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LafayetteLady -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 9:26:24 PM)

I frequently read the profile of people posting such comments to try and get some insight as to what may be going on.  I noticed right away that the profile indicates the OP is a dominant.  Not surprisingly, she has not reposted.  Wonder if those are even her pictures?




imthatacheyouhav -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 9:43:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

I frequently read the profile of people posting such comments to try and get some insight as to what may be going on.  I noticed right away that the profile indicates the OP is a dominant.  Not surprisingly, she has not reposted.  Wonder if those are even her pictures?

I'm confused...does this mean the original post was bullshit or she is a sub in RL and claims to be a Dom here?...Hmmmm i guess we'll never know....




crouchingtigress -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 9:52:14 PM)

 here you go....[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image]

wait that might not be scorn thats more like disappointed

scorn...hmmm...maybe this one...[:'(]

ok you are scorned.

feel better?

you only ever deserve what you decide you yourself are worth.....personally i think you deserve... [:)]




LafayetteLady -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 10:02:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav

quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

I frequently read the profile of people posting such comments to try and get some insight as to what may be going on.  I noticed right away that the profile indicates the OP is a dominant.  Not surprisingly, she has not reposted.  Wonder if those are even her pictures?

I'm confused...does this mean the original post was bullshit or she is a sub in RL and claims to be a Dom here?...Hmmmm i guess we'll never know....



I think that may have been the whole point...confuse as many as possible. 




imthatacheyouhav -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 10:29:43 PM)

I'm confused...WAIT!!!!......maybe i'm not.......




EvilGeoff -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 10:36:54 PM)

Not sure what to make of this since, as others have pointed out, your profile indicates you identify as a Dominant.

*shrugs*  Taking it at face value though, this is a learning experience, nothing more.  It is certainly not the end of the world.  If this is an actual situation, then someone did not spend the time and effort to teach you the way of service they wanted and expected, and you did not put forth the effort to learn their needs and desires.

That's a failure to communicate.  Again, not the end of the world.

But at 29 years of age, you should already know that.

I hope you learn from the experience and grow, then let go and move on.

YIK,
- Geoff




charlotte12 -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/9/2007 10:43:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

The people on this site can be sooo judgemental and mean...Some have called you a fake, others have questioned your profile...I read your post and I immediately felt your pain as well as your complete honesty.....None of this would have been possible if you had chosen to omit the photo,in your profile, of your perfect ass.

I will help you learn to submit.....The picture of your ass has nothing to do with this offer.


You make me smile. :)




LadyHeart -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 2:38:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

I'm trying to figure out if this is a new version of the Nigerian Slave Scam.  How does this go, now?  If you express an interest in purchasing her "beast" is the follow up a request for a "good faith" financial deposit?  Or perhaps she needs your Aussie equivalent to what in the States would be a key document for stealing your identity:  A social security no.  How fun.


Yes, it appears that it is. I checked the profile of the sender and found this: "A one off payment of £25.000 will also be paid through my Attorney to the Lady(ies) who eventually agree to aquire my beast. This is to offset the cost of its food and lodging in the early years.  I recognise that not all lady dominas are wealthy but each does have the right to own a male beast if they truelly want and need to do so for their personal happiness."
 
I guess if I pay a small token as an indication of my sincerity I will be sure to acquire the beast in question - or perhaps a slightly used harbour bridge, sigh
:))
LH





CuriousLord -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 3:17:23 AM)

Tell me, little dancer; did you find lasting beauty in balance?




charmdpetKeira -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 3:33:57 AM)

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At the point where I was unable to even think clearly, I was despairingly frightened. I didn't seem to be worthy or helpful. I REMOVED MY OWN COLLAR. In this lifestyle, it is damnation.

I will pay for the rest of my life for this.
 

Holy sheep sh_t, the punishment for such an act can’t be “damnation”; and what do you consider to be, “damnation”? Personally, I don’t believe there is a “place” with the name “Hell”.

quote:

Any personal issues aside. I completely failed at service.
 

 
I recently needed to ask for release, the relationship I was in, became harmful to me. While I would agree that the relationship is over, I feel I learned a lot from it, and do not regret the time I had with him.
 
I would also point out; I have not given up on finding my Master, so I can not say I failed. I just haven’t succeeded yet. I prefer not to tally up my score card, until the game is completely over. At which point, I’m thinking, I will not care what the score is.

quote:

I failed two loving people because of my fears and insecurities.

I lost their trust.and their love.

I did not know how to serve. I'm sorry.
 

