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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

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ORIGINAL: FrankAr



You have a NEW Master, a new life.  So in my mind it should have started once you accepted the new collar.  I might be old fashioned, but just hear me out.  The only part of the previous life where I would have you involved is with the young one, that is the bottom line.  The young one is the love of the life, full stop.  NOTHING else is there to warrant anything.  If it does, then you have to look hard and deep at where your love and heart lies.

He had the car in for service, then let Him catch a taxi there.  You have to think in the back of your mind, you and He have finished, finalised it, so let His life stop there and have you walk forward from there.  If you continue seeing Him because of the young un, then I think you are actually looking at the relationship in more ways than one.  You and He have finished so then finalise it.

You and He have a young un, well then pick the young un up with your NEW owner all the time, re-inforcing the thought that the relationship between you and the previous Master has now finished.  If you do not, then it does send wrong messages.  It is like if you keep an old collar.  I would have no concern, about what the old Master has informed you.  I would have you send it back and finalise the relationship.  Keeping the collar would only re-inforce the mental dominance over you by the previous Master.

Be well.

Frank Ar.

I totally disagree. Her new owner hasn't committed to her child. He could walk in a minute. Luckily her ex is committed to their child. What matters here is the child, not assuaging some new man's insecure ego.

The best thing for a child of a broken home is for the parents to get along, to work together for the best of the child. That includes helping each other out when needed.

Being a mother comes before being a submissive, always.

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ORIGINAL: FrankAr

[  The only part of the previous life where I would have you involved is
Frank Ar.

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

so are you stating you'd make her abandon all friendships, from before, you cut off all ties with family. with her job, with any one who's in her life, simply cause you came along?

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ORIGINAL: FrankAr

[  The only part of the previous life where I would have you involved is
Frank Ar.

A thought..

If the female came back home complaining about her job daily, I would tell her to quit.  The female then lets her other friends on the net that I told her to leave, or quit, her job.  I wonder what the uproar would be?

If the female has a friend that is a negative influence in her life.  I would see it, because I am outside the square, and tell her not to see the other female from now on.  She again tells her friends that she can't see the other friend.  Another uproar?

I make decisions that would affect us both, for the best interests in OUR relationship.  I would only have a relationship with a slave anyways.  If it affects her love to serve anyone, and that includes me, I would stop that negativity straight away.  No ifs or buts.  If it makes me look like an arsehole to the friends on the net, or outside of our relationship, then I do not care.  I would only care about her to the deepest core.  I would only want to bring out the best that she can be, whether it is with me or not, for I do not know the future.  With family, well no one in their right mind can stop anyone from seeing their family.  Unless it is about 15,000 miles away, then you can't just get into a car, or a plane, and see them.  We would plan and then take in a holiday, about 2-3 times a year.  I would put myself out so that she can see her family, if she wishes, no ifs or buts.

Be well.

Frank Ar.



< Message edited by FrankAr -- 6/17/2007 6:51:49 AM >

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I am just me, simple ol me.

Even the softest whisper can be heard in the loudest group....Frank H.

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ORIGINAL: FrankAr

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ORIGINAL: FrankAr

A thought..

If the female came back home complaining about her job daily, I would tell her to quit.  The female then lets her other friends on the net that I told her to leave, or quit, her job.  I wonder what the uproar would be?

If the female has a friend that is a negative influence in her life.  I would see it, because I am outside the square, and tell her not to see the other female from now on.  She again tells her friends that she can't see the other friend.  Another uproar?

I make decisions that would affect us both, for the best interests in OUR relationship. 
Frank Ar.

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Most of the time if it looks like BS, smells like BS, you probably should not t taste it to see if, in fact, it is BS.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Well wait until tomorrow, ask him exactly why he believes you cheated.  Listen to him.  And then you calmly explain what actually happened.  Then he can accept it or not.

If he accepts it, you can begin from square one on him building sincere trust in you and the relationship and more mature relationship skills.

If he doesn't, then you must move on.

I find it a bad enough sign that he'd go off so quickly and react so rashly and that alone would make me hesitate to continue with him, but I understand you are in the situation and feel devoted to him.

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Greetings Celeste,

Of course the mothering comes first, that is the final thing in a real Master's life, the child does come first and foremost.  Until they are 18, then bloody kick them out....just chuckles away in a good way...ok.....LOL.

Every person reads the Op their way, and so your view is correct in the way that you see it.  I just saw it a different way.  We both do not know, really, if the new Master has only taken the female and not any young uns, have we.  We both can only go on what she has written in the Op and go from there.  Collaring a female comes with EVERYTHING, and that does mean everything.  A Master with the head on straight and the true mentality would know how to adapt HIS life to have that person with His life, simple.

Be well.

Frank Ar.

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ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl
I have to agree with Albatross however my gutt is telling me to ask you if this could possibly be a mind fuc&

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ORIGINAL: sugarkiss

My Master thinks I cheated on him with my ex yesterday, but I so did not. I don't know why he is acting like this, he never has before. Now he says we will still talk, but he doesn't own me anymore. I need him. Any advice on what to do?

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ORIGINAL: sugarkiss

My Master thinks I cheated on him with my ex yesterday, but I so did not. I don't know why he is acting like this, he never has before. Now he says we will still talk, but he doesn't own me anymore. I need him. Any advice on what to do?

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ORIGINAL: sugarkiss

My Master thinks I cheated on him with my ex yesterday, but I so did not. I don't know why he is acting like this, he never has before. Now he says we will still talk, but he doesn't own me anymore. I need him. Any advice on what to do?