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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/19/2007 8:02:39 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I still got that game, my 11 year old daughter plays it whenever she visits. an old apple 2 e still plugging.

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/19/2007 8:28:47 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Stephann,

I do understand the problem when it comes to predominately dominant men who like to bottom on occasion.  First, if I know the person and respect them, I will top them.  I don't really have a problem with that.  But then, that's also not really submission, it's bottoming.  I still would be a lot more prone to play on occasion with these people if they could be honest about their desires but I do understand the reasonings behind it in this case.

If, however, a person put dominant in their profile but they are really wanting to submit, that's where I have the bigger issue.  The men I come across like that have a dominant profile not because they truly want to be dominant but because they want a woman, any woman, and feel the numbers work better in their favor if they pose as a dom.  In the meantime, they troll random fem dom profiles to see if they can find someone to act out their "true selves".  If it sticks, wonderful.  If not, they still have their domly profile to fall back on.

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/19/2007 8:31:21 AM   
MsKatHouston


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quote:

In all fairness, the Doms who have contacted Me by email have been, in many cases, pleasant to have conversations with.  I don't seem to get as many wankers as a lot of the Dommes.  I really don't know what the secret to that is, but I'm not complaining either.


I agree.  For me, the emails I receive from everyone are pretty decent.  Certainly I get the wankers and idiots.  But when I look at the numbers, whether compatible or not, the vast majority of email I get from submissive males and females and dominant males and females are polite, well written and respectful.  Many I correspond with as friends after it is established we will not be a good match.

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/19/2007 9:05:35 AM   
stockingluvr54


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Status: offline 		I can see why you're getting pounded with mail from all the boys (sub/dom/switch..and wankers,wannabe's,fakes,etc.). You're pics are gorgeous! Choice of undergarments is exquisite!

Maybe you might try to pick and choose a sub that might meet your criteria from the endless list of available subbies out there and initiate contact? You're the Domme...take the lead? Adjust you're profile with something like "not looking at this time".....that may tone it down abit? Just a thought.....

I don't respond to profiles anymore because the silent routine pisses me off too much...and the results are the same whether I respond to a profile or not. There's probably alot more of us in the shadows than you think and if you seek them out you may have more luck finding your sub? Again....just a thought

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/19/2007 9:11:23 AM   
Stephann


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Again, I completely agree.  In reading gretchen's mail from time to time, I could usually get a feel if a guy seemed sincere or if he was just looking for a piece, especially when it's 'lets meet 2nite' when he lived in Denver and she was in Chile.

Go figure.

Stephan


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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/19/2007 9:22:33 AM   
MrRoberts48381


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Status: offline 		It's you !!!    and the funny part is  ... you like it ..  Kittin tould me "them boy's be anything to get in my panties Daddy"

collarme 101  you put up sexy sub pic's  and your kinda hawt watch out for  all the fools !


"yes iam a simple man "   But i get her done!!!!

Here kitty kitty .....  

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/21/2007 10:31:11 AM   
sub7boy


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

It's you.  It's a rule of nature that if you post a sepia picture of a toned woman wearing garters, men will respond dick-first.


Since I wrote my 1st response, I have taken a look at the OP's profile (and picture), and I have to say I agree with Lordandmaster now. I have no interest in a woman of 43, but that picture damn nearly changed my mind.

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/21/2007 10:44:37 AM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Don't feel bad 80% of the message I get on the other side from male doms.


Diane

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/21/2007 2:26:07 PM   
stockingluvr54


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ORIGINAL: sub7boy

I have no interest in a woman of 43, but that picture damn nearly changed my mind.


LMAO!   In a few years you'll realize that women 18-30 are pretty....women 31-40 are beautiful..... and mature women 41+ are flat out gorgeous! No shit....you'll see in time. That 43 yr old could have me standing on my head stacking BB's with just one look....lol

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/21/2007 4:01:58 PM   
Ayanaev717


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I don't interact with any "Doms" who want to suddenly be submissive.  If they are submissive they wouldn't try to be someone else. I don't play games and I don't like my time wasted. Any so call Doms who contact me get immediately deleted. Why waste my valuable time when I often have to deal with fake subs? Life is too short.

I say part of it is you because you read their e-mails and communicate with them. Just don't go there. I keep saying this is "collarme in da hood." So act ghetto and delete them.

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/28/2007 5:45:27 PM   
goodbadboyman


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ORIGINAL: tallicedvnowhip

I'm just curious ....

Have you received many responses from male doms?  Do you know why?
I don't want to appear dense, but this practice leaves me dizzy with bewilderment...  



I'm in the it's you camp. Here's why.


The first paragraph of your profile:

(bolding of type added by me)

Tall Iced Vanilla
No Whip!

Seeking extreme romance...
The type no longer depicted in
contemporary cinema.
You're a true romantic at heart,
a throwback to the film noir era.

Obsessed with the idea of privately worshiping a silver screen goddess.
Tall, slender, classically attired and immaculately groomed.
Gleaming, glamorous perfection



The last paragrah of your journal if one bothered to read it all"


"The Classic Film Noir Analogy


>>>> One thing most of the men seem to have in common is this mixture of masculinity with a dose of vulnerability. It's that hidden soft spot that sometimes to get them into all that trouble which leads to their eventual downfall, particularly when it involves a woman, or the infamous femme fatale.


>>>>>Conversely, it's that same masculinity/vulnerability which often makes even the most hardened dames melt and fall for their own prey.


>>>>>There is always an aura of sadness with these guys. An unfulfilled passion or desire that maybe they aren't even aware of themselves yet. This unrequited longing often leads them down the path to personal destruction.


>>>>>These men have that capacity to move us deeply either because we identify with their plight,
or want to"make it better" for them, or both.


add to that; "A picture is worth a thousand words" and as mentioned previously you have many which by themselves "read" as enticing, but not partiularly dominant.

In animal kingdom terms, you appear to many a male dominant who's actually read your profile as prey, especially to one that enjoys the challange and the chase.

In fine art terms you're like a Jasper John's painting, with an area labeled RED with BLUE paint.

No need to be bewildered. I think we all get back a reflection of ourselves to a great exent.















< Message edited by goodbadboyman -- 6/28/2007 5:50:08 PM >

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/28/2007 5:55:27 PM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		Sorry, but I think it's the pic as well. They say, "One picture is worth a thousand words." There is nothing about your picture that says "Dominant" to me. If I didn't read your profile (and most people don't seem to do that!) I would have said "submissive."  I had the same problem. I posted a picture that was giving mixed messages. The moment I changed it, the "idiot factor" messages fell off dramatically.
Keep the pic, because it's gorgeous, but hide it on the second page for the more discerning to find.
:))
LH

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RE: Is it me or is it them? - 6/28/2007 5:59:30 PM   
MisPandora


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Status: offline 		Some guys just don't care.  A female is a female is a female.  Others, it's about the conquest.  Regardless, don't let it dissuade you.  Delete them and keep rolling!

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