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Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 7:23:01 PM

slaveluci

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I've been with Master nearly 14 months now and, in that time, I have experienced many of the BDSM "activities" (for lack of a better word) that I had always fantasized about. I have been surprised at my reaction to some of them. There are ones I just always "knew" that I would love that I did not and some things I pretty much dreaded or feared trying that I loved. I was curious about other subs/slaves experience with this. So, here are my questions:
1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
For me, it is hot wax. I love big quantities poured out at once but the little incessant drips are real torture for me. I always thought that would be so hot and delicious but I hate it

. Hands down, it's the worst thing I've experienced yet....lol.....

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
For me, it is caning. Before I'd experienced it, I was pretty much in terror due to all the pictures and video I'd seen. It just seemed like something I would hate and not be able to bear. Boy was I wrong

! I loved it from the first experience. I was really shocked at how much so. Breath play is another thing I always thought would be terrifying. Actually, it still is but what a rush and I also enjoyed it from the first experience.

Hope these aren't questions that are too personal....lol....but I have just been really surprised at my misconceptions about what I thought I would love or hate and then I ended up having a totally opposite reaction. Just wondering if anyone else cares to share.....Thanks......slave luci

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 8:17:14 PM

nearnyccouple

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hiya luci
love the post, because it really got me thinking..:) to be honest, im pretty adventurous and am open to trying lots of different things, and over the course of our relationship we have tried lots of things.
the one thing that made me a bit uncomfy was breath play...i wasnt sure that id like it and now i know that i dont.
what i thought in my younger days that id never consider was being intimate with another woman. i suppose it was partially my upbringing, fairly religious, culture etc. but as ive matured ive realized that i was kind of curious to feel a womans touch and discovered that i like it...i really enjoy the intimacy and now consider myself bi.....it was a complete changearound.....
cassie

ps i loveeeeeeeeeeeee hot wax...if you and your Master wanna get rid of it, i volunteer to take it lol

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 8:26:44 PM

slaveluci

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hiya luci
love the post, because it really got me thinking..:)

Good, I was beginning to worry....36 hits and no replies

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thought in my younger days that id never consider was being intimate with another woman. i suppose it was partially my upbringing, fairly religious, culture etc. but as ive matured ive realized that i was kind of curious to feel a womans touch and discovered that i like it...i really enjoy the intimacy and now consider myself bi.....it was a complete changearound.....

LOL...now that's something I always knew I would love and I have for many years

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ps i loveeeeeeeeeeeee hot wax.if you and your Master wanna get rid of it, i volunteer to take it lol

Well cassie, I'd personally love to box up all the wax and candles and send it your way but I'm afraid He'd have to differ so I'd better not. Thanks for the kind offer though and for your reply......luci

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 8:27:42 PM

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1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
i can not really answer this question since i tend to like just about anything he throws at me, as of right now though i don't have anything that i truely hate.

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
This would have to be the hot wax play. Wax play was my hard limit, but he tried it anyways and now i love it. And yes i'd have to agree with you on the cane as well, i thought that i would hate it but like you i love it and will take it anyday. If only he would let me

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 8:38:34 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn
1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
i can not really answer this question since i tend to like just about anything he throws at me, as of right now though i don't have anything that i truely hate

Good for you! I wish I could say the same but honestly I can't

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2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
This would have to be the hot wax play. Wax play was my hard limit, but he tried it anyways and now i love it. And yes i'd have to agree with you on the cane as well, i thought that i would hate it but like you i love it and will take it anyday. If only he would let me

You girls and wax play....lol....it's funny that the one thing I specifically mentioned hating, you and cassie both mention loving. That's exactly why I wanted to make this post. It's so interesting to me to see the differences in people's likes and dislikes. And as for wishing He'd let me take the cane everyday, I'm with ya on that one....well, or at least every other day

......luci

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 11:33:31 PM

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1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?

There isn't anything in particular that I've gone from thinking I'd love it to absolutely hating it, but there are some things we've had to modify because I can't handle it. For example, I thought I'd love wax play. However, we learned my skin is extremely sensitive and, even with the wax held a full 4 feet above me, I burn to the point of blisters. We can still play with wax, but the Kaptin has to first "paint" a thin coat of wax on me, before I can tolerate drops without burning.

I also thought I would "love" floggers. Now, I think they're rather boring.

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2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?

Not hate, exactly, but I was terrified of things over my face and/or head. These days, however, I love the anonymity of hoods and gas masks.

