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ORIGINAL: fairerthanshe

A wise Man once remarked, "If its something the sub enjoys, it's not discipline, it's play."

As to the intent of your post, fairer prefers being spanked to just about anything.  The best way to actually discipline her though is cutting off communication for a specific period of time.  It allows her time to reflect on what ever she has done to warrant punishment.

well wishes,

fairer

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ORIGINAL: CitizenCane

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ORIGINAL: fairerthanshe

A wise Man once remarked, "If its something the sub enjoys, it's not discipline, it's play."

As to the intent of your post, fairer prefers being spanked to just about anything.  The best way to actually discipline her though is cutting off communication for a specific period of time.  It allows her time to reflect on what ever she has done to warrant punishment.

well wishes,

fairer

I would amend that to 'If it's something the sub enjoys, it's not PUNISHMENT'.  Discipline need not be painful or unpleasant- it's about restructuring habits, and making connections between desired behaviors and pleasant feelings is at least as important as making connections between undesired behaviors and unpleasant feelings. In the long run, the connection a sub makes between desired/required behaviors and a sense of positive accomplishment are what will sustain the behavior.
In that context, 'negative' discipline, like a quick spanking, is more about making the sub pay attention to the issue at hand than it is about deterring a negative behavior. If a sub is expected to address her dom as 'Sir', for example, and fails to do it, a quick slap on the ass is a reminder that may actually be experienced in an enjoyable way- but the momentary 'pain' sensation still helps focus her mind on seeking the correct behavior. It's neither a punishment for an egregious crime or a deterrent of negative behaviour, it's simply a stimulus that helps build a desired habit.