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stella40 -> RE: Am i soo wrong? (6/12/2007 3:22:09 PM)
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I write as someone who sometimes gets abusive messages and mails, though not necessarily on Collarme. I've recently gone through a year of receiving a lot of abusive mails, of having e-mail and IM accounts hacked, websites defaced, vandalised and destroyed, messages intercepted, etc.
However in comparison on Collarme while I have had abusive messages they have been very few and I have never yet had to block anyone (compared with another site where I had to delete my profile), and some of the unsolicited messages I get are positive, particularly from Doms (who have no interest in my person) of either gender.
The first thing I would advise is not to let it bother you. I know that's difficult advice to take, we all have feelings and we all can be hurt and offended. But if they don't know you what value is their opinion to you anyway?
Secondly, if you have a chance and the desire, talk about the abusive message with someone trusted, let your feelings out.
Thirdly you can respond, but it shouldn't be by arguing, this is what they want, or by returning the abuse. I have a few stock phrases which I have found to be effective, which are:
"And....?"
"Keep writing, you might one day actually write something intelligent."
It's quite good to do this and block the sender.
Fourthly you can just ignore and block, as you have been doing.
It's just the Internet, it's widely available, even to people able to use a computer, browse the Internet but who seem to be unable to do anything intelligent or productive with their time on the Internet.
Look at it this way. You have the protection of a Dom. Some people don't have that, all they have is a computer screen, keyboard and mouse for company. And to them it is a problem.
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