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Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 1:19:04 AM   
Blindmage


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I'm really stumped. I wanna get something for my domme ( we're both new to all this, long time relationship and this has really become a huge part of our relationship). She's gotten me a pewter pendant w/ the bdsm emblem, I wear it 24/7.

I wanna get her something simmilar, but i dunno what's...appropreate. I mean to me a nice jewled chain bracelt seems more like something a sub would wear....she has tons on pendants and such, but she's not comfotable outing that side of her, so i need to find something that's fitting.

sorry, i've never really posted before, so I'll cut this before i ramble too much more.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 1:47:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are many Dom/mes that wear collars or round symbols of being linked.  Don't shy away solely because an item is traditionally submissive.  In my experience, there is a problem with jewelery and women.  If you don't buy the right thing, it won't get worn, so your money is wasted.  A day at a fancy spa or something of the sort might be better received than a bracelet that will keep the other bracelets warm in her jewelery box.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 1:54:09 AM   
nailgirl


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Status: offline 		my master is lookin to get me either a necklace or other. i dont want to wear a collar !!! well not outdoors anyway. so can any body advise us on a suitable item

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 1:54:54 AM   
Blindmage


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Status: offline 		i guess part of it is, that I have something physical..my pendent is a constant reminder...i want her to have something simmilar....if that makes any sense.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 2:10:14 AM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		The sad truth is that 90% of gifts don't hit the mark - it really is the thought that counts. She is much more likely to appreciate a series of small thoughtful gestures than one extravagent "thing" that she doesn't really like. Go through the bathroom and find out her favourite perfume; find out the brand of her favourite stockings; offer the traditional red rose when you meet - woman are really touched by the sight of a male carrying flowers; buy some lotion she likes and massage her feet; have the wine she likes ready to offer her at the end of a scene while you tidy up. Something that sticks in my mind is my beloved polishing my nails for me. He was man enough to do it to welcome me home after a long trip. It meant more than I can ever say. A cup of tea when she is tired will go down better than another bracelet to shove in a drawer.

I came across this on a Mistress's website. Food for thought...   http://www.mistressdominiquenz.com/Tributes2005.htm

Best of luck to you both. She'll be thrilled by the mere fact that you WANT to do something special for her.
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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 2:11:29 AM   
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quote:

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my master is lookin to get me either a necklace or other. i dont want to wear a collar !!! well not outdoors anyway. so can any body advise us on a suitable item


How about an ankle bracelet?
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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 2:39:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blindmage

i guess part of it is, that I have something physical..my pendent is a constant reminder...i want her to have something simmilar....if that makes any sense.


If that's what you want, then I'd suggest telling her that, and going together to choose it, so she gets something she'll actually wear. It might not sound so romantic, but if you wrote her a lovely note telling her your desire, it would still achieve the effect you seek.
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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 2:45:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was going to suggest an anklet, I've used that as a collar for a sub previously. It was a bit less "in your face" than a collar or necklace. Master and my sub side chose to have a bracelet made as my collar, on a superficial glance it looks a bit like an identity bracelet, but has v[A] set in gold amongst the silver surrounds. It's great, I can wear it everyday whatever the weather, whereas a collar or chunky necklace can get uncomfortable when it's really hot here.

To the OP - I think it really is something to discuss with your Domme. Say that you love the pendant She has given you, is there anything you could get Her that She would want to wear every day as a connection with you? Suggestions could include: a necklace/pendant, bracelet, watch, anklet, finger ring, toe ring, brooch ... it doesn't have to have anything as obvious as the bdsm emblem. Previously in Domme mode I wore a gold neck chain with 2 gold letters suspended from it, MJ. Very non-obtrusive! If curious vanilla people asked what the M stood for I simply said "My" as in "My J----" ie my name. Other options could include Her perfect handbag or purse ... something most women use daily too! But those are items She would definitely have to select Herself! On the other hand, the ideas you have already received for just doing special little things for Her were all good too, but I'm not sure they quite satisfy your need to give Her something really special!

Good luck and let Us know what you decide!
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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 2:50:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		i guess there's another problem to add to this. We're both students, and we've had to move apart for the summer, so we can work and such. So, we can only see each other once a month at the most. I'd love to be able to do the little things, we just can;t be together enough for the next few months....

