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octavia -> collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 5:41:48 PM)
It's about time I get a photo posted, so am having a friend (the only BDSM friendly person I know near me) take some "fun" pictures of me this weekend. As we sat chatting over coffee mulling over the various poses and moods to try (Yum!) he brought up that he has this fantastic collar at home that we could put on me for the photo shoot. Several things ran through my mind. Is it a bad idea for a single sub to appear collared in her profile photo? They are damn sexy and sure I want to know what it feels like around my neck, but is it a special thing that should be reserved for when it's "real"? Or am I just being a sappy romantic? Many other things ran through my mind as well, but that should be sufficient to bring out the flame throwers. octavia

colouredin -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 5:46:00 PM)
its up to you isnt it? i mean i guess they have an air of mystery about them if you dont ahve one, the only thing i can think to compare it to is a wedding ring, but i dont think many people would try them on for 'fun' unless they were young. I have worn a collar before as a single sub, when i went to my first fetish club i just felt safer with it on. But you will know the differance between the two, wearing it for fun shouldnt really remove the feeling that you will get when it is real.

tenderfootmaster -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 5:47:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: octavia It's about time I get a photo posted, so am having a friend (the only BDSM friendly person I know near me) take some "fun" pictures of me this weekend. As we sat chatting over coffee mulling over the various poses and moods to try (Yum!) he brought up that he has this fantastic collar at home that we could put on me for the photo shoot. Several things ran through my mind. Is it a bad idea for a single sub to appear collared in her profile photo? They are damn sexy and sure I want to know what it feels like around my neck, but is it a special thing that should be reserved for when it's "real"? Or am I just being a sappy romantic? Many other things ran through my mind as well, but that should be sufficient to bring out the flame throwers. octavia Wow, I would have to say that’s a hard one to answer about the collar. About the only thing I can say is it just depends on who is actually looking at it and wonders. Some people see it as ownership while others see it as fashion. Just depends on the person viewing really. Like if I saw you collared, I would scan your profile looking for the words “I am owned” or its equivalent.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 5:49:38 PM)
I love the look of someone in a collar, even if they arent owned. My Angel is collared to me, but he doesnt wear his collar most of the time. My Hoyt is not collared to me yet, but he wears one wheever he is here, as a playtoy. The look is wat you are going for. I doubt that anyone is going to assume you are owned if your profile says you are looking. Collars can be just as much fashion and sex apeal as they can be commitment. DV

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 5:53:39 PM)
Some are nice, some are interesting. Most are just bands of metal or links of chain- see dozens of them at any convention. Pretty much it's really special only to the ones holding them. Wear what you want to wear, if you're worried put "single" in your profile and that should take care of it. People know that pictures are not necessarily permanent states of being for a person and smart people know that collars or lack thereof really don't mean anything. And the dumb ones won't read the profile anyway so it won't matter what you do.

LadyPaige -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 6:04:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin its up to you isnt it? i mean i guess they have an air of mystery about them if you dont ahve one, the only thing i can think to compare it to is a wedding ring, but i dont think many people would try them on for 'fun' unless they were young. I have worn a collar before as a single sub, when i went to my first fetish club i just felt safer with it on. But you will know the differance between the two, wearing it for fun shouldnt really remove the feeling that you will get when it is real. Good analagy, not all rings are wedding rings, and not all collars have that special "owned" meaning. Some will assume it means you are owned, other's will ask or look on your profile to see if it says you're owned or single. They're damned sexy, so wear it if you want to.

selfbnd411 -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 6:06:00 PM)
I don't think wearing a collar in your profile photo sends the message that you're "collared."

earthycouple -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 6:08:50 PM)
I am in agreement....I wear chokers and collar type necklaces all the time...oh wait...I'm dominant. I wear em, because as the OP said...they are damn sexy and I look hot with a necklace close to my throat. The collar about Robert's neck is my collar and it shows ownership...but no one knows that unless they know us. I'm ok with that. S

dcnovice -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 6:15:37 PM)
<wee hijack> quote: The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back. ~Abigail Van Buren~ Every time I see this quote, I keep meaning to say how much I love it!

