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Level -> RE: Crossing a line..... (6/16/2007 7:20:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty
I am a flirt. I enjoy flirting, its kinda part of my job at work and its part of my personality, not to mention its part of what I do moonlighting {modeling.. you flirt with people in emails}, all very harmless.
MJ knows I flirt. He accepts it and He understands it, because at the end of the day or when I am NOT around others I am ALL about Him, and even when I am emailing others, I am STILL thinking about Him. If my flirting bothered Him, I know He would tell me. I don't cross that 'line' or disrespect MJ in what I do, I keep things very basic and very tame when I flirt with everyone, excluding MJ of course.
My problem, earlier this week a buddy of mine gave me a massage, with MJ's permission, He laid down a few 'ground rules' {no inapporprate touching, no 'fondeling,' keep my 'sensative places' safe - places on my back that make me drop to my knees, etc; normal stuff} and the guy who gave me the massage ended up crossing a few lines, I called MJ and told Him about it and He told me He was/is NOT mad at me, and the He doesn't want me alone with this person until further notice. Easy. Done.
My buddy is NOT in lifestyle, but, MJ and I ARE. I explained our 'relationship dynamic' {Mj and I don't keep secrets, we talk, He makes the 'final' decision, I defer to Him whenever possible or neccessary, how I basically 'belong' to MJ, we have a VERY trusting relationship, etc} as best as I could to my friend BEFORE I saw him, as well as MJ's rules; he said he understood and respected that; like I said, he didn't.
Enter the NEW problem, my buddy keeps hitting on me. I don't mean harmless flirting, I mean remarks that really bother me, to the point that I told him I would NOT talk to him until AFTER MJ an I talk, since he insists on crossing the line. My buddy's latest IM, "be honest i turn u on and u want me and it scares u". That was the most tame in the last few hours. I just kept ignorning him. The ones before that were along the lines of cyber-sex activities {yuck}, I just kept closing the screen and went invisible to him, and no response.
How have others dealt with this sorta stuff in the past as far as 'friends' crossing those lines? To the Top-Types, did you blame your bottom-type for those inapproprate advances and remarks that were made? What was the course of action taken? How did it work out?
MJ has NOT said any of what happened was my fault, after Monday night we have not talked about it; I won't bring it up, but, since the newest 'stuff' I will talk to Him tonight. I don't want to lose a friend, but, it looks like I may have too. My relationship with MJ is more important than a friendship with someone who crosses those lines.
rose, I'd say that your "buddy" really isn't one. You don't disrespect your friends, certainly not intentionally, and repeatedly.
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