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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 8:20:24 AM   
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manicure
pedicure
massage
hooking up with ya ladyfriends during evenings
goin shopping (i mean it's not like you grow too old for that )
driving around the neighbourhood or to the nearest cities exploring (it sounds strange but it's a good time waster)
cleaning the house until it's way too shiny
rearranging your yard or planting flowers or whatever?
hook up with some old friends
do something you were always going to do but never did
and uh..make a voodoo doll that looks like your daughter's fiancé (sorry that was mean)

you'll figure out something


Mean but I like it

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 8:25:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Even though i'm not a parent, i did move out of my parent's house in Jan. For me it can be boring at times and the day does not seem to move forward. i go out for walks and to the commuity pool to people watch, if my friends are home i'll ask if they want to do something/anything. i love going to outlet malls by myself and just looking around and again people watching (yea that's my form of entertainment) :)). Otherwise i don't do a whole lot, though when the sun hits my balcony i'll bring a book to read and lay in the sun. But again that's what keeps me from being bored all day

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 8:38:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		living alone is lonely.  I don't like it much, the advantages are few and far between.


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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 8:53:38 AM   
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living alone is lonely.  I don't like it much, the advantages are few and far between.



I have lived with other people most of my life.

I can live with other people.  I can live alone.

I enjoy both.

Life is what you make it.

Sinergy

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 8:59:38 AM   
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living alone is lonely.  I don't like it much, the advantages are few and far between.


I wonder it it's more a personality thing than anything else.
I am sometimes lonely, but I find things to fill my time.  If nothing else, I can always sit out on the deck with a glass of iced tea and read a book.
I agree with Sinergy Life is what you make it. 
And I would add that you shouldn't depend on someone else to fill the void in your life, you shouldn't live a life of waiting for that one to appear, because what happens if they don't materialize or don't stick around forever.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 9:00:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
I have lived with other people most of my life.

I can live with other people.  I can live alone.

I enjoy both.

Life is what you make it.

Sinergy


Yes, I hear you there.  Same for me, I do better with others but can survive
very well on my own too.  This is the time one is thankful for good friends
and family.


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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 1:04:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I used to hate living alone, but I like it now...probably would be very hard living with someone again.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 2:13:41 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		My last daughter also just moved out, but i am not alone, Hubby is here. We are really enjoying our privacy.

Have you considered some volunteer work? It can be very fulfilling.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/3/2007 2:40:42 PM   
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probably would be very hard living with someone again.


This is where I'm at.


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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 5:59:33 AM   
JohnSteed1967


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Status: offline 		Dear BB,

Oh God Yes, I know exactly what your dealing with. I am living alone for the first time in my life, no wife, no parents, no kids. Zaxby's (Chicken) Shane's Rib Shack, and The Local Chinese place have become my fast friends.

I know how to cook, I was taught by my now 100 year old grandmom, but she taught me how to cook for a small army. She was taught to cook for a family of seven and five farm hands. So cooking for one is almost unheard of in my family.

I imagine that you have your own home, so you've got the biggest hurdle out of the way. My suggestion is this.

Sit down write a list of goals that you want to accomplish by your next birthday, or someother signicant date but make sure its atleast a year or so away. so you can do them all. put it on the fridge.

I wrote my list and have most of it done, I still have lots more to do but, if you have these goal lists this gives you something to do and a sense of accomplishment after you've done them.

Your used to having someone, and the issue is you like I have never ever had to foucs on yourself and so because now you have to foucs on you. Its scary.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 6:51:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Take lessons in something you have always wanted to learn. Plan for a trip that will incorporate what you study. IE, learn Italian and plan trip to Italy. Improve your house, yard, etc. Volunteer, there are so many places that need just a few hours a week. Call your library and ask if they have a Literacy program, then give a couple of hours a week helping someone learn English.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 8:09:30 AM   
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Dear BB,

Oh God Yes, I know exactly what your dealing with. I am living alone for the first time in my life, no wife, no parents, no kids. Zaxby's (Chicken) Shane's Rib Shack, and The Local Chinese place have become my fast friends.

I know how to cook, I was taught by my now 100 year old grandmom, but she taught me how to cook for a small army. She was taught to cook for a family of seven and five farm hands. So cooking for one is almost unheard of in my family.

I imagine that you have your own home, so you've got the biggest hurdle out of the way. My suggestion is this.

Sit down write a list of goals that you want to accomplish by your next birthday, or someother signicant date but make sure its atleast a year or so away. so you can do them all. put it on the fridge.

I wrote my list and have most of it done, I still have lots more to do but, if you have these goal lists this gives you something to do and a sense of accomplishment after you've done them.

Your used to having someone, and the issue is you like I have never ever had to foucs on yourself and so because now you have to foucs on you. Its scary.


