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MistressMelissa -> RE: A Serious Question (6/20/2007 8:44:33 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sub7boy
Would anyone here like to be so bold as to share any aspect of their life experience, which they feel has helped to shape them as a female domme?
Military, at a young age I learned what it meant to lead others. That there was a difference between being a leader and being someone's "bud". Leadership is about inspiring others, not about being likable. I'd rather be respected than liked.
Structure, ritual and pride in a job well done. The understanding that there is a right and a wrong way to do things. That there are sometimes very good reasons why we do things in a specific way. Whether I'm working in a nuclear power plant, conventional power plant, managing a kitchen or operating my semi, when I make a mistake someone will get sick, hurt or killed. I can not turn that off when I go home. The structure is part of me and permeates all of my life. Thus the people I surround myself with must also appreciate structure, order and self discipline. That's something to consider when your your jewel's are resting in someones palm as you twist in your restraints.
I spent a few years in therapy coupled with a good dose of self exploration. I know who and what I am. I understand that if I compromise who I am, I am not happy. I've accepted that I would rather live alone that compromise. That gives me an edge. People serve me because they want too. I've built my reality, whether others chose to share in that reality is up to them. They come to me because I am the rock and not the shifting sand bar. Little one's seek structure, control and ritual. They like a steady and predicable environment where they understand what is expected of them. Because I understand myself, I provide that.
It's life's experiences that make us who we are. From the major to the minor, it all contributes to mold and shape us into who and what we are.
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