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RE: My place, or yours? - 6/7/2007 3:05:49 PM

WhiplashSmile

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.They look exactly the same, the actions are exactly the same. Opening the car door still looks just like opening the car door.

Really??!!! Damn... here I thought I was being intensively kinky when I opened my car door. Well another illusion dispelled.... thank you Lucky... next your going to tell me their is no Santa Clause either.

No...see...when you open your car door as opposed to letting one of your girls do it, you are stepping out of your chosen roleplay.

Damn, I thought I found a new spin on opening car doors, my plans are totally trashed now man. I was going to insist she opened the car door fully naked, roll out a red carpet, bow and kiss my feet and say "Thank you master for the privliage for opening the door for you, wonderful Lord Master Sir" as I exit the door. Anything less she'd be punished with being bungy cord strapped naked on the hood of my car while I drive through the car wash. Damn it! My Plans are shot to hell now, knowing that "Opening the car door still looks just like opening the car door". Back to the drawing board again, to make modification to section IIV.65.C of the slave contract I've been working on for 5 years.

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RE: My place, or yours? - 6/7/2007 5:11:01 PM

twistedkytten

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I have found the things that work best for me are the things that happen naturally. When I try to place labels on things- people, feelings, a state of being.. I begin to feel as if I am restricting it.. forcing it into a preconceived "box" and I do not feel like boundaries such as these allow for much growth in any area.

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RE: My place, or yours? - 6/7/2007 5:18:49 PM

juliaoceania

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Why wouldn't it be equal in worth, but merely different in context and concept? Why do some feel this way? Why do some not? (Please explain your own situations, as to why you feel as you do) *smiles* I know what works for whoever works for whoever. I believe in living and let living. I respect all ways which are respectful of my own ways, and accept in a respectful manner many that aren't.

I can only answer for myself and no one else as to what determines my "place" in our dynamic. I really do not know what my "place" is to be honest. I am not lower than him, but he has very high expectations of me (these have increased lately). Mine is a fluid place, and he will not let me forget that he is the one that determines it... probably not a very good clear answer, but it is the best I can do.

I would also like to address slaverosebeauty

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Seriously, I EARNED my title of 'slave' years ago, I did not take it, I earned it; r/t, hard work, training {12 areas at last count}, learning. I was called 'submissive' by partners, then after a while, I did earn my 'title' as you call it, that's one reason why I loathe being called 'a sub' that little part of me in the back will get fired up and pissed. Its a BIG step backward to be called such after you have worked hard for something. Its like being a VP of a company to having someone call you a 'junior partner.' You earned your title then someone disrespects you in such a malicious manner.

I am not going to address the "submissive being lower than a slave" concept you have going on. I will say that until you provide an answer of who exactly trained you "years ago" I am not inclined to believe you have earned the title of anything except teller of tall tales...I have heard a few in my day, and this slave camp for errant submissives that must earn their degree in slavedom does not pass the sniff test.

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RE: My place, or yours? - 6/7/2007 5:31:10 PM

SeeksOnlyOne

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I am my Master's slave because He says so.

That in essence is what it really is all about - and if he says so it's more then likely because you have proved to him, in your own personal way, that you deserve and are worthy of that title. You could spent 5 to 10 years learning the 12 areas of whatever and never have really learned the true essence of anything.

i so agree with these statements. what constitutes master/dominant.....slave/submissive, is what the human beings involved in the relationship decide constitute them. it is a connection between them and them alone. what anyone else thinks, whether in agreement or disagreement, has no bearing on it at all.

i earned my title by being what he sought and proving that to him and only him. and it was perfect for us while it lasted.

thats how it is in my world anyhow....yours may vary.

these threads make me laugh and think-2 of my favorite things to do....so whether you make me think hard or laugh hard or roll my eyes and curse.....i am so glad to have found this site.

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