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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Sigh, if only they didn't buy into the myth that suddenly labeling themselves a sub/slave changes how relationships are formed or how their own judgement works.

Once they buy into that, the rest comes following after.  THAT is why it takes them so long to get their acts together. 

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

The more I am out here the more I believe that  the only thing I share in common with possibly the majority of people on this site is that we have access to a computer.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Sigh, if only they didn't buy into the myth that suddenly labeling themselves a sub/slave changes how relationships are formed or how their own judgement works.

Once they buy into that, the rest comes following after.  THAT is why it takes them so long to get their acts together. 

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Sigh, if only they didn't buy into the myth that suddenly labeling themselves a sub/slave changes how relationships are formed or how their own judgement works.

Once they buy into that, the rest comes following after.  THAT is why it takes them so long to get their acts together. 

Post after post...Thread after thread....What happened to using your noodle?  Did anyone ever date or have personal interactions with others before they invented CM?

The more I am out here the more I believe that  the only thing I share in common with possibly the majority of people on this site is that we have access to a computer.

Virtually everything you need to make this type of relationship successful is the same functions that made your past relationships successful.

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Sigh, if only they didn't buy into the myth that suddenly labeling themselves a sub/slave changes how relationships are formed or how their own judgement works.

Once they buy into that, the rest comes following after.  THAT is why it takes them so long to get their acts together. 

Post after post...Thread after thread....What happened to using your noodle?  Did anyone ever date or have personal interactions with others before they invented CM?

The more I am out here the more I believe that  the only thing I share in common with possibly the majority of people on this site is that we have access to a computer.

Virtually everything you need to make this type of relationship successful is the same functions that made your past relationships successful.

What's this?  Domiguy you actually made a serious post here, Holy Crap!  Oh wait, this was serious moment in a somewhat serious thread.  Damn and I thought you were the biggest BDSM online scene player of 'em all.. my image of you being Human and not Domiguy the Dom just totally trashed my day.....

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ORIGINAL: darkmyth

So many slaves wish to be objectified, de-humanized and tortured. These things become tedious if there is no greater depth to the relationship. While our manner of interacting may at times be curt or to objectify, this is done with an understanding that ultimately we desire our slaves to be intelligent and conscious of themselves as individuals. Being a slave should not necessitate being inferior, only giving absolute control to another. Slaves have little value if they do not value themselves and bring their masters only as much honor as their level of personal excellence. How fulfilling is it to dominate something pitiful? It seems exceedingly difficult to find slaves of quality. Does anyone else share this frustration?

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

What's this?  Domiguy you actually made a serious post here, Holy Crap!  Oh wait, this was serious moment in a somewhat serious thread.  Damn and I thought you were the biggest BDSM online scene player of 'em all.. my image of you being Human and not Domiguy the Dom just totally trashed my day.....

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
The moment you demean another human being, you demean yourself.

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ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

{raises hand}

If a top-type wants a door mat or an object, then they can go and buy one. Me, I am soo much better than an object or a door-mat, I am interactive, I keep a top on their toes. I don't look at myself as inferior to ANYONE; I am everyone's equal, even the Goreans who look down on anyone who is NOT Gorean or who doesn't play by 'their' rules or act as they think I should.

I have had partners who wished to dehuminize and humuliate, I had a few 'words' for them, and then ended the relationship there. I don't want to fear my partner or to put them on a pedistal where they become unreachable or untouchable; I want them close to me and to be real as in interactive.

Welcome to the boards darkmyth.

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ORIGINAL: justheather

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ORIGINAL: darkmyth

So many slaves wish to be objectified, de-humanized and tortured. These things become tedious if there is no greater depth to the relationship. While our manner of interacting may at times be curt or to objectify, this is done with an understanding that ultimately we desire our slaves to be intelligent and conscious of themselves as individuals. Being a slave should not necessitate being inferior, only giving absolute control to another. Slaves have little value if they do not value themselves and bring their masters only as much honor as their level of personal excellence. How fulfilling is it to dominate something pitiful? It seems exceedingly difficult to find slaves of quality. Does anyone else share this frustration?

No. I've never found it difficult to find wonderful partners.

Maybe if you were to shed the vapid cliches of red and black, leather and lace, faux celtic romance novel crapola and (cue the smoke machine) darkness, you'd find yourself among people with more depth and breadth of imagination--people who wouldn't tire you so.

Or maybe you just tire easily. I dunno.

Leaving behind the silly-at-best and too often pernicious "honor" ethic for something less cartoonish, something deeper and more robust, could have its beneficial effects, too, within and without the parts of your life in which you prefer to appear in costume, or uniform, or whatever that is.

Anyway, these things sure work for me.

Just one more "pov", yo.

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ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix



If W/we had wanted a doormat, we would buy one from Wal-Mart.
 
1st girl Phoenix

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

where the fuck you been, dooooooooooooooooooooooooooooode? glad to see you.

Ron

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objectified, de-humanized and tortured. These things become tedious if there is no greater depth to the relationship.

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ORIGINAL: darkmyth

So many slaves wish to be objectified, de-humanized and tortured. These things become tedious if there is no greater depth to the relationship. While our manner of interacting may at times be curt or to objectify, this is done with an understanding that ultimately we desire our slaves to be intelligent and conscious of themselves as individuals. Being a slave should not necessitate being inferior, only giving absolute control to another. Slaves have little value if they do not value themselves and bring their masters only as much honor as their level of personal excellence. How fulfilling is it to dominate something pitiful? It seems exceedingly difficult to find slaves of quality. Does anyone else share this frustration?