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ORIGINAL: tulipgoose

The thing is, the topic was only about oral sex, we do not know the wide range of other sexual things she is willing/able to take part in......... While it would be nice to have labels for each person, that is what we would truly need to differentiate between everyone, and that's just not practical.... If all else she was intersted was sexual in nature, how would she not be a sexual slave? I mean we do not know all of her interests or the way things play out in her life... Every day I get people coming up to me who I do not see as my version of what an ageplayer is, and they demand that is what they are, who am I to say otherwise? They will call themself what they desire to, and perhaps these people fall deeper into the label they chose than any other, and again we all use labels differently. It would be like saying.... A person is not an American because they have a different sounding voice than most Americans..... or because they don't vote, or some single common thing that many Americans do to show their heritage..... This person simply doesn't take part in a single action common among sexual slaves...... Another example, is a person who goes to a baseball game and doesn't buy a hot dog not a true watcher of the game because they do not take part in what many deem to be part of the over all experience?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Saying you are a bedroom or sex slave gives the impression that you are open to a very wide manner of sexual activities and indeed it may also suggest that you have skills in these areas.

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ORIGINAL: Adelphus

Bedroom slave? How did that get in here?
I put 'bedroom submissive', a term I heard used for people who are only submissive in the bedroom, not all around. I'm not looking for a full-time, primary partner deal, just a play buddy. 'Bottom' doesn't work because I enjoy the psychological submission in my scenes, not just the sensation. I agree labels are annoying, but they do make explaining things easier...sort of.
Fragile? Yes, but we all are to a point.
Sensitive? Yes I am. I wanted to make it clear I was not interested in those who wanted someone to treat like dirt. That works for some people but not for me. And where does it say I'd leave my wife??
I appreciate those of you who look through my profile to better answer my question but please read and repeat what it says correctly.
I friggen' love just about everything else and am always open to try new things. I'm bloody 25 and have only been sexually active for a couple of years. I haven't figured everything out yet but I think I'm pretty open. As for what I give back...you know what?
That hurts. I know it's not meant to, but it does.
*sighs*
I'm not a utilitarian type. I'm not looking for a person to do x,y,z. I'm looking for a soul to tend to. I derive my pleasure from aiding a soul that enriches me by their mere existence. My wife does that. If someone wants me just for what I can do, oral or otherwise...well I guess it's not meant to be. If it's one thing I live for it's soul pampering. I love to dote. I give real affection. That's the thing about autistic people, we're real as hell because we can't be any other way.  What I lack in being able to do, I hope to make up in being able to be.
I've only been self aware about 12 years it's true, but I've maintained a long-term relationship for 9 of them, and that ain't bad for a kid. No my wife's not gay and we're platonic (though we are very touchy feely), we're together because she was a neglected soul and I took care of her until she began to reciprocate.
So no sex, just lots of pure, fathomless love. If anyone wants some pure, fathomless love, shoot me a line.
End rant
To everyone who responded though, thank you for your input. Some of you have given me some hope.;-)