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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I've had an empty nest for almost one year.  I did something I've been thinking about doing for years, but kept putting off because I felt I should be home after work for my um's.  I finally got a second job.  That is the best cure I've found for an empty nest.  I have no problem with living alone because I've always required a lot of solitude and alone time, even as a child.  I love doing or not doing whatever I choose to do.  Prior to this my kids ruled my schedule, and I never minded it because they are the priority.  You will probably find that you enjoy your alone time.

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

My daughter recently moved out.  As a mother that dedicated a great deal of waking hours to her child, I find myself a little lost without someone in the house with me. 

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Now that she is out I find myself wondering what to do with myself.  I have overly emersed myself with work (amazing amounts of OT) and trying to figure out how to cook for one.

What do you do with yourself until you find that real someone to become a part of your life?  I probably shouldn't be posting this, some might take it for weakness.  I look at it as being human, suffering the "empty nest" thing (don't want to refer to it as a syndrome).  I don't want to be one of those people that sits at the computer for hours on end looking for something to do.  Yes, I get out and do things when I have time/energy but living in a small town there are a limited amount of things to do that don't involve filling up my gas tank more than once every couple of weeks.

• The thing is I never had a problem with having my own space, since it was just she and I, we both had our privacy and our own space.  I think its just the warm body missing in my home. 
  
• She is 22 years old so she has been grown and independent for a while with most things.  I have all my hobbies etc.  Sure there are some things that can be done to make my whole home my space.  It just doesn't put that warm body back.  (you know, the kind that will call 911 when they come in at 2 in the morning and find that you have fallen and can't get up)<~~joke

• anything would be an improvement over the mass of flesh she calls her fiancé.

• Smoking has NEVER been an option for me.  How many languages does ICKY POO   translate to?
  
• I have done horribly on the cooking.  Even though I was on an eating plan previous to her leaving, Burger King and Arby's have become very close friends
  
• Distractions, distractions.  A slave would be a welcome distraction
  
• I thought about a drum set and a saxophone.  I could go out and entertain the neighbors as a one woman band

• Thats what I did as a teenager, being over 40 staying out late etc.. isn't quite as appealing.  Who knows though.  Maybe I will have a loud outrageous party, I do have a big backyard.

• The change was very abrupt even though I have known for 6 months that it was coming.  The thing I have found is she thinks this is a storage facility for the things she eventually wants but doesn't have room for.  I think I will have a garage sale. 
  
• If/When she comes back, things will be very different.  When kids come home, they think it is a free ride, She won't expect to be charged rent <giggling> Extra money in my pocket.  (something to look forward to)
  
• Work on me, where to start?  Well for the past 4 weeks I have been going to the hur salon to get my hur did, thats always a work in progress.  (hur - ghetto for hair)