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onceburned -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (6/5/2005 11:29:40 AM)
quote: The articles indicate that they probably should be allowed to ejaculate more than once/month though as you suggest above Indeed... the articles suggest that a guy should ejaculate daily or at least every other day. Which would tend to rule out chastity play.

asissyforher -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (6/12/2005 11:37:26 PM)
i myself have never had any device, i am self celebate. and i am on the honor system. so if i get to release some day?... a sissy

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (6/13/2005 12:44:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: asissyforher i myself have never had any device, i am self celebate. and i am on the honor system. so if i get to release some day?... a sissy Garylee, give yourself permission to give up celibacy, and have fun so you can relax, take time, and get to know the right person for you someday.. M

asissyforher -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (6/14/2005 4:24:01 PM)
i am self celebate....no sex since 2001......and don't care. masturbation? 1 month.....and don't care. ok, so i'm different. but You asked. a sissy

fill -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 4:52:48 AM)
quote: RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? Hi, I am new here but not to chastity. I wear a cb-3000 24/7 and have done so now for over 5 years. Although it is only throughout the last (just over) 41/2 years that I have been denied release for any other reason than shaving. During which time the cb gets a trip through the dishwasher. Whilst waiting I am usually restrained or supervised. I do get sexual relief periodically when my wife or, under her guidance, one of her friends takes me with a strap-on. I have come to find this extremely stimulating and usually get fucked this way 3 or 4 times a month but not allowed to come physically I can have what might be described as a whole body orgasm, which is fantastic and usually makes me cry after and of course extremely grateful. As you can imagine I have come to really appreciate anal sex. The leakage of pre-cum that I get when I am fucked is more than sufficient to maintain a healthy prostate. I find there is no detriment to my health and well-being. I feel good. I have become a much better person with heightened awareness to my wife's needs and I feel sexually charged all the time, this has proved to have considerably increase both my compliance and submisiveness. Above all I have developed a driving need to please my wife in any way I can. Which of course encourages her to keep me locked down. Of course she does not go without, I am permitted to please her orally at a moments notice sometimes 3 or 4 times a day and if I have pleased her especially she sometimes has me wear a strap-on, which is of course much bigger than my penis and one of the reasons why she won't waste her time with it anymore. We both find it humilating for me and very stimulating that whilst I serve her with the strap-on both knowing that whilst it pleases her so much it makes the prospect of me ever having intercourse with even more remote. Our agreement was initially that I should be locked for 1 year after which time we would discuss if one of us wanted to stop. We did discuss it after the first year but both find that long term denial is good for us both and neither of us can really forsee a time when I will not be denied in the future. Were it not for shaving and to some extent hygiene (which can be maintained without removal) we would both very happily throw the keys away. I have of course had some accidents since we started this but my wife has been very understanding about it. I always feel very guilty about it after, having let us both down so badly. It usually takes me a week to start feeling normal again. Sorry if I have gone on a bit, but the improvements in our relationship and lifestyle are wonderful. My wife is feels much more secure and content and I have become a much better husband. I hope this helps. fill

fill -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 4:55:17 AM)
Sorry my reply was intended for BlkTallFullfig . I'll get better at this lol. fill

thetammyjo -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 7:11:53 AM)
I think it is very funny that we use this word, chastity, to equal no sex when it really means having proper sex or allowed sex. By the older meaning, Fox is always chaste -- he never has sex with someone else without my consent and he does not come in my presence without my explicit and direct permission.

OnyxGoddess -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 7:22:35 AM)
I'm relieved by this post. Thank you, Blktallfullfig. We rarely agree (LOL) but I've been considering putting one of my toys in a chastity device when we're not together to control his "touching of himself" and his orgasms. Sometimes a week we are unable to see each other so it worried me to have him hemmed up for that amount of time. Thanks for posting this. *~O~*

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 7:51:24 AM)
Oh Lord, someone revived this old thread just to embarrass me about mispelling my own title "chastity." [:)] Now I'll have to read it again, because I don't remember it. M

Lorelei115 -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 8:11:43 AM)
This is a great thread, very informative, thank you to whomever revived it!

