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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 6:42:03 PM

littlesarbonn

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Sometimes, not being able to be there all the time serves as a positive factor as it keeps interactions a lot fresher than if someone is around constantly. Other times, it doesn't work out because you can't be around all of the time.

It's been a problem for me, a lot, because I chose to go back to school and pursued way too much school (I should have quit with the last degree). But I've vowed to finish this next year, which will give me my last degree, and then I will avoid putting such obstacles in the way. Sure, I'll have to have a job, but I don't see that as the problem that some people may feel it can be. If I ever achieve a deep enough D/s relationship, my paycheck is turned over to her, and she decides how the income is best spent, based on her perspective of importance.

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 6:49:36 PM

viperess

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

I haaaaaaaaaaave a question eh you have a job....but your Master chooses how to make the relationship work...
would you change your job for your dominant?
My viewpoint is that if the dominant doesn't approve of my job then it's the dominant that goes, if the D can't be in a relationship with who and all of what I am then they can simply find someone else.

Is this anything different to vanilla relationships today? I don't think so. A relationship is a work and if you want to stay in that relationship you make it work .

Greetings,
If Master disapproved of my job abnd wished me to change it then i would in a heartbeat. Master would have a reason for His decission and whatever it was i would abide by without question...but to me that is part of my decision to give total control to Him.
Respectfully,

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 7:07:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: jthaddeus

Hello,

I was wondering how many subs also work fulltime jobs, and if this causes complications with your Master and your service. If so, how do you work around it, and how have your Masters chosen to make this work?

Thank you very much.:)

-- j

yes i work a full time job. we both wish i could stay home and be only at his personal service. we are working towards that goal. but for now my paycheck is necessary (i turn the entire amount over to him). working causes complications in that i want to be able to do everything (all the cooking, cleaning, etc...) and at times i feel like a bad sub that i don't. but Master is quite good at making me realize that its ok that i don't. when i try too hard it pushes me to exhaustion and then i can't do very much of anything. there are somethings that Master has done to make things run more smoothly... the biggest is that he pays for a cleaning service to come in every other week to do the heavy cleaning. that way i don't spend every weekend doing domestic service, instead i can service him in other ways. mostly i do all the planning, prepping and cooking. however he has recently started cooking one evening a week. this gives me time to get some things done during the week and frees up time for the weekend when i do try to serve his every wish and whim.

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 7:16:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

I haaaaaaaaaaave a question eh you have a job....but your Master chooses how to make the relationship work...
would you change your job for your dominant?

My dom has given the control of my career to me. However, he knows and accepts that I expect him to advice me on what he thinks is the best decisions for us. When I'm out of school at the end of the year I will need and want his guidance as to what will be best for me as I enter the work force after so many years being out of it.

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 9:55:56 PM

denika

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I'm a full time shift worker and so is Rob, at times it can be a bit of a dance just to see each other aside from one person pulling into the driveway and the other out.

The coffee maker and the dishes are my duty unless I'm dead.,dying or called out to an emergency. If he is on days and I'm on nights I make sure I have his supper ready and in the fridge for him to nuke when he gets home, or if it the opposite I will put his lunch togther the night before so it's in the fridge before he leaves. We both tend to eat out a lot so there are not to many meals cooked at home and the rest of the house chores fall to whom ever is home.

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 11:21:21 PM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jthaddeus

Hello,

I was wondering how many subs also work fulltime jobs, and if this causes complications with your Master and your service. If so, how do you work around it, and how have your Masters chosen to make this work?

Thank you very much.:)

-- j

Performing well at my job is part of my service to my Master. He expects me to perform exceptionally and be promoted. He wants to look at me with pride, knowing I direct others all day yet fall to the floor to him. It makes him very happy.

He also sent me back to school and excepts straight A's (although he accepted a B in Statistics last semester due to a crisis I experienced).

I do tasks for him at night, in the mornings, on weekends, and during the day at work as I can. I can't say work or school interfere with service because he prioritizes my service to him, so what I am doing is his ultimate decision. There was a time he put my assignments to him on hold for a week so I could catch up in my Statistics class, and I was feeling really upset that I was neglecting my duties to him and he was going without, until a good friend reminded me I was doing exactly as I should be doing...meaning I was doing what he had told me to do.

The question about career decisions came up in this thread - He has made my career decisions, after carefully weighing all options for me. I make no changes in my career, school, living arrangement, etc., without his direction.

I can't fail him or complicate things if I'm doing what he's telling me to do. :)

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 11:27:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

I haaaaaaaaaaave a question eh you have a job....but your Master chooses how to make the relationship work...
would you change your job for your dominant?

Yes, I would and have just in the recent weeks. I was in school, but it was decided that right now wasn't a good time for it. I got a job offer that paid decent, plus allowed me to be home evenings with him. I know why he made the choice and we talked it over a lot. I do believe in the end it would have been up to me, but I followed his thoughts and reasoning, so in the end it was agreed on by both of us.

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/14/2007 11:36:06 PM

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Master and I both work, and there are younglings at home as well. My work means, unless I'm away at a convention or event, I'm home. His work means he splits time between home and the office.

We both work odd hours and Master knows he can 'lose' me for days at a time whilst I'm caught up in a project.

We balance it, as best we can, but bills must be paid and he is the one who encouraged me to take this path with work. I'm not sure I could give it up if he asked me to. It's as much a part of me now as being submissive to him is. And shutting that down would cause problems. But then again he's unlikely to ever ask. He loves what I do, and how it's helped me settle into accepting every part of who I am.

There are times we're both two busy to be anything more than ships in the night, but we make up for that as best as we can. Cuddle time, scenes, moments stolen together. It can work, but it takes 'work' to do it.

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RE: schedule and service? - 6/15/2007 3:23:29 AM

Rayne58

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: jthaddeus

Hello,

I was wondering how many subs also work fulltime jobs, and if this causes complications with your Master and your service. If so, how do you work around it, and how have your Masters chosen to make this work?

Thank you very much.:)

-- j

we agreed to make this slave's service to Master her full-time job. it was a definite salary-reduction, but the Perks and Fringe benefits ROCK.

As Master's full time carer the Australian government pays me a pension to enable me to stay home and care for Him. His health can vary so much from day to day that a job, even a part time one, would be impossible.

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