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SirMGD -> Dom Tricks? (6/13/2007 5:29:59 AM)
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I've always thought there should be such a thread here and perhaps there has been. I post this in the hope other Dom's will share some of their "trick's of the trade" for the edification and perusal of both doms and slave's. My curiosity and interest was invoked by a natural submissive who's become a dear friend, and who has sort of taken me under her wing, and I've learned she is very experienced and knowledgeable
I suppose this thread could become very graphic and much of her message is, so if such is annoying to you, this is your warning to depart and not read in advance. Her message, indeed entitled "Dom Tricks" read as follows:
"one of the things my first Dom did to me to bond me to him and get me ready for him... well, i had to masterbate every morning and every evening and then i had to send him an email and tell him about it. then after awhile, he added that i had to call and leave him a voicemail every day at lunch (while he was at the gym). it had to be a sexy one. you should have seen me scrambling to find a private place to do THAT. he did those things to make me think of him sexually and to associate cumming with HIM. it also had me thinking about him all day long. so i was thinking, kegels as you know are good for a woman to do and most women dont do near enough of them. tell her she has to do the kegels 3 times a day. 50 at breakfast, lunch and dinner. AND that with each kegel she has to say something (in her head) like, "i adore Master". kegels are not only GOOD for a woman, but you get to test how tight her pussy is and how well she can stroke you ... AND they also focus a woman discretely on her pussy in a much better way then stuffing it full of something. because she controls the moving of it. i used to do kegels whenever i was driving. i guess now that there is the possibility of sex, i have to start doing them again. nothing better then stroking a guy when he is cumming and watching his eyeballs roll.... he he he"
she went on to say;
"remember, dont add the things too much too fast. you dont want to interfere with her schedule too quickly or she will resent you... the kegels are easy to implement and dont interfere and get her to start focusing. the calls, masterbating, emails, etc... add in slowly over a longer period of time. my first Dom timed things so that i didnt even notice how focused i was on him. others have tried similar things with me but they were usually things that interfered with my life too much. OR it was too much too soon."
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"one last word of advice ... the one thing i have discovered that ruins a D/s relationship faster then anything is when YOU make a rule and then dont enforce it. that really makes you lose respect in a subs eyes. for instance, if you make a rule that she must always be naked in your home. she can enter the entryway and put things down but one foot past the entryway and she better be butt-ass naked..... and she forgets and runs to the bathroom after a long drive ... well .... what should you do? or you have come back from grocery shopping and she forgets and carries the groceries into the kitchen counter instead of putting them in the entryway, what should you do? you are tired and ....? on the other hand, she is sick and needs to wear a nightgown ... what should you do? in this case, you rescind the rule until she is better but you verbally tell her that. i have seen it, experienced it and heard about it from both ends. the guy is tired, or he wants to be lenient or whatever ... she loses respect. doesnt matter if it is in the beginning or later. he falls in love and he forgets to maintain the whole reason that she looks up to him. one of the things i am curious about is what is called "maintenance spankings". i belong to several domestic discipline groups. i wonder if the maintenance spanking isnt for the man too.. you know, to keep you reminded of your place along with reminding her?"
one of my personal tricks along these lines is something I call "pussy training". A rather difficult excercise where the slave is tied standing or kneeling, legs spread and forced to hold heavier and heavier dildo's..yes in her vagina. while i evilly try and stimulate her to wetness and failure, then light punishment after each..just enough to motivate her to more enthusiastic use of her muscles. Several and even more attempts can culminate in some rather intense arousal for us both, and if her "punishments" arent too severe, this becomes a rather intense form of play she will look forward to, and further, badly want to do well at. When she does, the Dom will reap some very sweet benefit. Being able to please him more will no doubt benefit her as well, ultimately.
Please, fellow DOMS and DOMMES, some of your secrets here would be much appreciated, since as creative and imaginative as I think I may be, I'm sure, were many of you to share, I'd find I had much to learn. Youre tricks neednt be in the same vein as mine, but hopefully will provide a more positive and happy experience for all who might try them....even if not, I for one, would love to hear them.
Thanks in advance,
MGD
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