You hit the nail on the head.  Are you sure you didn't grow up in my family?  Small army sounds very familiar.  I have never cooked for less than 5 people.  My daughter and I always had major leftovers.  I too know how to cook and can hold my own with the best of them.  I work in a grouphome so I cook at work too.  GEEZE I need to stop cooking.

I do have a goal list, I started it last year.  I am half way thru it.  One of my goals was to go to a BDSM conference.  I am doing that in August.  I have GOOD car, a decent job, some extra money.  I just don't have that warm body........I am also working on dropping some poundage and gaining some muscleage and strengthage so that is a long term goal as well as finally getting my degree

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 9:13:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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probably would be very hard living with someone again.


This is where I'm at.



when bob left- many years ago- i had to give up the apartment- too many memories of him.

as you may know- mom recently moved out of state. we had a related living set up.  for 7 years it was bliss!!  i still miss that she doesnt send over a plate.  i cant look at her old place. and i dont want to know.

i miss her alot. foolish me.  she begged me to move with her to Chicago. a mix a valid excuses and not so valid excuses reigned.

i want my mommy!!

i stayed in PA as social programs are best here. i bought a place...which really i got lucky as prices have crept up here.

to the OP, i told myself i can always visit. what a lie that has been!!

when we hugged on the final good bye- n00000000000000000000!
dammit- that cant be the last time i ever seen her alive.

same song differnet day.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 8:26:13 PM   
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I just don't have that warm body........I am also working on dropping some poundage and gaining some muscleage and strengthage so that is a long term goal as well as finally getting my degree


Dear BB,

yet again we are thinking the same thoughts, I don't have a warm body, and imagine me saying this on a personals website. I don't really care. I imagine that if there is someone that wants a overweight, professional computer nerd with interst in bdsm. Then they will find me.

My aunt was married, had two kids, and been divorced 20 years and been alone ever since. but in that 20 years she has been too
  • Europe
  • Isreal
  • china
  • bali
  • russia
  • cuba
  • Australia

and covered all over America , Hawaii and Alaska. For her next exploit she is in a toss up over Viet Nam or the Trans Siberia Express

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 8:32:52 PM   
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i cant look at her old place. and i dont want to know.

i miss her alot. foolish me.i want my mommy!!

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I know the feeling, I still can't drive by my grandmother's house with out going into Fits of RAGE. Because I know that like Adam and Eve, I am forever banned from Eden.

I lived there for over 30 years. When they brought me home from the hospital I was brought there and placed in my grandfather's arms.

I went from Kindergarten through My Bachelor's degree in that house. The they sell it to some bastard that paints it buttery yellow and then tears out the insides and "renovates" it. I'd say painting a mustashe on the mona lisa!

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/4/2007 9:06:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh this sounds so familiar. Five years ago I could have written that post. What a difference five years make! Small town or big there is always something to do. Volunteer work, college courses, self improvement, etc...I love it now. I hated it then. It took me a good 6 months or so to get over the empty nest blues. You will as well.

I learned to cook just as I always did and then portion into individual servings. Even when my um was at home he tended to eat enough for the equivalent of 3 other people. I still haven't become proficient at cooking for one. So I still cook a quart of sauce or an entire pan of lasagna but I divide and freeze. My 2 college age neighbor boys appreciate that I still cook en masse when it comes time to clear out the freezer. I still buy in bulk and divide into portions. It just lasts a lot longer it's amazing how long 3 bags of groceries last in the house now.

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RE: Learning to live alone....hopefully not for long - 6/5/2007 10:01:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

I just don't have that warm body........I am also working on dropping some poundage and gaining some muscleage and strengthage so that is a long term goal as well as finally getting my degree


Dear BB,

yet again we are thinking the same thoughts, I don't have a warm body, and imagine me saying this on a personals website. I don't really care. I imagine that if there is someone that wants a overweight, professional computer nerd with interst in bdsm. Then they will find me.

My aunt was married, had two kids, and been divorced 20 years and been alone ever since. but in that 20 years she has been too
  • Europe
  • Isreal
  • china
  • bali
  • russia
  • cuba
  • Australia


and covered all over America , Hawaii and Alaska. For her next exploit she is in a toss up over Viet Nam or the Trans Siberia Express


Here I sit, doing some of the OT I was talking about in my OP.  I haven't been home in almost 48 hours.  But I do have several changes of clothes with me and access to a shower, so I guess it is not so bad.  I won't get to go home til this time tomorrow, sleep for about 4 hours and start over again. 
 
It's really good to know I am not the only one that is going or has gone through this.  I don't have to tell you how hard it is.  It's not something I recommend to anyone.  Thanks everyone for your kind words and support.

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