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I need some help - 5/23/2005 1:44:20 PM

vishant

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Ok first I am Vishant. {Name edited out by ModOne} g/f. She has a problem a result of orgasm denial. I don't know much about Dom/Sub in real life i played a little online but not in real life. But i am trying to help my g/f retrain herself. But, I honestly know nothing on this subject, of how to go about it and what to do. I tried to ask my g/f but there is only so much i can get from her. So i am here to ask help, I don't know if this is something i would like to keep interest in. It all depends, but right now i am just trying to help my g/f and our relationship.So if i could please get some help it would be greatly apreciated.

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RE: I need some help - 5/23/2005 2:02:17 PM

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Please clarify your question. What problem does she have from orgasm denial? What are you trying to retrain her to do?

If what you're saying is she can no longer climax, try a hitachi vibrator as part of your sexual play. http://www.bettydodson.com/vibhowtouse.htm shows you how to use it effectively. Don't cheap out and buy an imitation. It has to be the hitachi.

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RE: I need some help - 5/23/2005 2:38:16 PM

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I'm been in many relations where I as a sub was never or very seldom allowed to get off, for a number of diffrent reasons, left at the descresion of the dom, of course. It wasn't by my choice. The problem is now, that I am in a serious long term relationship with my gf. We've been living together for over a year now, (this is by no means a d/s relation. Strictly "love', We're both into the life style, to diffrent degrees, and for many reasons she isn't willing or can't dominate me out side of just bedroom play.) Since i've been out of my past relations, I have not been able to orgasim, under any sircumstance. not through my gf or masturbation. I've come to the conclusion that it is because I was trained no to. dose any one have any advice as to how to deal with this problem as it is becoming very stressfull.

this is her original post in general discussion. she has not bin able to orgasm in any way. After seeing sex Therapists and a number of different things this is conclusion she has come up with. I am trying to help and this happens to be the last thing i can think of to do. But I do not have any knowledge on the subject (for real life encounters). I have tried looking on the internet and I am just trying to get as much information of "how to" as i can.

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RE: I need some help - 5/23/2005 6:10:14 PM

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quote:

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I'm been in many relations where I as a sub was never or very seldom allowed to get off, for a number of diffrent reasons, left at the descresion of the dom, of course. It wasn't by my choice. The problem is now, that I am in a serious long term relationship with my gf. We've been living together for over a year now, (this is by no means a d/s relation. Strictly "love', We're both into the life style, to diffrent degrees, and for many reasons she isn't willing or can't dominate me out side of just bedroom play.) Since i've been out of my past relations, I have not been able to orgasim, under any sircumstance. not through my gf or masturbation. I've come to the conclusion that it is because I was trained no to. dose any one have any advice as to how to deal with this problem as it is becoming very stressfull.

this is her original post in general discussion. she has not bin able to orgasm in any way. After seeing sex Therapists and a number of different things this is conclusion she has come up with. I am trying to help and this happens to be the last thing i can think of to do. But I do not have any knowledge on the subject (for real life encounters). I have tried looking on the internet and I am just trying to get as much information of "how to" as i can.

Hi vishant, orgasim is a very beautiful thing. If she cannot have one by herself then perhaps you could help. Here is a nice book written by a lesbian named Violet Blue; The ultimate guide to Cunnilingus. Perrhaps a weekend afternoon and evening set aside for a quiet meal, sensual massage, and a night of great sex. Cunnilingus and some toys plus an atmoshpere of no distractions. Communication is very important. If she tells you what feels good and not then you can make "it" happen for her.

i can say from experience that providing her with the necessary O would be mutually benefitual.

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RE: I need some help - 5/23/2005 7:32:02 PM

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Thanxs, i might get that book either way. But as i said before, we have tried alot. Me personally i have done alot of nights to ourselves, dinners candles, romantic musics, walks through lantern lit park followed by a candle lit bath and massage. i tried the romantic end of things. We tried to let her feel things without worrying about getting off.
I personnaly have spent hundreds of dollars at sex shops on different "stimulators" to help with everything imaginable. All of this just doesnt seem to work, all that really happens is she is either in pain, or depressed cause she can't. And to tell you the truth, i have almost lost interest. But, since we have bin trying this Dom/sub thing it has sparked something inside of both of us. Batty24546(my g/f) seems to thing it is all caused by a orgasm restriction. I want to help her and so i am trying to reverse it by becomming her Dom. The thing is i don't know much and that is why I am here is for this reason. So if you could help me, or just give me something to work on it would be greatly appreciated, thanks

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