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Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 8:10:27 PM   
slaveangel2007


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Status: offline 		Hello. My name is slaveangel2007(lexi). I am wondering a few things.  My Master request that I find another female to join us in a no strings attached threesome.  This is his fantasy.  He has had them before but never with me.  I am fairly new to the lifestyle change and commitment and am wondering, "What is the proper ettiquette for asking someone if they might like to join us??" Also, "Any suggestions as to how I might find or where I might find someone that would be open to a threesome??"  I would take someone who would either dominate or submit to me.  I really want to succeed in my quest to any help, suggestions, and imput would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you for reading my post and I hope everyone has a wonderful experience in whatever they are seeking or find. 

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 8:47:22 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Honestly your best bet for what you want is to just hire a professional.  You get to be specific, get all your needs met, and not worry how she really feels or what happens 10 minutes after it's done.  You say thanks, hand her the money, show her to the door and then do whatever you want.

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 8:49:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slaveangel2007

Hello. My name is slaveangel2007(lexi). I am wondering a few things.  My Master request that I find another female to join us in a no strings attached threesome.  This is his fantasy.  He has had them before but never with me.  I am fairly new to the lifestyle change and commitment and am wondering, "What is the proper ettiquette for asking someone if they might like to join us??"


Be very, very, very honest about the "no strings attached part". Do not give them any indications of otherwise. Be clear about what will and won't happen. Also be respectful and understanding when someone says "no".
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Also, "Any suggestions as to how I might find or where I might find someone that would be open to a threesome??"  I would take someone who would either dominate or submit to me.  I really want to succeed in my quest to any help, suggestions, and imput would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you for reading my post and I hope everyone has a wonderful experience in whatever they are seeking or find. 


Ask around? I dunno. In my experience they just happen.

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 9:13:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would prepare yourself for a long long search as yours is not an uncommon quest and those seeking what you offer are few

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 9:58:52 PM   
slaveangel2007


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your quick responses.  I will take all advice to heart and with careful consideration..I appreciate your help and advice..Thanks again..slaveangel(lexi)

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 11:04:19 PM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		A "no strings attached threesome" sounds more like swinging than BDSM to me, but perhaps you didn't give out all the information. If you don't want to go the way of hiring a pro (which would certainly be the quickest route to your goal) then I'd suggest putting up a profile on a swingers site, but it would need to be well written, as it seems to be every man's fantasy to have a threesome... (You could also ask your Master for some info on how it came about for him last time, if he's done it before)

As an aside, why is it that men make jokes about nagging women, but never see the inconsistency about wanting a threesome where there are two of them to nag him, snicker

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/13/2007 11:34:14 PM   
RealDom69


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Status: offline 		Well I recently had a threesome with my wife and a female friend of ours, the fantasy doesn't match the reality, it was very erotic but sex is much beter with my wife alone,  and i got nagged by two women...  stick to the pro, at least you can tell her to shut up...LOL

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 5:40:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are so many couples on this site looking to find their third...I would say, relax, get comfortable, because it will probably be a while. If you want a quick fix though, I would suggest a swinger's club. They usually have a dungeon room of sorts so you can always play there.

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 5:44:17 AM   
slaveangel2007


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Status: offline 		Great advice!  And Thank you all for your time..slaveangel

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 6:31:00 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		You could always make friends with a couple in the lifestyle that are interested in the same thing if your dominant could handle another man in the room watching you with a fellow sub

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 7:42:25 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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ORIGINAL: LadyHeart

A "no strings attached threesome" sounds more like swinging than BDSM to me, but perhaps you didn't give out all the information. If you don't want to go the way of hiring a pro (which would certainly be the quickest route to your goal) then I'd suggest putting up a profile on a swingers site, but it would need to be well written, as it seems to be every man's fantasy to have a threesome... (You could also ask your Master for some info on how it came about for him last time, if he's done it before)

I agree. Or go to a local swingers club or group meeting if you can find it.

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 8:01:53 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Simply ask them. If they're owned, ask their Dominant FIRST.

Some suggestions: Set up how the scenario will work...will it be the two women focused on the Man? Will it be the two women focused on each other for entertainment? Will you focus on each other one at a time? Some choreography before hand can help clarify expectations. Also, be clear about what will happen...intercourse, anal, BDSM, etc. etc. Negotiate it just like you would a scene.