Edit: thanks for all the tips, I was really nervous posting about this, you're all really nice, I really appreciate all the ideas and insight.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 3:28:11 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: nailgirl

my master is lookin to get me either a necklace or other. i dont want to wear a collar !!! well not outdoors anyway. so can any body advise us on a suitable item


I think you should tell him you'd like to have nice a Breitling, loose bracelet, gold watch{they have a very feminine model in their line that would work perfect for you} Then I think you should ask him to treat you to the latest provocative handbag, compliments of Fendi {found at your nearest Bloomingdales}.

I don't know you....but if you cook,clean and take care of him -- You prolly deserve it











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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 3:28:53 AM   
Sylverdawn


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Status: offline 		You want a physical reminder while you are apart I get it.. and it needs to be cost effective.. for me.. this would work.. I love notes.. hand written snail mail notes.. on lovely paper or arty cards.. I have a friend who drops me little notes in the mail when he sees something he thinks might catch my eye at an art gallery, a museum or even a tourist shop.. it costs under two dollars and brings a smile to me every time.. its like a long distance hug... If you sent her a card every week.. she would physically be reminded of you when you are apart.. its completely inconspicious and still intimate.. it takes effort to do it.. and shows thoughtfulness.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 3:38:13 AM   
LadyHeart


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blindmage

i guess there's another problem to add to this. We're both students, and we've had to move apart for the summer, so we can work and such. So, we can only see each other once a month at the most. I'd love to be able to do the little things, we just can;t be together enough for the next few months....

Edit: thanks for all the tips, I was really nervous posting about this, you're all really nice, I really appreciate all the ideas and insight.


The notes are a good idea. When my beloved and I were apart for a while, he posed for some sexy photos that I could keep with me. I helped take the snaps, but most cameras also have an auto function, so you could take them yourself. He still does this occasionally. My fav at the moment is one with him draped naked over the piano with a rose between his teeth. Drools. (I'm not talking dick pics here, more like saucy calendar pics, if you get the idea).
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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 4:00:45 AM   
YesMistressIrish


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Jewelry I have received as gifts grow more special over the years. Maybe you could ask her a question or two so that your purchase will be extra special. If you have a favorite memory with her/him find a piece that might have something related to the memory. Write out a little heart-felt note about the memory and give it to her include the receipt hidden in the box if you like, so she can return it for another selection if she likes.

Here's another idea: Take her out window shopping and when she says: "oh, I looove that' buy it on the spot, or come back later and purchase it. Been there, had that done, loved it!

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 4:38:21 AM   
Elorin


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Status: offline 		When my boy was unable to wear a collar I went to one of the tag engraving places at Wal-Mart (the ones where you get your pet tags engraved) and had a metal tag engraved with something significant to us. He put it on his keychain, and it didn't matter if it interfered with his style.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 4:54:41 AM   
MamaDomme


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Status: offline 		I've had many different gifts of jewelry from submissives in the past.  I always say that any kind of jewelry is a perfect gift for me!  Earrings, necklace, rings---- any of it!

My favorite gifts are ones from the heart however.  I am very metaphysical and really enjoy it when I receive a crystal or stone that has certain meanings-- and my gift giver knows what they mean.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 4:57:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		A nice ankle bracelet worn on the left ankle is the secret sign of a Domina--I think that would be very nice.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 5:01:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

A nice ankle bracelet worn on the left ankle is the secret sign of a Domina--I think that would be very nice.



Not true.

An ankle bracelet is a nod to the slave trade, and thus is a sign of submissiveness.

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 5:05:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Quite to the contrary, in the 40's and 50's when ankle bracelets were making their rebirth---Dominas wanted a secret way to be known, most ankle bracelets are worn on the right, Dominas started wearing them on the left---


edited for really bad spelling this morning

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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 5:15:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ohh well my boys got me a white gold locket.  I havent recieved it yet but I thought it was perfect for me :) its something I can wear every day without any questions from people and I can carry a little photo of him in it.  It took ages to decide what kind of thing would be suitable for me to wear as his mistress but that seems to do the job 
I am sure you will find something beautiful


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RE: Jewlery for a Domme? - 6/13/2007 5:59:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why not talk to your dominant about this issue?

Take her shopping, see what things she likes, note a few of them and then choose one.

That's what Tom did for my engagments ring. We went shopping at several stores. At each I found 1-2 I liked, he literally wrote them down then later went and bought one and proposed.

I felt great about the fact that he took the time to really consider what I wanted, get my opinions, and then balanced that with his income ability.

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