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WillowRain -> RE: Multiple Questions for Slaves and Submissives (6/13/2007 6:36:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster
I have some questions that I just need answering because I really want to know. I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.(Long Story) My inbox has been relatively empty unless I initiate the contact. What is it about female submissives? Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me? I try and be as polite as possible when writing my profile, I use pictures, and if I make contact I am very polite and do nit use form letters.
Why is age so important for many? Why do people say that since I’m 22 I cant be called a Master. Like a 45 year old who has never done this before can say they have been doing this for 20+ years and automatically they are called a master and never questioned about it. Again, I’m really sore on the subjects at hand. I don’t want instant gratification by finding a slave “right the instant.” I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me.
Probably, you will have more luck if you at least consider simply labeling yourself as a Dominant. It may be hard to understand at 22, but you haven't really lived long enough yet to be all that acomplished at anything yet. That is NOT an insult. You may be starting into this lifestyle with a great spirit, willingness to learn, and a natural ability. The best thing I can offer to you is to get involved in your local community. Meet folks and find some folks that are living the kind of life that you would like to have. Talk to them and perhaps ask one to mentor you. If you and I were introduced at some event and you were introduced to me as a very sincere and genuine young Dominant, I would be very nice to you and take you seriously. If you used the M word... well... no offense but I would probably disengage from the conversation as fast as humanly possible, because at your age, I would consider labeling oneself that a huge sign of immaturity, ignorance and potential dangerous activity in the scene. Consider being humble, don't exagerate, be real, and keep learning.
This is as sincere and honest an opinion as I can give you. Good luck in your search.
p.s. Have I ever initiated a "hello", yes, but very very rarely. It's not my way. A very dear friend of mine had been talking about my Sir and telling me that he thought we might make a fine match for several weeks. It took me a while before I managed to type a very simple, hello and tiny introduction. He invited me to play with he and a lady friend at a local club and..... so on and so on...
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