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Stephann -> RE: Is it unrealistic to have a lifetime commitment in D/s? maybe poly can solve the problem? (6/17/2007 9:27:04 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Renal
Its more like a game even if its in a D/s relationship, people who are into D/s crave for stimulation(physically and mentally) more than anything, obviously a life time commitment relaitonship cant offer this kind of excitement, so its not uncommon to see D/s relationships fail in a couple of years or months while the fresh stimulation is no more existing.
Its sad to me, as Im a sub, and I do want a life time commitment in D/s, which seems very unrealistic.
maybe being poly can kind of solve the problem, when being in a bigger family, Doms always feel a lot better, and subs wont be replaced too quickly.
Im not sure if its the fact, Im new here, and I havent had a Dom. so feel free to oppose to me... hehe...
Sure, there are people looking for the 'sugar high.' As suggested, that's no different from the real world. Poly doesn't solve anything here, because the focus ceases to be on improving the quality of interaction with your partners, and instead aims to achieve more and greater sugar highs. This also happens in vanilla relationships (the serial daters, the womanizers, etc.) The sort of poly you describe would actually add to the problem, since the relationships would inherently be superficial, flawed, and ultimately doomed.
Think of it this way; I love rollercoasters. I wouldn't want to marry one (god knows I dated a few though.) I can certainly find a relationship with a woman who shares my enthusiasm for 'rollarcoasters', but still possesses the qualities that make her worth sharing time and love with, like riding the rollarcoasters together.
Stephan
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