It has been my experience, if something is meant to be; it will happen. If you have something, you loose it, and despite your best efforts and sincere intent, does not come back to you; it was still meant to be, just not the way you had hoped for. I find in situations like this, there is usually some. “life” lesson to be learned. If you decide to look for one, try not to exclude the possibility it has very little or nothing to do with the fact that you removed your collar.

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The world should know of my ways, and I warn them of people like me.
 

The fact that you came here, in this manner, makes me think you are probably a good person, who may have made a mistake; maybe not.
 
Sometimes are instincts tell us things that are hidden from our view by emotions.
 
Best wishes,
 
k




charmdpetKeira -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 3:55:02 AM)

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Is there any possible way to learn ?
 
 
Yes, the right one(s) for you, will understand your apprehension, and take the time needed to teach you in a way you do not feel so threatened, or at least recognize that you feel that way, and reassure you.
 
It is your responsibility, too make sure you do not settle for less then one who will consider you and your needs; in all aspects, pertaining to you.
 
k




kirby104 -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 6:38:26 AM)

I was bombarded by jerks when I listed as submissive. CollarMe should have more selections such as: dominant masochist, submissive top, bottom, etc, At least the person could more easily reveals themselves. The only reason I listed as dominant was that I want to top.




bandit25 -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 7:05:28 AM)

Dudette...chill.




charmdpetKeira -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 7:28:55 AM)

quote:

I was bombarded by jerks when I listed as submissive. CollarMe should have more selections such as: dominant masochist, submissive top, bottom, etc, At least the person could more easily reveals themselves. The only reason I listed as dominant was that I want to top.

 
I suggest redoing your profile, list yourself as what you claim to be. Put the information that you wish others to know that is not listed as options in the written part of your profile.
 
Other wise, as you can see here; many  will not believe what you have to say, because you contridict yourself..
 
Block and delete those who respond in a manner that offends you.
 
k




beargonewild -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 7:55:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kirby104

At the point where I was unable to even think clearly, I was despairingly frightened. I didn't seem to be worthy or helpful. I REMOVED MY OWN COLLAR. In this lifestyle, it is damnation.

I will pay for the rest of my life for this.

Any personal issues aside. I completely failed at service.

I failed two loving people because of my fears and insecurities.

I lost their trust.and their love.

I did not know how to serve. I'm sorry.

The world should know of my ways, and I warn them of people like me.



Erm....I really wouldn't get extremely bent out of shape because you removed your collar. Think for a monment and realize that you're not the only one and countless others have removed their collares for various reasons. If it helps any, I done the exact same thing a few weeks ago after realizing that I wasn't capable of serving my former Msaster 24/7. Relax, learn from your experience and grow to be what you are meant to be in life.




MiladyElaine -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 8:31:18 AM)

When I first read this post I thought "hmm, reverse psychology."
And I still thnk so!




earthycouple -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 8:33:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff

Not sure what to make of this since, as others have pointed out, your profile indicates you identify as a Dominant.

*shrugs*  Taking it at face value though, this is a learning experience, nothing more.  It is certainly not the end of the world.  If this is an actual situation, then someone did not spend the time and effort to teach you the way of service they wanted and expected, and you did not put forth the effort to learn their needs and desires.

That's a failure to communicate.  Again, not the end of the world.

But at 29 years of age, you should already know that.

I hope you learn from the experience and grow, then let go and move on.

YIK,
- Geoff


*waves*  hiya Geoff nice to see you around again!




domiguy -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 10:56:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kirby104

I was bombarded by jerks when I listed as submissive. CollarMe should have more selections such as: dominant masochist, submissive top, bottom, etc, At least the person could more easily reveals themselves. The only reason I listed as dominant was that I want to top.


Come to Domiguy.




WhiplashSmile -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 12:07:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kirby104
I was bombarded by jerks when I listed as submissive. CollarMe should have more selections such as: dominant masochist, submissive top, bottom, etc, At least the person could more easily reveals themselves. The only reason I listed as dominant was that I want to top.

MMmmmm...  you any good with a flogger?




robertolapiedra -> RE: i deserve scorn (6/10/2007 12:26:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kirby104

I was bombarded by jerks when I listed as submissive. CollarMe should have more selections such as: dominant masochist, submissive top, bottom, etc, At least the person could more easily reveals themselves. The only reason I listed as dominant was that I want to top.


Hello again, kirby 104. I'm guessing at this. Does your wanting to "top" have something to do with  you taking off your collar? (that you now regret?). RL.




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