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Aileen68 -> A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 3:55:41 PM)
I had to go to a wake and funeral these past two days. I'm Italian and wakes and funerals tend to be loudly respectful. So I'm in the middle of nowhere in upstate NY at this wake and a woman took out a digital camera and started taking pics of the flowers, my cousin, and people going up to pay last respects to her. It seemed as if all of us Italians there were mortified by what she was doing and all of the locals didn't even give it a second thought. Is this something unusual? To me, it was just completely disrespectful and I know I wasn't the only one who thought so. The woman who was taking the pics turned out to be the girlfriend of the deceased son. This made it all the more strange to me.

SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:00:23 PM)
I've witnessed this in the south as well and have not been able to wrap my mind around it either.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:03:10 PM)
I have seen this done, i develop a lot of pictures like that where I am. From what I understand, the pictures are sometimes sent to relatives who werent able to make the trip to the funeral, so they can see how the fowers and such looked. Others take pictures of the grave afterwards as well, and put them together as a sort of rememberance album. I dont understand the idea, but it does seem somewhat popular amongst the older ones out here. DV

domiguy -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:04:42 PM)
Fuck! I thought this thread was going to be about the Loch Ness Monster.....But nooooo!.....just two hagard betches and no sweet nellie.

Aileen68 -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:05:01 PM)
I just can't seem to figure out why anyone would want any kind of visual reminder of a day which most likely ain't gonna wind up in your list of top ten days of your life.

Aileen68 -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:06:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Fuck! I thought this thread was going to be about the Loch Ness Monster.....But nooooo!.....just two hagard betches and no sweet nellie. Hahahaha. I think I love you.

domiguy -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:08:35 PM)
Some people have not tact!....Whenever I attend a wake....I always bring balloons that say, "Sorry you're dead."....Then after viewing the body I will "whisper" loud enough for the deceased's wife to hear, "I swear I saw him move."....Lastly, I hand out baby pictures of the lost loved one.....Few have the decorum of a Domiguy.

SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:16:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Fuck! I thought this thread was going to be about the Loch Ness Monster.....But nooooo!.....just two hagard betches and no sweet nellie. I've got your "nellie" right here Domi...Don't feel too overwhelmed or humiliated just because it's a bit bigger than your own beloved Domidong. It's ok baby, dont' be scared, I'll take it nice and slow. No Comet even for your first time.

Mercnbeth -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:17:34 PM)
Aileen, Maybe she needed the pictures as verification in order to get the 'funeral discount' airline fare?

domiguy -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:20:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth Aileen, Maybe she needed the pictures as verification in order to get the 'funeral discount' airline fare? Now that's just wrong.

Mercnbeth -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:22:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth Aileen, Maybe she needed the pictures as verification in order to get the 'funeral discount' airline fare? Now that's just wrong. Plagiarized the idea from a Seinfeld episode.

earthycouple -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:22:54 PM)
A very southern thing....I know people with photo albums of the dead. Not my idea of great photo ops..but whatever

maybemaybenot -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:41:15 PM)
I've seen this done too and don't get it. I have a friend from the South who lives up here in NE, every trip she makes back home, she takes pictures of her families grave sites and has them proudly displayed around the house. I never asked her if she took pics at the wake, but I will now. I didn't realize it was a southern thing. I'll tell you this: working in hospice I have seen some very bizarre things with families and the deceased loved ones. The strangest one for me was when " Granny " died at home in her bed with the loving family of about 20 surrounding her. Right after I pronounced her and was signing the paperwork, one of her daughters took out her camera, propped " Grannies " head up on two pillows and started calling to the grandchildren: "Susie, c'mon, hop up in the bed with Granny and let me take a last picture of you with her. " The poor kids were horrified, when the littlest ones would cry and say no, another family member would tug them along and sit them in the bed with Granny. " Say cheese". It was very eerrie and I couldn't wait to get the hell out. mbmbn

sophia37 -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:45:28 PM)
I dont see the problem. Why not take photos? I have.

domiguy -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:50:13 PM)
What do you do with the photos?.....It' not exactly catching someone at their best.

selfbnd411 -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:51:37 PM)
Well either way, I hate funerals. I hope when I die there's not enough of me left to bother disposing of!

Sinergy -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:53:05 PM)
After I am dead, I want to be put in a boat, lit on fire, and pushed out to sea in the fashion of my ancestors. Still shopping for a funeral home that will oblige me. Sinergy p.s. This is how I feel in life. I imagine after I am dead I really wont care one way or the other.

Mercnbeth -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 4:56:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy What do you do with the photos?.....It' not exactly catching someone at their best. Scrap-booking has become very popular. These pictures can go in the last page of the scrapbook the dead person was compiling, and put up on the mantel next to their ashes.

Sinergy -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 5:11:34 PM)
After Graham Chapman died, they had a wake thingie on BBC with the surviving members of Monty Python. Somebody knocked over the urn onto the carpet, spilling his ashes all over. Everybody stared in stunned silence. Until... Eric Idle runs back in with a Dustbuster in his hands yelling "He would have wanted it this way!" Took the cast minutes to recover from their gales of laughter for the wake to continue. Sinergy p.s. Funerals are not really about the dead. They are about the living. I would feel a bit creepy keeping pictures of a corpse in my scrapbook, but that is just me. These people are doing what they need to do to handle their grief over the loss of this person in their life.

thompsonx -> RE: A Strange Wake (6/7/2007 5:13:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sinergy After I am dead, I want to be put in a boat, lit on fire, and pushed out to sea in the fashion of my ancestors. Still shopping for a funeral home that will oblige me. Sinergy p.s. This is how I feel in life. I imagine after I am dead I really wont care one way or the other. Sinergy: Don't forget to file for the environmental impact report, the burn permit and the launch fees. For myself I want to be cremated and my friends will put my ashes into a bottle of Massingale's so I can be recycled one more time. thompson

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