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 1:24:40 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveangel2007

Hello. My name is slaveangel2007(lexi). I am wondering a few things.  My Master request that I find another female to join us in a no strings attached threesome.  This is his fantasy.  He has had them before but never with me.  I am fairly new to the lifestyle change and commitment and am wondering, "What is the proper ettiquette for asking someone if they might like to join us??" Also, "Any suggestions as to how I might find or where I might find someone that would be open to a threesome??"  I would take someone who would either dominate or submit to me.  I really want to succeed in my quest to any help, suggestions, and imput would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you for reading my post and I hope everyone has a wonderful experience in whatever they are seeking or find. 


You might want to try joining adult friend finder.  I've heard good things from a couple of friends about their ability to find that.  You can also try swingers parties and just make it clear that you are looking for a woman to join the both of you.

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/14/2007 7:17:35 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		What are his expectations for this scene? How will he handle it if you don't respond the way he wants you to?

What if he expects you to be wildly aroused by this and instead you are turned off?

How will the other woman expect to be treated? As a disposable warm body? What if she finds herself needing friendship and aftercare even though he stated ahead of time that this was no strings one time only? How do you expect to satisfy different people's needs when/if they wildly contradict each other?

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/15/2007 9:10:00 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		First off I am not being snarky here...but...if this is his fantasy, then why is he not searching instead?Who knows better than he, what he would find desireable.Unless of course he has told you, that in order for you to be happy with this 3 some, he decided to let you seek...~I will say no more, to busy biting my tongue!~..Tempting

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/16/2007 7:27:37 AM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		Not exactly sure what you mean by no strings attached.  Do you mean you fuck 'em once and then they're gone forever?  Do you mean you might be open to fucking them again some time if it works out but you aren't interested in something more long term?

We have had several women join us.  They see us.  They like how we talk about what we do and who we are together.  They are drawn to us.  They strike up a conversation.  We play. Or he finds them and pulls me into the mix and we play.   If we like them we do it again.  Kinda is working out to maybe every 4-6 months with each of them.  And each of them continues to look for something long term.

But fuck 'em once and never see them again?  Probably a harder find.  And in the end it is both of us involved in the search and conversations.    And I think the latter is pretty important.  I need to know his Cock is engaged.  And he needs to know my mind is engaged.  With that mix we are good to go.




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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/16/2007 8:38:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

First off I am not being snarky here...but...if this is his fantasy, then why is he not searching instead?Who knows better than he, what he would find desireable.Unless of course he has told you, that in order for you to be happy with this 3 some, he decided to let you seek...~I will say no more, to busy biting my tongue!~..Tempting


You know, that's what I was thinking while reading through this post. Now, I'm no expert on threesomes or anything, so I wasn't going to say anything, but it really felt like if a person is dominant, is he not capable of attracting that third person but must somehow cajole his submissive into doing the search for him? But I'll avoid saying more. It just activated my spidey senses and even set off my smoke detector (which I think may have had more to do with the cookies in the oven than this thread).


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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/16/2007 11:31:36 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

First off I am not being snarky here...but...if this is his fantasy, then why is he not searching instead?Who knows better than he, what he would find desireable.Unless of course he has told you, that in order for you to be happy with this 3 some, he decided to let you seek...~I will say no more, to busy biting my tongue!~..Tempting

in my opinion the man should do the hunting for the woman if he wants another....i mean good lord...he is the one who wants the extra woman...and he should be the one finding her...he found the 1st one did he not?...how fookin lazy...just my take on it....


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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/17/2007 4:47:54 PM   
frazzle40


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Status: offline 		Is this something you actually want?  
I was asked to do this a long time ago. im not bi and have no wish to go along that path.  I said that to please Him i would accept what He wanted, but He needed to do the finding.  It didnt happen, the ensuing discussions sent up so many red flags, i said goodbye. Turns out that we both wanted different things.       
Comes back to communication, i was new and naive at the time, thought i had to agree to almost anything.    Common sense kicked in, and even though things ended i learnt a lot and have no regrets.  
  

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RE: Has anyone ever...And how?? - 6/18/2007 8:18:30 PM   
annare


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Status: offline 		Aside from my own feelings regarding threesomes (you didn't ask so i won't give them). ;) Something that i haven't seen mentioned is think safety first. your Master's fantasy isn't worth His health or yours. Make sure you know the person  you are asking to join Y/your lives. Even if its just for a night, make sure you have a clean bill of health from them... living the rest of your life with an STD for several hours of kinky sex is never worth it.

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