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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 3:12:34 PM

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*perks*!..reallyyyy..hummm...then I apologise most profusely to LAM..

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 3:15:42 PM

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I am not a Dom...however i can say with certainty and pride that my Master has, and is indeed courting me...He wants to do it...and i LOVE it...He is an awesome man and He makes me feel very special and loved

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 3:52:29 PM

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No problem, disbelief is a common reaction to those of us who tread upon the very clouds.

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*perks*!..reallyyyy..hummm...then I apologise most profusely to LAM....Tempting

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 5:38:31 PM

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I was kinda joking.

"kinda"

Must mean he sends em a pretty card that says:
"Now get your ass over here."

And people think romance is dead.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 5:44:06 PM

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No, just the whole 9 inches.

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lol, I bet you court very well.
Flowers, dinner, the whole 9 yards.

And if memory serves me correctly, I have read that would be a curved 9 inches. *g*

*edited to add a few words to the sentence... I am slightly embarassed that the first sentence could allude to first hand knowledge and not knowledge gained from reading the boards... time to go finish laundry lol

Can I speculate possibly cyber inches??....Tempting

Oh most definitely NOT cyber inches.

Hmmmm......

Maybe hell will be freezing over a little sooner than I thought.

Groveling and begging isn't such a terrible thing...

is it???

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 5:48:45 PM

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I fully expect to be "courted" by my potential submissives.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 7:07:25 PM

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My Daddy began courting me five years ago... he's done everything from take me to dinner... escourted me to lifestyle events... having long chats over coffee... and invite me over to his house for a quite night of snuggling while watching scary movies.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 7:41:05 PM

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I court my boys. I enjoy it, and so do they. I have never been on the recieving end of the courting, I take the lead. Works well for me, and them.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 8:10:23 PM

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Hello octavia, I must say you look marvelous!

I agree there seems to be a lot of confusion on how to approach lifestyle relationships.
I don't think there is a short cut when it comes to getting to know another person, WELL.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 8:11:39 PM

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No, just the whole 9 inches.

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lol, I bet you court very well.
Flowers, dinner, the whole 9 yards.

I thought your 9 inches was an urban legend.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 8:14:59 PM

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I court my boys. I enjoy it, and so do they. I have never been on the recieving end of the courting, I take the lead. Works well for me, and them.

DV

Aww now it gets interesting! You see as a Dominant woman, I still want to be "courted".
It is just that I only allow you to court me, IF I am interested and I make the rules and set the
parameters.
I am thinking female submissives can also "court" a Dominant male also, why not?

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 8:18:40 PM

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Hello octavia, I must say you look marvelous!
I agree there seems to be a lot of confusion on how to approach lifestyle relationships.
I don't think there is a short cut when it comes to getting to know another person, WELL.

Thankies!

*spins*

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 8:54:31 PM

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Show me when you're ready.

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Groveling and begging isn't such a terrible thing...

is it???

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/10/2007 11:45:47 PM

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I believe that who your talking with and each of your goals determain if you would *court*. If you are just looking for play partners or casual relationships then I don't think there would be much courting. LTR's require more of a go slow mindset. You might find someone who"falls" after one r/t or even phone conversation but that is very rare. Most subs/slaves have learned the need for taking their time in entering into new relationships. I seem to remember an old adage that it takes at least 6 months of "dating" for each person to lose the *be on their best behavior* and start showing how they really are. (paraphrased). Whether it's BDSM or vanilla the time and work needs to be done.
PS. It seems that a lot of the subs/slaves that I have interacted with have been hurt in some previous relationship, so I have gone even slower in letting them get to know me and to build trust.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/11/2007 2:06:51 AM

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Sir courted me....he tries to look innocent and says he didnt, but we both know.

its all in the words and the look in his eyes, and not the material possesions.

kitten, who is both reassured and loved.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/11/2007 2:35:24 AM

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In my vanilla days i enjoyed being courted. i would never hold it against anyone who still does.

For me as a slave, it was more than romantic interludes. Master showed me from the beginning who He is as a person, and how life would be with Him. This is what caught my attention, what set Him apart from the others wooing me at the time, and this remains what keeps me so hooked on Him.

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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/11/2007 3:07:06 AM

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my former Master of 10 1/2 years always courted me. i think partially because we didn't see each other very often as He lived in a different state and over 4 hours away from me. When he did come to visit me we would go to a nice hotel for the weekend, or long weekend, and he spoiled me. Though all this was happening, i still had to know my place and remember that he was still my Master. :) *sighing happily* i was a lucky girl.
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RE: Dominants do you court your potential submissives? - 6/11/2007 3:14:40 AM

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I think courting, to a degree is necessary in the forming of a healthy relationship. It highlights the amount of interest expressed between two people, and if there's a mutual interest, there should probably be a mutual courtship occuring to a certain extent.

Now that I've gotten my "nilla comment" outta the way, I'll dive into the way I see it.

I don't court my slaves. I might express interest, but I tend not to chase. I'm in LordandMaster's camp on this one.

I also view what occurs when I'm interested in a potential slave more akin to hunting, than courtship. While I might do things, that would seem to be romantic gestures, such as give her flowers (or more likely A flower, such as to put in her hair or something) I don't much subscribe to the traditional courting values. I'm really not much for mushy romanticism.

I have a propensity for hanging back, observing, evaluating, conversing, etc. on a more casual tone. When the interest is expressed towards me, I tend to move much more swiftly than in normal relationships.

Engaging swiftly and decisively in a relationship defining sort of scene is more my speed. Of course, this takes some conversation to determine that this person is right for that, obviously. But it's not the sort of conversation that one would consider suitable for court-ship, it's more like "pre-pounce negotiations".

But up to that point, I observe first, ensure that there is interest in the first place, lay the cards on the table and wait for the next move, which tells me whether I leap, or whether I slip out quietly.

It's a lot less on the courting end in the beginning and more of a watch and wait scenario... It isn't till I begin to develop deeper feelings for someone that I start doing things that might be of a more romantic nature. I guess that means that I'm really only romantic with those I have a vested interest in.

But traditional courting... No... I leave that to those that are good at it. I'm just not. Being a gentleman however, is part of my approach. While not romantic, I tend to be in tune with what would woo a woman into my "trap" so to speak. The whole, dinner, movie, walk and talk in the park, getting into her (not literally, that usually has already happened, or will soon

), listening to what her dreams, desires are, etc.

I do appreciate the more intimate quiet moments. But I'm not much of a "courtship" kind of guy.

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