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Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 1:17:03 AM   
jennel


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Of all the things that turn me on the most, a Dom/me wanting to take interest and control over me is the most appealing.

I am especially interested in well spoken, well educated Daddy Doms who can outwit me at the drop of a hat who -want- all that control. That is more stimulating than just the thought of any one sexual act.

Am I wrong or backwards in thinking this?

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 1:35:05 AM   
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Apologies... i'm neither male nor a dom, but i'm going to reply.

I'm not sure whether an educated dom would like to be with someone they can outwit at the drop of a hat..? Wouldn't it be more fun if there was at least a little challenge there..?

Just musing.

And hello and welcome to the boards!

~ Elektra

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 1:39:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM

Apologies... i'm neither male nor a dom, but i'm going to reply.

I'm not sure whether an educated dom would like to be with someone they can outwit at the drop of a hat..? Wouldn't it be more fun if there was at least a little challenge there..?

Just musing.

And hello and welcome to the boards!


Thanks for the welcome.

Maybe you're right, but that is one thing that really interests me.

Thanks for the reply, as well. :)

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 3:44:22 AM   
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I also find the greater control factor within a D/s relationship highly addictive and desirable. I do enjoy when she's made some indiscretion and I talk her through it with a series of innocuous questions, gradually boxing her in with her own answers. A bit like a cat with a mouse; they seem to enjoy the torment far more than any potential meal....

So, no, I don't think you're wrong or backward thinking at all.... It's one of the extra dimensions of a D/s or M/s relationship and doesn't compromise other play or intimacy. I don't necessarily view it as outwitting her so much as the sadist in me making the most of the opportunity to watch her squirm a little as part of any possible discipline. Yes, I know, sometimes she just does it for attention, which is cool, as I've always preferred a spirited fem/sub with a little mischief about her anyway. And it's her butt if she does go too far....

Focus50.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 8:34:45 AM   
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What you want is very common. It shows that someone wants you and is SO into you that they can do those thigns to you AND take the time and energy to do them. It's very good for one's ego.

So yes, you can definitely find what you want, just make sure that's not the only aspect of your relationship or you will quickly tire of constantly pushing him to "show his domliness" and the dom will quickly tire of being your security.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 9:49:41 AM   
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Good kink like good sex is in your head.

...the physical activities are just a part of the route to your brain.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/30/2005 11:57:21 AM   
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Thanks A/all for the feedback. It is muchly appreciated.

jennel

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 7:16:20 AM   
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quote:

Of all the things that turn me on the most, a Dom/me wanting to take interest and control over me is the most appealing.


I'm with you Jennel~! If a Dom can't do a mental dance with me, forget it. I do need a educated, mentally stimulating Dom, if not I won't respect him as much. Sounds snotty perhaps, but I really need to feel I can look up too and admire him. This is not say that it is done constantly, but I need to know it is there.
RaeRae

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 7:24:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RaeRae39

quote:

Of all the things that turn me on the most, a Dom/me wanting to take interest and control over me is the most appealing.


I'm with you Jennel~! If a Dom can't do a mental dance with me, forget it. I do need a educated, mentally stimulating Dom, if not I won't respect him as much. Sounds snotty perhaps, but I really need to feel I can look up too and admire him. This is not say that it is done constantly, but I need to know it is there.
RaeRae

pppsssst ...not that educated here but wouldn't that be "an educated"?

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 7:39:18 AM   
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quote:

pppsssst ...not that educated here but wouldn't that be "an educated"?


LOL~!!! ok, now that's what I'm talking about~!!! Correction on grammer, lol, but at least you knew it. Soutenir a vous~!!!
Raerae :)

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 7:44:12 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RaeRae39

quote:

pppsssst ...not that educated here but wouldn't that be "an educated"?


LOL~!!! ok, now that's what I'm talking about~!!! Correction on grammer, lol, but at least you knew it. Soutenir a vous~!!!
Raerae :)

And to think I only graduated from high school and that was %^& years ago!
*winks*

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 7:46:37 AM   
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Grammar
;)

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 7:51:03 AM   
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Grammar
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LOL

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 8:45:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kiaban


quote:

ORIGINAL: RaeRae39

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Of all the things that turn me on the most, a Dom/me wanting to take interest and control over me is the most appealing.