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/16/2007 11:56:21 PM

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When I first wrote out my "limits list" as an inexperienced sub, needles were right up there. Now I love them!
Caning was not on the list - now, the more experience I have of it the more I dislike it. I'm almost wishing I'd put it on my limits list, chortle. I think it's hard for a newbie to distinguish between limits and preferences. We grow and change, and those things can too.
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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 2:24:16 AM

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I thought i'd love bondage - detailed rope dresses and what not - and i actually dislike them because i find the time it takes boring and it does nothing for me...

as far as dislikes...i had limits on cutting and knife play and needles...well now i absolutely love cutting and knife play and am beginning to enjoy needles!!

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 2:52:52 AM

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I had no desire to try rope bondage. I had always thought it seemed dull and once bound then what? Well after experiencing it I love it! . Soon as the rope begins to wrap around me my eyes glaze over and I'm gone. unable to move anything but finger tips and yet I'd never felt so safe. One thing I always thought I would love was full body waxing. Yes it was very nice felt wonderful, but all in all I found that the time involved cleaning up that mess wasn't worth it. I do love waxing just not the whole body

Anything I thought Id enjoy I did. Anything I thought I'd hate I don't lol

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 3:28:48 AM

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1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
Total sensory deprivation. I thought I'd like it in a similar way that I enjoy being bound; it almost forces me into a state of calm, as there's nothing I can do about it anyway. But, I hate having my ears covered. Being rendered immobile, blind, and mute is fine with me, but I want to hear her voice, her footsteps, etc. I found it rather disconcerting to be completely out of touch, dead to the world around me. Would I do it again? Yes, and I wouldn't complain; it won't kill me, and if she likes it and it's not specifically a hard limit, so be it. It's one of the few things I really hate, but it's not a limit.

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
Well, there are a few things...as my eyesight is my most natural sense, I just knew I'd hate being without it. I also hated the thought of being gagged, even though I don't speak much, and I try my best to remain silent during play. I discovered otherwise, as being blindfolded forced me to rely upon a sense I hadn't thought as much of until then...sound. I gained a newfound respect for all the various sounds...stretching leather, the sharp crack of a whip, the sounds of bare feet padding around me on the carpet, her voice...it was absolutely amazing how much I'd been missing. The gagging isn't something I hate anymore, but I don't love it either...it makes little difference to me either way now.

There are a couple other things, but I'm a little shy about them, publicly at least. *smiles* Suffice to say, as always, I'm learning.

-Einzelgänger

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 5:00:57 AM

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I thought I'd love blindfolds and turns out that I hate them.
I thought I'd hate watersports and it turns out that it is one of my biggest turn ons.

Thought I'd love being gagged and I do.
Knew I'd love shibari. Yum Yum Yum.

Cages have always been extremely exciting to me and I haven't experienced them yet. I would hesitate to try them just in case I don't like them. It would make me sad to lose that fantasy.

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 5:34:19 AM

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Since bondage is my kink i thought i would love plastic wrap but the feel of the stuff on my skin actually caused a panic attack that i can't explain. It wasn't the bondage or restrictive quality since i love that it was the actual tactile sensation of the plastic. No more plastic wrap for me!

i though watersports sounded just plain icky but frankly it turns out to be one of the most intimate things i have ever experienced.

i'm pretty adventurous regarding "activities" and welcome the opportunity to experience most anything because how else does one know what they will or will not enjoy until they try?

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 5:53:12 AM

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I came into the relationship with my Lord with very few preconceived notions of what I thought I might like. Instead I had a list of things that I wanted to try. I knew that he was an intense sadist and he kept trying to scare me off by letting me know that he was going to use me however he wanted to in very painful ways. He didn't scare me off and our first night together left me bloody and marked for months and the only "toys" were his hands and teeth.

One thing that I love is abrasion play, especially to the point where blood is drawn. Clothespins are another thing that I had a high desire to try. He thought I was a little nuts because most people find them incredibly painful, but I just love them and zippers. They make me laugh and it is such an incredible sensation. There are several other things that I enjoy, and most of them are hands on, up close types of play... pressure points, gripping, biting, pinching, scratching.

Flogging is something that I have a hard time with lately and it has started to not make me feel all that good about myself afterwards. I am still tryinig to work through the negative thoughts from our last play because of being flogged. The act has just touched on something mentally that needs to be worked through.