ToGiveDivine -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 9:47:56 AM)
FAST REPLY: Personally, I don't think I'd like long term chastity (I actually don't know either way because I've never been in that position). I look at chastity as something for the lady to enjoy in several ways - not only that she has taken control, but more importantly that he has given her control. I would assume that there would be great mental enjoyment for the lady to have her man willingly permit her to lock up something very dear to him and to have him not only accept that he would be giving her whatever physical pleasure she would desire, but maybe even find it acceptable if she decided she wanted other lovers to provide the "penetration" aspect she wouldn't be getting from her lover. (cuckold) Personally, I think long-term chastity would eventually turnout to be depressing because I would probably feel I didn't provide her with enough pleasure that she'd rather keep me locked up because I didn't measure up - but short term periods and even being cuckolded in the process would be fun as long as she enjoyed it. In the long run, what pleasure she got from the experience would be the most important. If she's not getting a great mental stimulus from the chastity and/or cuckold aspect, then what would be the point? I've always thought that it isn't about the act (any act), but how it is perceived. How it makes her feel between her ears is much more important than any physical act.

nysub85 -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 2:31:18 PM)
Hey E/everyone, this is the first time that I am posting in the forum so please excuse anything wrong (I am very new to this). I am a shy person and have never had the nerve to write in the forum since I am inexperienced. This topic compelled me to reply since it is direclty relevant to me as of last Thursday. Anyway, I currently gave the key to my chastity to a girl whom I have been involved with since November. We have known each other for 4 years and have talked about chastity belts and decided it was time to explore and experiment. I own a cb3000 (which I recommend since it is easy to clean, not noticible under everyday clothing, and cool since it is clear...you can see the penis struggling to get out). One of her main concerns, however, was that she wanted the experience to be fun for me too (I thought I would have to find a way for her to enjoy it, but luckily for me she has a natural dominant side). She wanted to find a way to balance a way for both of us to have fun outside of chastity (in terms of sex), while at the same time keep me locked up and in a chastity belt. So what we did was we both sat down and talked about what we each expected and wanted from her being a keyholder and me being "locked up." This was really good, because we were both able to clearly outline and explain to each other what we wanted, so no one was doing anything they did not wish to do. For me, I told her that I had to be let out of the chastity belt every Monday, Wed, and Friday for gym classes (running in a chastity belt is no fun, haha, I found that out earlier this week when I had to chase after a bus). So what she does is allows me to be out of the chastity belt for classes or situations where I need to be. She trusts me enough to then either lock myself up when I get back from those situations or locks me back up herself. She trusts me to not touch myself or do anything against her will since we have known each other for so long. I would honestly allow the sub access to be free for the first few days, since the night time errections can be quite painful. This takes a few days to get used to, but does not really pose much of a problem from my perspective (atleast in terms of excruciating or unbearable pain). The idea of being placed into a chastity belt is very scary, especially from this 22 year olds point of view, so I feel it is important to be supportive and willing to hear what the sub has to say. As I told my current keyholder, there is a difference between being uncomfortable and being in alot of pain. There are days where I am really frustrated and want to get out, but she is aware that I will be begging for release. You have to be firm if you say no release or orgasm for x days, otherwise it might lose it's value. The best way I can say it is that if you like to control your sub, and like to be a tease and a flirt, this is a great idea. It won't take long until the sub will do anything to be released, and that can be alot of fun. I am really sorry E/everyone if this is long winded or unhelpful, but this is my first post and I felt that I can offer some help...or maybe a new perspective. I am really glad that this post is up and I hope that my response was helpful. I am new to actually engaging in chastity and bdsm play, but I have read posts for a while and I thank E/everyone for helping a novice like me. I really look forward to reading more on this topic and actually participating in the forums :)

MsKatHouston -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/15/2007 2:36:27 PM)
I think your post is quite helpful and a really good example of what you should do. The communication you went through before making any decisions is commendable

