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WooPah! - 6/2/2007 11:22:12 AM

OnyxDelphi

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So, out of curiosity. I am wondering, what is you guyses favorite form of discipline to your subs? Or subs, what's your favorite discipline against you?

I can already tell you that mine above the rest is spanking, but I would like to broaden my horizens by reading what you guys have to say.

P.s. And yes, I know "guyses" isn't a word.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 11:32:31 AM

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A wise Man once remarked, "If its something the sub enjoys, it's not discipline, it's play."

As to the intent of your post, fairer prefers being spanked to just about anything. The best way to actually discipline her though is cutting off communication for a specific period of time. It allows her time to reflect on what ever she has done to warrant punishment.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 11:33:34 AM

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If he is having to correct me he is not enjoying himself so I doubt that he would label it as "a favorite". The most effective way he found to correct my behavior he doesn't like is to talk to me. He explains the behavior that is not acceptable and what behavior he expects to see. Then he makes sure I understand the expectations and we move on.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 11:42:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OnyxDelphi

So, out of curiosity. I am wondering, what is you guyses favorite form of discipline to your subs? Or subs, what's your favorite discipline against you?

I can already tell you that mine above the rest is spanking, but I would like to broaden my horizens by reading what you guys have to say.

P.s. And yes, I know "guyses" isn't a word.

There should be IMO no favorite punishment. It is punishment!..neither should be happy or anticapatory as to its advent..It means a wrong was done on the submissives part and the Dominant must now show and correct a possible failure on his part on the one he has instructed, and guided...punishment usually fits the "crime" so to speak..If you are doling out spanking as a punishment to one who adores spanking, then that is pleasure not punishment.And if you are doing so to enjoy the thrill of the spanking, that too is inappropriate, as then that would create within you a need to find constant things to criticise and punish your submissive for, which could then lead to her possibly feeling as if she were an utter failure..Keep the WooPah for the enjoyment of such ,and learn to know the difference..Tempting

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 11:47:15 AM

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Pain play is just that………PLAY. Punishment/discipline is serious and wouldn’t be fun.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 12:30:16 PM

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I don't particularly enjoy dishing out punishment, and would have to take a long, hard look at myself and how much of a danger I am to others should that attitude change. That said, I've been mentally investigating possible chastisements and holding them in reserve, should Kitten ever do anything disobedient enough to require a punishment.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 12:37:55 PM

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punishment is unpleasant and shaming i have never and doubt i will ever take pleasure in it. That being said however, after punishment when all is gone and forgiven I did feel a warm glow that he used to care enough to correct me. That was the closest it came to pleasure.

Most effective punishment ever used on me was ignoring me and withdrawing from me, sending me away from him showing me that i was so displeasing he would rather i was not there. That as heart breaking.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 12:58:28 PM

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I really dislike punishing my slave, so I don't have a favorite form of discipline, just a series of things I know she absolutely hates doing, but does anyway because she needs to make amends for breaking her rules. That she knows I really dislike punishing her to begin with makes it even worse as she hates displeasing me. In terms of the actual punishments, I make sure that none of them are associated with play, as I don't want us to mix those together. When I pull out a crop, flogger, slappper, violet wand or just lay her over my lap and pull her panties down, I don't want her to associate that with her having broken a rule that she needs to be punished for so she will not break it in the future, I want her to associate that with our extremely intimate connection with each other. For us, it's very important to keep play and discipline separate.

Now in terms of what my favorite thing to do is when we play... god, that's actually hard... right now it's really a toss up between using the violet wand because it is new and it's such a change to have a mere light touch hurt (sparks jumping from me to her, as opposed to say hitting her with something) and having her keep her legs spread wide as I rub and thwack her down there with a crop (on top of the mental challenge of keeping them open there is pleasure and pain mixed together - fun!).

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 1:25:26 PM

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I have found that the Block feature works well when dealing with certain personality types. It blocks all messages from them. Isn't it fun to Ignore de-dee-dee's?

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Nice, thanks for pointing that out!

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 1:26:44 PM

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Like fairer, i would say cutting off comunication for a period of time. my mind is its own worse enemy i am afraid to say, so if communication is cut off, it is more effective if i am given a task of reflection so to focus than to just be left without word. Probably worse than that though is to hear the words "you have disappointed Me"...that cuts me in two :-(

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 1:27:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

If he is having to correct me he is not enjoying himself so I doubt that he would label it as "a favorite". The most effective way he found to correct my behavior he doesn't like is to talk to me. He explains the behavior that is not acceptable and what behavior he expects to see. Then he makes sure I understand the expectations and we move on.

Knight's kyra

I agree with this completely. In my experience talking to the one I am with generally has positive outcomes.

Where the problem becomes is that sometimes I do not feel like talking. Explaining why I do not feel like talking qualifies as talking, which is something I do not feel like doing. I suppose it is an issue because the people I have been in a relationship dont seem to understand that my unwillingness to talk should not be something they should take personally. However, most have not, in my experience, been able to internalize and understand this about me.

I have heard people pontificate about "you are the Dominant, she should suck it up and deal with it," but I am not sure how well that approach works for me. I feel sad that I do not feel like talking, but I also feel that I should listen to my inner self and not talk when I do not feel like talking.

I guess I dont have an answer, but it is my day off and I have retreated into what I call "Shrek Mode." I live in a swamp, I put up signs, Im a terrifying ogre, I like my privacy.

Shrekergy

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 3:16:12 PM

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Julia is truly a wealthy woman

Sooo... what exactly is under that kilt, hmmm?

[Age old question; even Laurel n Hardy kinda addressed that...]

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 4:17:09 PM

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Sooo... what exactly is under that kilt, hmmm?

A soldier in the Black Watch, wearing undergarments under their kilt is considered out of uniform.

A competitor in the Highland Games, not wearing undergarments under their kilt, is considered stupid.

I was asked that very question one night at the Lair by a Domme, and I said that my usual response was to tell people they are welcome to check.

She did.

I mentioned that perhaps I should consider the context of my remarks more diligently.

We both laughed.

Sinergy

p.s. You will have to ask her what I wear under my kilt.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 4:20:51 PM

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Can we ask/probe julia?

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 4:28:48 PM

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Can we ask/probe julia?

Peace

I have not worn my kilt for julia. I was saving it for our first trip to the Lair.

Sinergy

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 4:54:52 PM

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Daddy and my secondary are very creative with their punishments however spanking isn't one of them. however Daddy has cut off communication with me as a stern punishment and believe me, it does make me ponder and reflect about my actions - then work on an apology for Him.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 5:23:50 PM

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I wore my kilt to a friend's wedding and got that question in a snarky tone from one of his groomsmen. My answer left him silent and everyone else (including the pastor) roaring with laughter:

"Your wife's lipstick."

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 5:41:34 PM

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Ignoring or limiting communication is the most effective punishment i know. It worked for me when my mom did it when i was 12 and she was so disappointed in something i did she couldn't talk to me like we used to for several months. I had disappointed her and knew it. I think most of us are very good at punishing ourselves when we need it. Minor correction of behavior etc is different however and a little pain/pleasure play goes a long way toward helping someone remember their duties.

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 6:23:52 PM

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p.s. You will have to ask her what I wear under my kilt.

A blue ribbon, of course!

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RE: WooPah! - 6/2/2007 7:11:33 PM

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Nothing new to add, other than my pesos. I don't want to displease Mistress to warrant any punishment. I enjoy living in harmony, not disruption. I don't see how something you enjoy can be described as punishment. It seems there are others who think much the same way I do. I think the worst form of punishment would be restricted communication and contact, not any form of physical engagement.

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