It's more personally fulfilling then non-d/s relationships and I enjoy the kinky stuff as well.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:35:07 PM)

It's just what works for me, my orientation, my interests.



ennaozzie -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:36:19 PM)

I look on BDSM more as referring to the kinks, I look on D/s as the control/submission, my assumption might be wrong but that is how I see it, it’s the D/s that keeps me interested.  The aspects of BDSM that I am interested in is the icing on the cake so to speak.
 
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Lashra -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:38:35 PM)

I like to be in charge, hence I own my own company and in my relationship I make the decisions. I always keep my subs needs/desires in mind but the bottom line is what I want is going to happen and that is how I like it. I enjoy D/s relationships because a male sub understands my need for control as I understand his need to submit. I would never go back to vanilla.

~Lashra



beargonewild -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:41:16 PM)

There are many reasons for me but the main one is BDSM has awaken a part of who I am as a person which was dormant for many years. Thus it has allowed me to grow as a person and to learn more about myself and of life in general.



needDomme -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:56:49 PM)

It's just the way i've been wired since birth.  i first discovered it around age 5 and then found out none of my friends ever dreamed of wanting to be Dommed.  Thank goodness we now have the internet.

need



dogobedience -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:57:24 PM)

Interesting so far.



dogobedience -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 1:59:49 PM)

Yes to the net, and thanks to collarme, bondage and alt. It brings ALL levels of this lifestyle together.



Einzelganger -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 2:25:59 PM)

I've always found a sort of calm, or solace in following someone else's orders (even more so with someone I trust), and I've always been uncomfortable (to say the least) when placed in positions of authority.  This goes back as far as I can remember, as does my desire to help or serve others (another reason I became a mechanic eight or so years ago).  This is the reason vanilla relationships just don't work for me.  That, and I have some kinky tastes. :)

-Einzelgänger



jauntyone -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 2:45:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dogobedience

What makes BDSM stick to you. What are the driving forces to put and keep you here.

For me, I was born with a desire to control, and learned how to get what I want in my world. The outside world has challenges some of which I can control. My private world, I CONTROL IT. 

Greetings
 
BDSM does not 'stick' to me. There are no driving forces which put and keep me within a submissive mindset. I simply am.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa



dogobedience -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 2:54:04 PM)

Sounds like my property kali speaking, she said similar words as I was typing the orginal thread.



maledave7 -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 4:27:54 PM)

Since I was young, I have always had the desire to submit. I do enjoy being a service to others. I am more of a follower than a leader. I prefer a D/s relationship to a vanilla one.



junecleaver -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 6:15:22 PM)

My personal relationships crash and burn without this dynamic.  There was always a lot of resentment towards my vanilla partners for not being what I wanted in a Dominant, which was totally unfair of me.  My relationships also tended to come down to a bottom line of 'control or be controlled' (I won.) and  I simply am not happy when in control.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 7:16:06 PM)

It is me, enough said. That is it![:)]



gabrielarya -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 7:25:58 PM)

it took years to find who i am .. once i did alot of soul searching i came to relize that i am a slave .. it what makes my heart sing, and my soul soar so it is just who i am i always tell people that enslavement is what sets me free .. free to be me 



szobras -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 7:55:18 PM)

There are a few things that have always remained throughout,no matter how my life has changed. It is the difference between embracing what is part of me instead of denying it.



Elorin -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 7:57:56 PM)

I came across BDSM and it felt like I had come home. I never intended to leave, and so far I haven't.

Parts of BDSM that are intrinsic to me: acceptance. your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok. sheer satisfaction in service done well. empowerment. the awe I feel when someone gives me their body and says "hurt me. please."

There are myriad others, but those are a few.
~E



EvilGeoff -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 8:05:24 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dogobedience

What makes BDSM stick to you. What are the driving forces to put and keep you here.


I'm a sadist.  It's much much easier to find people to do the things I want to do with.  And I stay out of prison this way.  Snatching random girls or boys from the mall would not be conducive to my continuing state of freedom. 

YIK,
- Geoff



farieanne -> RE: BDSM glue (5/29/2007 9:29:11 PM)

Someone said that they see BDSM and D/s as different and i do as well. The BDSM part is fun, icing, so to speak, but it's the D/s i am here for.
 
I have been on my own since i was 15. i managed to never be homeless and never sell myself or drugs, i even graduated with honors. It was hard but i controlled and managed. i was told how strong i was both mentally and physically. When people thought of me it was not of a soft, meek, feminine person. i got married young had UM and got divorced young. i raised two UM mostly alone. All this i did and did well. However i was always a nervous wreck. Never completely happy even to the point of having a problem with my temper. When i have to do things that i am in control and in charge i can do it but i am a nervous wreck the whole time. Something as simple as a bus ride or plane trip. The entire time i feel i am doing it wrong, making mistakes and it makes me TOTALLY insane.
 
i got online for the first time in '99' and started seeing glimpses of BDSM and D/s. i still did not begin really reading until late 2000 early 2001. WOW! It was me. someone had climbed into my heart and mind and wrote it all down. i begin to learn and grow. A side of me i had repressed started to emerge, a softer more feminine me and boy i like her.
 
Now mid 2007 i am owned, collard, and married to an AMAZING Dom i met in early 2005 whom i am crazily in love with. i have never been happier. i have never felt more womanly and feminine. i have never felt so calm, relaxed, and free. my temper, though not completely under control, Hey it was out of control for near 40 years, is much better. Why would i not stay? Why would i stop being me?



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