Truthfully, that is why I dislike other things. It isn't so much the physical act that makes me dislike it but the emotional and mental response that I dislike. Once I am able to get past the emotional and mental response to it, I no longer hate/dislike something. I may not enjoy it, but there aren't any negative thoughts about it. Since he is a sadist, that really does it for him.

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 6:47:06 AM

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Cages have always been extremely exciting to me and I haven't experienced them yet. I would hesitate to try them just in case I don't like them. It would make me sad to lose that fantasy.

i had long fantasized about being caged as well. Turns out that once we actually did it (i spent about eight hours coverting the bottom half of a closet into a cage), we ran into the "what now?" problem. i was bummed. Couldn't sleep worth a darn, woke up sore and grumpy

i was intimidated by needles... now they're one of the things we use most.

i'd say that whipping (corporal punishment of any type, really) was my biggest surprise in going from fantasy to reality... i can't handle anywhere NEAR as much as i'd like to/thought i could, and it was hard to get over that.

Although it's not exactly a regular scene activity, i was terrified of branding (cautery pen), but discovered that it was actually pretty enjoyable.

For the most part, though, reality is usually at least as good as fantasy

By the way, for those who are not enjoying wax play, the type of candles used can make a tremendous difference. If you go to the ethnic foods section of the grocery store, look for the colored candles in glass jars with pictures of saints on them. The candles are soft if you press your finger into them, and you do NOT want to leave them lying down in the car on a warm day... they melt and burn at a very low temperature. i'd recommend trying those before giving up altogether.

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 9:22:49 AM

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I thought i'd love the cage too but i really don't like it at all.

On the other hand i was dreading the breast vice but find it a massive turn on!!

Then theres always the things you learn to love in my case enema. Just the thought was bad enough the reality was even worse but 3 years later it's one of my favourites.

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 9:25:29 AM

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paddles, can i mention paddles? did i mention paddles? the really heavy wooden ones.. nonononono.. they just light my world up in all the wrong grids. i shudder now just thinking about them suckers.

really anymore general impact play period, i am basically just heh, about it. the first time a flogger bit my skin, i floated for days, i think. now i can barely keep up a good 20 minute beatin. it is sad. it makes me kinda weepy.

now on the lovey dovey end.. i have yet to find anything that truly scares, frightens, makes go, oh hell no. but my favorite has to be metal, chains, and anything sharp or pokey. just a glorious thing. yes yes..

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 1:01:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?

1. Gags and being bound tightly, thought i would love both but they actually can make me panic. i thought i would be able to tolerate breath play, the thought of it really did nothing for me, but i absolutely hate it and it just sets me off in a real bad way due to a past experience i had years ago. i always had cage fantasies but was sorely disappointed when i tried it.

2. i thought i would hate ws and was very surprised that i enjoyed it. i think it's a very intimate act and would not engage in it lightly again.

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 1:30:12 PM

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1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
Medical play. Absolutely freaked me out the first time he laid a speculum thingy on the bed, to the point of hyperventilating and having a panic attack. Brought back some bad memories from my surgical procedures. Also electrical play. Only took one zap for that to go on the hard limits list.

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
Breath play...I was scared of it, but now I think it's soooo hot!

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 1:35:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
For me, it is hot wax. I love big quantities poured out at once but the little incessant drips are real torture for me. I always thought that would be so hot and delicious but I hate it. Hands down, it's the worst thing I've experienced yet....lol.....

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
For me, it is caning. Before I'd experienced it, I was pretty much in terror due to all the pictures and video I'd seen. It just seemed like something I would hate and not be able to bear. Boy was I wrong! I loved it from the first experience. I was really shocked at how much so. Breath play is another thing I always thought would be terrifying. Actually, it still is but what a rush and I also enjoyed it from the first experience.

Good thread!

1. I thought at first that I was into d/s. It took a short time to realize that wasn't the case.

2. I never really got the idea behind rubber or latex fetishes. Found it actually kind of silly. But one day I realized that I found the pics in a catalog of a latex shop were turning me on more than really good porn. It was really weird discovering that part and even more weird admitting it to others. But it was a pleasant surprise!

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RE: Hmmm, I thought I'd love it, but.......... - 6/17/2007 2:03:57 PM

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1. What did you think you would love but ended up either not liking at all or intensely hating?
Wax: Bores me to tears when most people do it.
Electrical: Fucks with my brain, literally. Messes with the serotonin levels and my Effexor dosage.

2. What did you think you would hate but ended up either liking it or really loving it?
Needles: Was once, in another life it seems, a hard limit. Now...yummy.
Fire: The edgier the better

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