ServenteMail -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/16/2007 9:38:15 AM)
BlkTallFullfig, Male chastity device can good at removing sexual desires if coupled with medicines and proper training. The result is you get a eunuch slave without surgery and know that the mental desire has been properly removed with out physical castration leaving a slave truly dedicated to serving YOU with out the belief of it having possible sexual pleasure. One thing to keep in mind is you must limit your slave’s exposure to anal penetration as that could become a milking for him and be counterproductive to the desired results. The first 8-12 months is the most important period. i do not know if the idea of use it or loose it is true but know that since my most resent former owner sent the key to my device last fall i really had no desire to remove it and when I finally did just have no desire to masturbate. I probably could still have an erection if I tried but visual stimulation with self stimulation does nothing. i do not know who made my device. It was definitely very well made. Probably custom made as i have never seen any like it; heavy guage stainless steel sharp bent tube that completely coverd my penis and locked around my scrotum from behind. It weighs about 11 kilograms. There is letters on the inside of the tube i could see after i removed it. i always had to sit to use the bathroom. Even now i still catch myself automatically walking into a stall when out instead of a stand up urinal. Posbily one of my first owners associates in Europe supplied it. Even with the key and a mirror i still had to get another to assist to figure out the locking mechanism and remove it. i was asked to research different forms of chastity devices, piercings and castration techniques for my first owners. Although quite a while ago and i have only my memory to recall from, i did learn a lot about other means to create a dedicated eunuch slave but have only my one real world device i was fitted with when i was 26 to speak from.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/16/2007 1:42:43 PM)
Thank you for the informative posts ServenteMail, and nysub85 on your ideas and experiences with chastity. I have toyed with many ideas since learning about D/s relationships. I'm a playful person who likes to keep a relationship light and fun most of the time; so when I noticed that many submissives desire chastity and many Dominas say it is a good way to keep his focus on service, I wanted to learn more about it. My only experience with chastity to date has been in ordering no touching of my property without my permission or presence, and I find that works well enough for my needs. I'm still not opposed to using some device at times when I'm absent; but that doesn't mean I want it locked and contorted and never permitted to stretch and do what it's supposed to do. Other associated issues have been the need to fly to different places (for work or to come see me), and places of work (needing to go through metal detection, or physical exams) have always been considerations I had to keep in mind. The fact of the matter for me is that I don't have any special desire to keep a man chaste. I like sex and have zero desire to diminish any man's sex drive or ability. To me it's a major reason we come together in the first place, so why remove the need/desire or phuck with his ability to perform. In my particular case, it doesn't work, and any person who has a strong need to put his penis away and not use it, is probably never going to work for me, because if I want absence of penis in a submissive, I'll have a relationship with a lady. M

ToGiveDivine -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/16/2007 2:47:35 PM)
BlkTallFullfig, You seem more the type to use a chastity device on your sub as a short-term (1 to 3 days) for the entertainment value. It would be more like a mental stimulus for you rather than a long-term process. Kind of like "gotcha now boy" or "show me how much you want me to let you loose" LOL

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/16/2007 11:42:00 PM)
quote: You seem more the type to use a chastity device on your sub as a short-term (1 to 3 days) for the entertainment value. You've got that right! [sm=evil.gif] Especially if it would lead to serious begging. M

fill -> RE: Chasity? Over How long a period? (2/17/2007 3:45:31 AM)
If you look into this properly there is a slightly increased risk with long term orgasm denial of developing prostate cancer earlier, if you live long enough almost all men will get it sooner or later. If you get checked regularly, I do every six months the tell tale signs will be found and treatment has a high sucess rate. If treated early enough. Little we do in life is without risk, its how you weigh that risk that counts. We can not imagine there being a time when I am not kept locked its something we both want so we do it.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Chastity? Over How long a period? (2/17/2007 4:00:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fill Little we do in life is without risk, its how you weigh that risk that counts. We can not imagine there being a time when I am not kept locked its something we both want so we do it. This makes perfect sense to me... There is always risk of illness, harm or death inherent to the living. What is important is that you submit to the wishes of your domina/owner because that is the way your relationship works, so kudos to you and yours. I also meant to thank all of the posters who've added to or enjoyed the thread [:)] M

Joeconero -> RE: Chastity? Over How long a period? (2/17/2007 9:33:21 PM)
All I'll say is if someone wants it off it isn't too hard, without creating any detectable damage whatsoever. It's better to build that type of relationship on trust rather then having some type of false sense of security in a device.

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