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ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx

So its like this.  A dom contacted me here we chatted.  He asked me to do a few things on cam.  I declined because Im not comfortable showing nawty bits on cam to anyone.  This morning he tells me things arent gonna work out, because he doesnt think I can follow directions. 

I am of the opinion that since he is NOT my Dom, I can say no as much as I please and it shouldnt matter.  Im not collared and I dont have to answer to anyone but myself.  Apparently this fruitcake thinks otherwise.

Why do some Doms feel that because they are labelled as such, that all subs/slaves must fall to their lil knees and what not. 

Or am I just a cranky bitch? lmao...

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

They do it because it often works.  Lots of guys will try and shame a newbie into doing what they want- and it often works.  The sub wants so hard to impress and show what a good girl they are that they completely let go of any boundary they have and dance along.

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

he is a HNG thats why.

and you hwurt his fweelings.

you do realise that makes you a very bad submissive, and now we must take away your subID card and ring.

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ORIGINAL: mons

greetings

i am so glad you did not do as he said , you may have been plaster all over the net good girl yes they will test you , and make you do things crazy, your strong and smart

mons :)

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ORIGINAL: soultoshare

kyttyn, I've run into the same thing.....and it still amazes me that these "Doms" think they can dictate to me in the first conversation.  One on here started chatting innocently enough, and then began telling me how much he "knew" that i wanted his cock, and how much i couldn't wait to serve him.  Of course, he asked for a pic, and I don't have one....I take lousy ones!....then the inevitable questions about having a cam.  By this time, I knew better than to tell him if I did or not.....cuz I knew what would be forthcoming.  I don't respond well to men telling me that i want them, and will serve them without even knowing the first thing about them.  Yes, I've been called names, but hey...as you stated, it's their loss.  Being submissve does NOT mean that I am a whore, and I will pick and choose the one that I submit to.  There ARE some real gentlemen out there, ya just gotta weed thru the rest of them to find them.  {sigh} 

Never lose sight of the fact that you are still a person, and that you will have your own personal morals and standards.  In the beginning, I found myself compromising my own to impress, finally woke up about that.  I couldn't even tell anyone why I felt it was necessary to do it......temporary insanity?

just my .02

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

They do it because it often works.  Lots of guys will try and shame a newbie into doing what they want- and it often works.  The sub wants so hard to impress and show what a good girl they are that they completely let go of any boundary they have and dance along.

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ORIGINAL: MK007

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

They do it because it often works.  Lots of guys will try and shame a newbie into doing what they want- and it often works.  The sub wants so hard to impress and show what a good girl they are that they completely let go of any boundary they have and dance along.

It's not just BDSM.  There's a huge number of guys out there who think that owning a penis and a computer makes them irresistible to all females, it's just that the women they keep meeting aren't proper women.
Are Respect & Self-Respect , really in that short supply , in Our Community/Lifestyle today  ? 

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

If you aren't owned, you don't have to obey anybody.

Perhaps the better question: Do you want to be owned by someone who feels entitled to things that are not his?