slaverosebeauty -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 8:22:26 PM)
I have a chain I wear is past pics {I bought it for me}, I don't have it in the ones you see currently, because theose were taken by a vanilla photog for a vanilla site that went under {I own the rights to the pics}; I use to use my chain in my pics because I was doing more bodnage type pics, an I liked the way it looked. When I go back to doing bdsm modeling, I will wear it again; it sets the 'mood' and tone of the pics. I have both keys to my chain, one is kept in a safe location, the other on my key chain; I decided that I will give one man BOTH keys as a wedding present. My opinion, go ahead and wear the collar or the chain, if YOU like it, then go for it. If you are 'free and unowned' your profile will say so. Have fun.

crouchingtigress -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 8:38:07 PM)
go with sexy. a good rule to live by, that.

Faramir -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 8:43:40 PM)
We give you permission to wear whatever the fuck you want to. [:D]

Joseff -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 8:48:45 PM)
I often place collars on my subs when we play, they are in this case simply bondage equipment, and mean nothing beyond the scene. I believe that it isn't the collar that's sacred, its the ceremony, the collar is only a symbol. Like a ring on your finger, or a bandana in your pocket, it pretty much carries only the meaning you place upon it. Joseff

Einzelganger -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 9:41:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Joseff Like a ring on your finger, or a bandana in your pocket, it pretty much carries only the meaning you place upon it. For a moment there, I thought you said a banana in your pocket, lol. The type of collar, to me, determines its meaning/use. If it's a purely ornamental collar that would not take the sort of abuse it would need to sustain in a play situation, it usually means, to me, that the submissive is collared to someone, as this is the sort of collar one would wear in public. If it's the sort that's very heavy-duty, has the D rings, etc. attached, and enough padding for lasting suspension or bondage, then it's obviously intended for the bedroom, and usually, the only people who would wear a collar like that in public are the wannabe's who shop at Hot Topic and such...BDSM conventions aside. Just my $0.02... -Einzelgänger

octavia -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 10:10:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Faramir We give you permission to wear whatever the fuck you want to. [:D] Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!! That means a lot coming from you. [;)] runs off and hides her smart ass

Indemnis -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/6/2007 10:39:21 PM)
In agreement. Before I was collared by my D, I would wear chokers/collars for fashion just because.. as earthycouple stated.. I just look hot with something snug around my neck. [:)]

maledave7 -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/7/2007 3:45:31 AM)
I think collars are very sexy. The collar will appear to some people that you belong to someone. Other people will think not. I think you should put in your profile that you are single and looking. I would say it is up to you if you want to wear one.

MadRabbit -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/7/2007 3:57:35 AM)
Collars are a huge fetish of mine. I have a love of collars and own several differet ones. I doubt, however, that my browsing and search for a new "best" collar will ever come to a close =). They are incredibly hot to me when worn by a women and an instant turn off. They dont hold any significant value to me as far as commitment until the point comes where I am buying one for them as their possession instead of just letting them use mine for the time. Its also a constant reminder of what the person is to me. Its one of those little things that I have found to be incredibly helpful in maintaing the mentality, especially when your used to viewing someone as a girlfriend and not a slave.

losttreasure -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/7/2007 4:23:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Einzelganger quote: ORIGINAL: Joseff Like a ring on your finger, or a bandana in your pocket, it pretty much carries only the meaning you place upon it. For a moment there, I thought you said a banana in your pocket, lol. lol... That's okay, when I first read the titled of this thread I thought it was asking if collars were scary. To the OP, personally, I don't think it will make much difference to anyone else. I used to have a photo on here that showed me wearing an elaborate pearl choker, and even though I was unowned at the time, I got lots of mail complimenting me on my collar. It really is up to you and how you feel about it.

octavia -> RE: collars: sacred or just plain sexy (6/7/2007 6:12:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: losttreasure lol... That's okay, when I first read the titled of this thread I thought it was asking if collars were scary. Is sacred spelled right? Im a terrible speller, and sometimes I embarrass myself in my attempts.

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