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colouredin -> All very serious (6/3/2007 1:45:25 PM)
Ok, i have noticed a theme, a lot of people on here seem to be very serious most of the time, not just about BDSM but about life generally. It seems like everyone is in a rush to exchange credentials ive dont yadda yadda and yadda yadda im an expert in this this and this and i dont do this, in the second message. Its all rather odd to me, and despite all the catagories of things that we can tick what ee are people ignore it all anyways and treat you in the way that they want you to be. Im just a bit confused, think it sould all lighten up slightly.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 1:47:30 PM)
[sm=mrpuffy.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=lol.gif] That's about as loose as I get without getting atleast dinner bought for me first.

proudsub -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 1:55:16 PM)
I think those that are searching want to find out if you are compatible pretty quickly so they can move on if not. As far as being "serious", i find the opposite true on the forums, love everyone's sense of humor.[:)]

colouredin -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 1:58:21 PM)
i unserstand they are trying to see if they are compatible, but what i mean is when a profile says friends only, surely that means friends only?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 2:10:12 PM)
A lot of people do take this very seriously and carry it over and make it into "a big deal." And a lot of people don't.

SunNMoon -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 3:22:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin i unserstand they are trying to see if they are compatible, but what i mean is when a profile says friends only, surely that means friends only? Well I can answer this part. Yes for me, "friends only" really does mean friends only. I also know some people don't take it for that at all and I like them to be able to move on as soon as possible since I won't be able to give them a relationship.

MadRabbit -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 3:39:19 PM)
Need to be wery, wery serious... I'm hunting wabbits...

salilus -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 3:55:14 PM)
I don't have time for humour and light heatedness - I'm too busy being the the bestest and most slavliest slave that ever served. ;)

adoracat -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 3:59:48 PM)
humor and lightheartedness....is that like when Sir blows bellyfarts on my tummy? or him laughing uproariously at the situation when the goddamned UM tapped at the door "i gotta use the bathroom" when the other one was torn up with renovation? a sense of the absurd is a very good thing. kitten, who thinks its terribly sexy when you can laugh in bed

octavia -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 4:14:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin i unserstand they are trying to see if they are compatible, but what i mean is when a profile says friends only, surely that means friends only? Yah.. I thought that too once upon a time.. last week... [:D]

mstrjx -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 4:23:24 PM)
Oh. You weren't meaning people on the message boards being serious, you meant the people on CM. Well, there's the ones that don't read. Then, there's the ones that already have partners, and they can relax and do whatever they want. Then you have the people here on the boards who, like, read the news and stuff. I'll never get over that myself. Am I leaving anyone out? Jeff

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 4:24:46 PM)
I think many ,when they are responding to a possible connection, try to first see if there is a possibility of a connection in as short of time as possible. Some feel as if they do not wish to waste time on someone who may not mesh well with them. IMO it is a fast food world, many want it now, or they consider anything else a waste of time...I have never considered any interaction with anyone a waste of time..Each and every person I have had some contact with, has taught me something...As for the lighten up thing..of course!..for humor between a potential couple ,is to me ,a very bonding experience..If you find that someone is wayy too intense, without humor when you desire a more relaxed humorous person ..then, more than likely they would not mesh well with you..If you seek friendship only..and you are e-mailed in more than a friendship way, or you feel pressure from them to change the friendship and you wish not..then again your goals are not theirs, and maybe this interaction is the wrong interaction...Tempting

Celeste43 -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 5:04:28 PM)
There are enough people who give up, decide they are only interested in friends and then discover their one to encourage others to disbelieve friends only. Not any different if you're out to dinner with a friend and one guy tries to buy you a drink and then his buddy comes over certain that the first guy wasn't right, not that you really aren't interested, and strikes out himself. People believe what they want to believe, perhaps because of loneliness and perhaps because of ego.

farieanne -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 8:21:27 PM)
IMO and my opinion ONLY. If your profile has a seductive picture and has listed your sexual likes and desires and someone misses the "fine" print of the one check friends only well i think what else can you expect on a match making site?

Faramir -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 8:49:06 PM)
Some of us are just some serious motherfuckers.

toservez -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 9:03:50 PM)
Unfortunately there are just some people who adopt a mass marketing campaign and will message anyone on the other side regardless of what the other person writes or checks off in their profile and even if they acknowledge that they always hope if the person changes their mind they will be first in line. In terms of people on the other side being serious, most are looking for someone and I think all of us can agree that even the most casual of relationships of this manner you do not want your first impression to look like you are not serious about it. Plus not everyone and especially on the other side is looking to take a lot of their free time typing on a computer keyboard. If you are looking for friends and less seriousness then as others have mentioned, this message board is a good place to go to.

Lordandmaster -> RE: All very serious (6/3/2007 9:03:59 PM)
We do that because it impresses the women. quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin Ok, i have noticed a theme, a lot of people on here seem to be very serious most of the time, not just about BDSM but about life generally.

subsnow -> RE: All very serious (6/4/2007 4:36:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit Need to be wery, wery serious... I'm hunting wabbits... LOL!!! i hope it was as funny as i thought it was. giggles uncontrollably If it wasn't, i don't care, you really made my day with that. Thanks.[:D]

thetammyjo -> RE: All very serious (6/4/2007 6:15:09 AM)
For some of us this isn't just a kinky sex game, this is part of our identity, a strong or central facet of our sexuality, and for some it is even tied into spiritual, political, and social beliefs. Some of us live 24/7 in Ds relationships so all of "this" factors into our entire lives. When questions are serious or seem serious to me, I take them seriously. Most of the other stuff I frankly ignore. I have friends in meatlife I can and do joke around with but I lack a serious BDSM community in meatlife at the moment.

MstrssPassion -> RE: All very serious (6/4/2007 7:44:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx Oh. You weren't meaning people on the message boards being serious, you meant the people on CM. Well, there's the ones that don't read. Then, there's the ones that already have partners, and they can relax and do whatever they want. Then you have the people here on the boards who, like, read the news and stuff. I'll never get over that myself. Am I leaving anyone out? Jeff yeah... the ones that don't have Mommy & Daddy monitoring their computer use. the ones that slip off their meds the ones that have 20 identities on here & post with everyone one of them on a single thread so that they appear to have a large number of supporters & those of us that simply don't give enough of a fuck to care how others perceive our posting styles (gotta quote Ron again on that one) & the amazing thing is that a great deal of these types of posters are going to offer you the finest & most useful feedback as for the other side... delete/block is your friend

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