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RE: waiting for punishment - 6/3/2007 8:16:03 AM

justbambi

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Daddy will usually tell me immediately when I've done something wrong and I know that if the situation isn't right (i.e. UM around, in-laws, other vanilla folk) then the punishment will wait for later that evening.

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RE: waiting for punishment - 6/3/2007 9:32:20 AM

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sometimes for a severe infraction Daddy will wait days, and sometimes as long as a week or more, before inflicting a punishment, as he needs time to cool down and reflect on what went wrong/where to go from there. i HATE this waiting period, as i'll be constantly jumpy and nervous, on-edge, and dwelling on what a terrible slave i am, whether or not he's going to release me, etc. during that period, no food will taste good, no air will be fresh and sweet, no joke will be funny, life just loses all of its color; i fall into a shallow depression. He understands this self-torture i go through and finds it right and good, the wait also serves as part of the punishment.

of course before we lived together punishment had to wait until our next visit, which at times was as long as 2 weeks, but that's a different sort of situation entirely.

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RE: waiting for punishment - 6/3/2007 10:58:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

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ORIGINAL: Arastella

Oh god, yes I've experienced it before. And I usually can't get it out of my head period. And it hurts because I'm filled with guilt the whole time.

The best 'punishments' are like this. Oftentimes you don't need to really 'do' anything to a sub/slave, because what they are doing to themselves is quite fine, thanks.

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It's like a dog. Sometimes they make mistakes, and you swat them for doing something wrong. But if you do it two days later, they have no idea 'why' it's happening, and it borders on abuse.

Jeff

I don't want to sound like I am flaming or being obnoxious - I know that no one here (not Jeff or anyone else) is really propounding prolonged emotional abuse as appropriate punishment (or mentioning dog training as a real model for human relationships :: grin ::). Disclaimer aside...

I am glad that people are recognizing that sometimes the emotional effects of waiting can be extremely painful: perhaps entirely out of proportion to an offense - or even counter-productive, on occasion (such as when someone is left to obsess for a long time over his or her feelings of guilt, inadequacy, abandonment, or pain).

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RE: waiting for punishment - 6/3/2007 9:32:42 PM

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Actually for me this is a big topic I talked about with my new Master as I have pretty strong feelings about this topic that it went into a compatibility thing with me.

For any minor things that is something my Master would not get emotionally affected by I pretty much should be something done quickly and not days later and especially if it is something that happen because discipline has been missing. I am not a child and have some sort of weekly demerit meeting is beneath me and my Master. The goal is to live an M/s life not play at one. For something major I think waiting for a cool down is good but again I do not think being dragged out in days to torment is a good thing either.

Some have mentioned how the waiting is punishment as well as a benefit but I find this to be short term thinking. My opinion communication which we talk about constantly about in this life is being intentionally sabotaged by this and I do not think fear of unknown really is basically punitive and not helping to overall aspects of the relationship. Short term of course these things can work but I just do not think it is wise to intentionally cloud communication or acting differently in this area then all other areas just because you will get a certain reaction and I think it can hurt in the long run.

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RE: waiting for punishment - 6/10/2007 7:33:35 PM

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The knowledge that I have done wrong or dispeased my Master is far worse than anything he can punish me with. Sometimes it is immediate and sometimes I am made to wait until he considers an appropriate punishment. I prefer the immediate ones always as the waiting reminds me always of my mistakes and that is awful. Once punishment is given all is forgiven and there is closure.

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RE: waiting for punishment - 6/11/2007 1:27:02 PM

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We don't have a punishment dynamic but personally ratchetting up the anxiety level is not something we do. I have generalized anxiety disorder and being given just enough info about something will cause panic. I suggest you know whether or not she suffers from panic attacks before you decide to do this. Because if so, deliberately causing a panic attack is a really harmful thing to do.

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RE: waiting for punishment - 1/27/2008 7:44:03 PM

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For Me and mine periodic punishments are better because we can only get together a couple times a month. Separate tallies for separate mistakes. Like sniffling, he sniffles pretty constantly and it's incredibly annoying. Etc Etc. The punishments are different for each offense. Like say sniffling will get him a lash for each sniffle. But if he was late he would get a good spanking. So lateness plus sniffling gets a spanking plus lashes until all has been payed for.

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