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marieToo -> RE: Just asks the question but doesn't expect any answers (6/2/2007 6:52:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: mystiquenz
Why?
Why do people talk to others on these boards, with the sole intention of "mindfucking"?
What may appear to be mindfucking, could be mindfucking or it could also be something else. Not having the "why" answered it what can sometimes make moving past it hard.
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How many others, have utilised poor judgement, bad intution, and suffered as a result?
Probably at some point or another everyone has made a poor decision or two and ended up disappointed or suffering as the result. Don't beat yourself up over that. The only way to learn is to gain experiences like these. The next time you may be able to better spot this "type" than you were before.
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The dominant this girl spoke to Him for many months. He pulled the computer plug, not so much as a thank you, well wishes, nor thank you but no thank you. Why do they do that? This girl could understand if he was half a universe away, and if that were so, she would have taken precautions with her space and her heart, and probably would not have entered into that sacred realm.
she is having difficulty with picking up the fragments. buckets of tears have fallen, and why? a vision that she thought was shared, was pretty one sided.
You had a particular perception of this man based upon what he presented himself to be and how he interacted with you. It would seem that he is not the person that he portrayed. There could be a million and one different reasons as to why he would do that and why he would disappear without even giving you some level of closure. Whatever that reason was for him, you have to remember that it's about him. It is not your dysfunction.
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looks for the positiveness of the time spent together, and it was pretty damned good, the disheartening thing is that real time, simple escaped U/us. she ventured with him, because the pull was great, same country, the possibility of reality, and then ... *poof* ....
she thought she was dealing with the separation until, he removed his profile, and a bucket of tears overpoured. Do dominants ever cry over what they considered might have been, or is this just a woman going through stages of grief, for a lost vision?
You're not only dealing with the disappointment of heartbreak, you're also dealing with having been mislead and then having no closure and no answers. Thats a very tough thing to be going through. You are now sitting here wondering who the hell you just poured your heart and soul out to, who he really was, what he really wanted, why he said those things if he didn't mean them, etc etc. That's the part that makes it hard.
You will probably hash it and re hash it in your head from every possible angle. You'll question it, you'll wonder, you'll cry, you'll take it to sleep with you for a while and will probably wake up still wondering about it. And you still won't know the "why" with any certainy. He may not know himself.
But the good news is as each day passes it will get easier and easier, and whats going to happen is your perception of him will gradually shift until you see him for what he is (someone who led you on, fucked with you, then left without a trace) rather than what you thought he was (the Dominant of your dreams). It takes time for the eyes to re-adjust to the light, but it really does happen. And faster than you may think. Start talking to other dominants. Eventually the only thing he'll be to you was practice.
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