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uncollaredcandy -> You're not a sub!!! (5/31/2005 9:43:06 PM)
So I realize I shouldn't have kept talking to this person, but I was emailing with him on collarme and then it moved to messenger, and after I told him, no I don't give out my pictures to strangers, (I like to get to know someone first) he told me I wasn't a sub and I was rude and no wonder I was alone and he was reporting me for not being sub and that I would be kicked off. I am now just sitting here and laughing. It is so silly, I should have just ignored right away, but he was on such a role I had to see what happened next. So my question is, how many men and women have experienced this with Dom/mes on here? Candy ps- who has the tag line saying that they are submissive, just not to you. I love it....

PoshTrash -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 4:30:12 AM)
Hiya Candy... I'm new to the site and scene and I have already upset a few Doms... I've been called a fake.... even a pervert because I'm not willing to live as a slave 24/7!!!

Quivver -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 4:37:42 AM)
Welcome to the ~ Your no Sub ~ Club Ladies........ [:D]

FuriousAngel -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 5:20:34 AM)
I figure for every Dom screaming 'you're no submissive'.... .... there is a sub somewhere screaming 'you're no dominant'. [;)] Those are my 'wise' words of the day....bask in my 'wisdom'! LOL!

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 5:33:28 AM)
The joke I use is that "you're not a slave until you've been told at least 5 times that you're not a slave" In other words- it's very common for people to try and make you feel less of who you are so they don't have to face the reality that what they are doing is absolutely ridiculous.

cellogrrlMK -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 7:46:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: uncollaredcandy So I realize I shouldn't have kept talking to this person, but I was emailing with him on collarme and then it moved to messenger, and after I told him, no I don't give out my pictures to strangers, (I like to get to know someone first) he told me I wasn't a sub and I was rude and no wonder I was alone and he was reporting me for not being sub and that I would be kicked off. I am now just sitting here and laughing. It is so silly, I should have just ignored right away, but he was on such a role I had to see what happened next. So my question is, how many men and women have experienced this with Dom/mes on here? Candy ps- who has the tag line saying that they are submissive, just not to you. I love it.... He was going to "report you"???? To whom was he going to report you, the Sub Police? LOLOL... oh geez, some of the "Doms" on here just crack me up! In answer to your PS, I believe that would be sissymaidlola with that sig line [:)] cello

sub4hire -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 8:53:25 AM)
On here never. Of course I've never chatted with anyone on here other than a few e-mails back and forth. When I was searching for a dom all of the pic hounds would say things like that. Many would ask for a photo up front. When I refused well I wasn't submissive. I used to have a few choice words for them...then I'd never respond to them again. People are childish plain and simple. To me a child will never be a dom until they decide to grow up a bit. Children have temper tantrums and the larger the child the larger the tantrum. Someone could die. Why, waste your time with such rubbish?

kc692 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 8:56:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK quote: ORIGINAL: uncollaredcandy So I realize I shouldn't have kept talking to this person, but I was emailing with him on collarme and then it moved to messenger, and after I told him, no I don't give out my pictures to strangers, (I like to get to know someone first) he told me I wasn't a sub and I was rude and no wonder I was alone and he was reporting me for not being sub and that I would be kicked off. I am now just sitting here and laughing. It is so silly, I should have just ignored right away, but he was on such a role I had to see what happened next. So my question is, how many men and women have experienced this with Dom/mes on here? Candy ps- who has the tag line saying that they are submissive, just not to you. I love it.... He was going to "report you"???? To whom was he going to report you, the Sub Police? LOLOL... oh geez, some of the "Doms" on here just crack me up! In answer to your PS, I believe that would be sissymaidlola with that sig line [:)] cello LMAO, you know, he probably meant he was going to put it on her "permanent record" (remember school, lol?). I imagine the others are right, some of us dom/mes get accused of not being dominant because we don't conform to their idea of a dominant.

kc692 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 8:57:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FuriousAngel I figure for every Dom screaming 'you're no submissive'.... .... there is a sub somewhere screaming 'you're no dominant'. [;)] Those are my 'wise' words of the day....bask in my 'wisdom'! LOL! Amen, Furious!!!!!

kc692 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 9:00:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub4hire On here never. Of course I've never chatted with anyone on here other than a few e-mails back and forth. When I was searching for a dom all of the pic hounds would say things like that. Many would ask for a photo up front. When I refused well I wasn't submissive. I used to have a few choice words for them...then I'd never respond to them again. People are childish plain and simple. To me a child will never be a dom until they decide to grow up a bit. Children have temper tantrums and the larger the child the larger the tantrum. Someone could die. Why, waste your time with such rubbish? On another note, I state on my profile I require a picture with initial email if there is not one on the profile. I am NOT looking for thrills, I expect a g rated one. It is no guarantee, but at least starts the process of seeing that they are who they say they are (man instead of woman, 60 instead of 20, etc.). It is no guarantee of honesty, but at least starts the process.

FuriousAngel -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 9:31:50 AM)
I feel that regardless of where you go in this lifestyle there will always be someone expressing that you are 'beneath them' in some fashion. I have had more submissives/slaves take more shots at my validity as a submissive than Dominants. Go figure? I'm not suggesting it's wrong for people who choose to utilize more discretion or different approaches to revealing their physical self, or that it makes one less submissive. Yet, for myself I want to see a picture while engaging with a Dominant and I would not continue communicating if they refused.

