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The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 8:17:50 AM

solvr70

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i've heard a number of different ideas around this, and i'm sure there will be all kinds of different ideas here as well.

i've heard that a bottom's interests are more specifically sexual in nature then a sub.

i'd be interested in what the difference between a sub and a bottom is.

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 8:25:44 AM

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The fun part of course is that a person can be BOTH a sub and a bottom, even in the same relationship

http://www.collarchat.com/m_928975/mpage_2/key_sub%252Cbottom/tm.htm#937197
slaves vs subs vs bottoms

http://www.collarchat.com/m_902367/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cbottom/tm.htm#902575
are many submissives really bottoms?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_609210/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cbottom/tm.htm#609303
sub vs bottom

http://www.collarchat.com/m_562822/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cbottom/tm.htm#562831
what are "tops" and "bottoms"?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_217374/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cbottom/tm.htm#217549
sub or bottom"

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 8:45:12 AM

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My quick definition..... A bottom is someone who takes the role for play (bedroon-type) only. A submissive is who takes that role for more than just sex.

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 8:46:42 AM

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What's sex got to do with it, got to do with it?

In the usual vernacular, a bottom is someone who 'receives' during sensation play/painplay/SM play.

A submissive is a relationship dynamic where they 'submit' a portion of their will (choices, decision-making) to another. It might or might not involve 'play' at all.

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 9:33:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

The fun part of course is that a person can be BOTH a sub and a bottom, even in the same relationship

Another fun part is that a person can be BOTH a bottom and a Master, even in the same relationship. ;-) Rather reminds me of a mix-n-match story book.

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 10:06:43 AM

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I wouldn't restrict bottom to meaning sexual or bedroom (simply because I do not believe all scenes/sensations/ are always sexual).

My personal definition is that a bottom is simply the person on the receiving end.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

The fun part of course is that a person can be BOTH a sub and a bottom, even in the same relationship

Another fun part is that a person can be BOTH a bottom and a Master, even in the same relationship. ;-) Rather reminds me of a mix-n-match story book.

Master Fire

And another fun part is someone can be a submissive top as well -

Me - I am thinking Pick'n'Mix...

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 10:12:39 AM

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A submissive submits to a Dominant, sometimes in the bedroom, sometimes out of the bedroom, sometimes part of the time, sometimes 24/7.

A bottom is a person who likes to be the recipient of what the Top can dish out. Whether it be pain, humilation, spanking etc. This does not make a person submissive, as I know of some Dominants who have their submissives Top them and tell them exactly what they will do and the submissive follows the orders.

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RE: The difference between a sub and bottom - 6/1/2007 1:38:47 PM

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thanks to Everyone! bottom would seem to fit me best generally. but one day sub to One hopefully

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