I'm with you Jennel~! If a Dom can't do a mental dance with me, forget it. I do need a educated, mentally stimulating Dom, if not I won't respect him as much. Sounds snotty perhaps, but I really need to feel I can look up too and admire him. This is not say that it is done constantly, but I need to know it is there.
RaeRae

pppsssst ...not that educated here but wouldn't that be "an educated"?


(wipes the tears from her eyes)

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 9:16:49 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jennel

Of all the things that turn me on the most, a Dom/me wanting to take interest and control over me is the most appealing.

I am especially interested in well spoken, well educated Daddy Doms who can outwit me at the drop of a hat who -want- all that control. That is more stimulating than just the thought of any one sexual act.

Am I wrong or backwards in thinking this?

jennel

There really isn't a wrong when its what you like [usual disclaimer here] .
For me the D/s dynamic amplifies whatever else is done so with you on that one!

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 5/31/2005 12:56:12 PM   
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LoL RaeRae. It's good to know people have an understanding of what I'm looking for. :D

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/2/2005 11:07:29 AM   
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I'm a well educated, well spoken Mommy Domme, and I don't see anything wrong with what you seek. To me, it seems almost the definition of the parental Dom/me. You're looking for someone who will love/nurture/take care of you, and in order for you to trust them in that role, you need to feel they are better able to do so than you yourself are. Demonstrations of this ability are sexy to a lil one. I suspect you'd find a demonstration of physical strength as appealing as the demonstration of mental prowess.

Personally, I prefer a mental equal when I'm selecting a partner. I've learned to take less than that because very few match me in the mental department ( 2% of the world's population.) I'm not being rude or arrogant with that statement. It is something that actually makes it harder to interact with others. Often, they don't get what I'm talking about. Since I can talk rings around 80% of the world's population, when I found a sub who actually could keep up with me mentally, it was a joy. Now I have a bit of an adjustment to make. While I treasure my lil boy's brain, I am not used to having someone around who is not so easy to manipulate or confuse. I've actually had to alter my style of Domination a little, LoL. It has been wonderful. He is exactly what I needed. Do not fall into the trap of letting the Dom/me win mentally. I had a few intelligent subs in the past who made that mistake, thinking I'd find it attractive. I find it much more attractive when my sub is honest about his abilities and I have to sometimes work to keep up with him. We have to trust that when we're not around to take detailed care of our sweet ones, that they'll be able to care for themselves.

And never assume because you're the only one who feels a certain way that you are wrong. It may simply mean that you are unique, and there is nothing at all wrong with that. *smiles* You're not wrong or backwards. You're simoply a wonderfully complex human being.


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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/4/2005 7:23:25 PM   
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The sexual act in a D/s relationship is as much a gift from the Dominant as your submission to Him/Her...you will encounter a plethora of mortals claiming to be all you seek.....but the truth will out and right will be done....!

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/5/2005 8:30:45 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jennel

Of all the things that turn me on the most, a Dom/me wanting to take interest and control over me is the most appealing.

I am especially interested in well spoken, well educated Daddy Doms who can outwit me at the drop of a hat who -want- all that control. That is more stimulating than just the thought of any one sexual act.

Am I wrong or backwards in thinking this?

jennel


I totally am in agreement with you. I find it hard to submit to someone who I don't think is intellectually equal at least. I'm very sharp, but a Dom who can be sharper gets me going. I especially like one who keeps me on my toes intellectually. But then this whole D/s thing for me is very mental, so that's my bag I guess.
gg

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/8/2005 3:45:43 AM   
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Young lady,

What you are seeking is the most powerful turn-on for a true sub/slave. What is the thing that most women crave...Security. That is what you are really seeking. My slave/wife (that I met on coller me, by the way) is turned on more by TPE than any other aspect of our relationship.

I never forget that even though I have total control over her life, I give her "free-time" everyday to express her thoughts, fears, concerns or need for clairification of anything. It may or may not get me to change my mind, but I do take it into account.

Ruffneck

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