MsSilvie -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 9:49:49 AM)
Guess what? When you don't kowtow to someone's overblown online ego, dominant or submissive, the first thing out of their mouth is "You're not REAAAAAAL!!!" It's all they know how to say when they get challenged. It's an ad hominem attack. They can't attack the thoughts or the reasoning you have, so they attack you personally. Any kind of logical discussion with them is out of the question, because that requires that they be confident and willing to examine themselves. So take it as a positive thing, you've just weeded out another person who isn't worth your time. Personally, I get a perverse little shiver of delight when someone hisses at me, "You're not a reaaaaaaal Domme!" Because even I don't call myself a dominant in the terms of bdsm. So I agree with them. I'm not a "real Domme", whatever that means. And if they want to pursue the matter, I show them just how rough a fake Domme can be on their ego.

uncollaredcandy -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 11:28:53 AM)
Thank you everyone for the responses. KC it is different since you ask for a photo in your profile. But I don't want to send one out to every stranger I meet on here. I like to get to know someone a littl before I do. But thats just me, if they can't repect that limit then I don't want to be there anyway. Candy

kc692 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 12:00:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: uncollaredcandy Thank you everyone for the responses. KC it is different since you ask for a photo in your profile. But I don't want to send one out to every stranger I meet on here. I like to get to know someone a littl before I do. But thats just me, if they can't repect that limit then I don't want to be there anyway. Candy You go girl!!!! You have that very right, and I definitely understand it. I also realize there are a lot of trolls posing, and just want to whank on pics...I was just trying to show there might be a reason why they want one other than for the other obvious reasons. Good luck on the site!!!

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 12:09:55 PM)
Personally I figure I don't ask people for their pictures when I say hello to them in real life, so what's the difference here? It's just a picture. But that's me, I can be out a lot more than most people can. It's certainly your choice when you're comfortable enough to give out any information on yourself.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 3:48:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: uncollaredcandy So I realize I shouldn't have kept talking to this person, but I was emailing with him on collarme and then it moved to messenger, and after I told him, no I don't give out my pictures to strangers, (I like to get to know someone first) he told me I wasn't a sub and I was rude and no wonder I was alone and he was reporting me for not being sub and that I would be kicked off. I am now just sitting here and laughing. It is so silly, I should have just ignored right away, but he was on such a role I had to see what happened next. So my question is, how many men and women have experienced this with Dom/mes on here? Candy ps- who has the tag line saying that they are submissive, just not to you. I love it.... Candy, just as a matter of curiousity did you have his picture? And was he asking for somethng sexy and naked, or just a basic G-rated photo? You are well withinn your rights to refuse. And if he sent you his without you asking, that was up to him. To answer the other part of your post, I get requests all the time. I already have My photos posted, and they will ask for more! Like kc, I also request a G-rated photo with the first email, but I am specifically seeking live-in slave boys, or live-out submissive boys. I am not seeking chat buddies, or cyber relationships. So when they write to Me, I do expect something. And I do write to a few on this site and others. W/we have online friendships, and I may or may not have a photo of them. It doesn't matter to Me. What they write matters, not what they look like. I consider that different than corresponding with someone who says they want to come live with Me and be My slave. You are not wrong, and you have the right to refuse. Don't pay any attention to this sort of garbage. And, yes, it is sissymaidiola who uses that tag line.

wildangel1012003 -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 4:04:06 PM)
i have not been here long and have in chat and in e-mail been told i was a fake and a wannabee, and other not nice things. i just ignore the person calling me them, and go about my business. they are not worth wasting time on . no one is what every one thinks should be a sub or slave, every one has diffrent wants and needs. that does not make you or any one else a fake.

SirKenin -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 5:34:14 PM)
Heh. Welcome to the online world of losers (fortunately they are not all like that though). This is one of the blessings of not looking for anyone (I will take friendship, but nothing else). I could care less what other people think. I get to do My own thing and if Y/you do not like it, tough beans for Y/you. Y/your thoughts, Y/your judgements, Y/your assessments of who I am, whatever, mean nothing to Me so Y/you might as well keep them to Y/yourself. When I want to reveal details of who I am, I do it on MY time, when I want. How I want and not to pander to Y/your headgames or whatever other stunt Y/you might be pulling. If Y/you think that makes Me the lesser person than that makes YOU the loser. I manage an online chatroom and if there was only one thing I have learned through all that, if nothing else, is that the majority of people seeking online are on there for a very good reason. I have run into it so many times it's crazy. Introducing the wacko who is the topic of this thread. S/he is not alone. People have something to hide. If they were perfectly functional, sane, desirable individuals, what not, T/they would not have to hide behind a veil of secrecy. T/they would not have to be belittling others. T/they would not have to be discrediting others. They would not have to be pretending to be somebody T/they are not. And T/they CERTAINLY would not have to convince other's that T/they are something that T/they are not. See, normal peole do no do these things. Anyways, I am sorry that you have run into problems, but I hasten to suggest that up until now you have been fishing in the wrong pond. Do not expect to catch a pike in a mudpuddle. Certainly when you have hooked the wrong fish, let it go immediately. Do not go hanging on or you deserve everything that you have coming to you. These people are looking for someone to sink T/their claws into. Do not be one of them.

Lordandmaster -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 6:15:28 PM)
THIS IS THE FRIST TIME IVE EVER HEARD OF A DOM SAYING A SUB WASENT A SUB BECAUSE SHE WOULDNT SENT HIM HER PICK

uncollaredcandy -> RE: You're not a sub!!! (6/1/2005 9:09:54 PM)
Candy, just as a matter of curiousity did you have his picture? And was he asking for somethng sexy and naked, or just a basic G-rated photo? You are well withinn your rights to refuse. And if he sent you his without you asking, that was up to him. He did not have a pic, nor did he offer one, or have one on his profile. He didn't state G-rated or X-rated, but for me its not something I give out to strangers or something I keep in my profile, it just makes me uncomfortable. I am in a position of authority at work and it isn't someting I would want known by co workers or subordiantes. Anyway, I've gone there with that type of person before and I am not going back. Candy

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